Nanny Question

new2011mommy · October 2013

I am going to fire my nanny because things are just not working out. She barely plays with ds. She has been working for me for 2 months and is part time 3 days a week for 5 hours a day. I work from home and just feel awkward about how she will react after I tell her. I was going to tell her tomorrow. Should I tell her this is her last week or should I give her 2 weeks notice? Would you tell her at the beginning of the day or end of the day? I am going to be really nice about it and say with my DH's long hours, it is too much for the kids to have us both working so I am quitting. I am sure I am over thinking this, but I hate confrontation.

heatherbrownm · October 2013

I think with how you plan on doing it (telling her you are quitting), any way you do it is fine. She can't really take offense that you are quitting your job.

Good luck!

[Deleted User] · October 2013

I've been worried about this so I have no advice. We're in the process of interviewing and I don't even know how to tell the people that I don't choose.

I'd just tell her "Hey, I'm so glad you've been here when I needed you but... I wanted to give you a heads up that I'm quitting my job and this is your 2 weeks, insert sad face." If she asks why? Tell her she's a thundercunt.

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new2011mommy · October 2013

@asbromie, you are right. I just need to do it! As for telling the ones you interview no, how have you been speaking with them? I found the people I interviewed on care.com so aside for the interview, all our interactions were through the message board on care.com. I just sent messages to the ones I did not want to hire saying I found someone. Good luck with your search!

rondosa · October 2013

I'd suggest perhaps telling her end of the day on a Friday, that's the way the big stinky corporations do it. Gives them the weekend to settle down and not be upset.

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Caitable25 · October 2013

mermomo5 said:
I'd say let her go at the end of the week and if you can afford to give her a small severance,might make less awkward..

I concur 100%. Don't kill yourself to give her severance but doing so might alleviate the whole situation - or her reaction at least. Good luck!!!!

new2011mommy · October 2013

I'd say let her go at the end of the week and if you can afford to give her a small severance,might make less awkward..

That is a good idea. I just don't want to be uncomfortable in my own house for a week.

opheliainwaders · October 2013

mermomo5 said:
I'd say let her go at the end of the week and if you can afford to give her a small severance,might make less awkward..

Agreed, and I think the decent thing to do is either give notice or give severance (in this case, I'd give severance).

EagleWife · October 2013

If you aren't comfortable with how she's doing her job, do you have to give her notice at all? (I seriously am asking - I have no experience with that type of thing.)

kdasr said:
I was a full-time nanny in college. I came to the house for an interview and they hired me on the spot. Little did I know, the girl I was replacing was there. The mom just went into the room where the kids were and came back with the current nanny. She goes "things aren't working out, we found a replacement nanny for the boys" and cut her a check. So freaking awkward.

@kdasr, that's wild. And super awkward. Did you stay with the family long?

Britnpat · October 2013

I don't have a firing suggestion, good luck, that would make me uneasy too. But as far as finding a replacement I have to agree with using care.com. They have a prepared "no thank you" message so it's not weird.

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