T&P & advice please

CRey13 · October 2013

Just found out my older sister had a miscarriage. It was going to be her and her husband's first kid. If you could keep them in your prayers that would be awesome.

Also, advice. We aren't super close and I'm not really sure how to be supportive. What I should say or do, etc. My mom and younger sis are headed over this afternoon. I'm leaving work early to pick up D but I'm not sure if I should go to or if that will to overwhelming. What say you?

TIA

ccam · October 2013

I'm so sorry to hear about your sister.

Honestly, just ask her or put the offer out there. Explain to her that you want to be there for her but completely understand if she wants to be left alone. Tell her that if she wants you to come over, you'll be there in a heartbeat. Or if she wants to just talk, tell her you'll be there to listen. It's a really touchy situation and people all react differently. I, personally, wanted to just be left alone with DH.

jessalynn521 · October 2013

I am sorry for her loss. Honestly the best thing you can say is that you are sorry for her loss, and offer yourself if and when she is ready. Something along the lines of "I am so sorry this has happened. I am here for anything you may need." As others have said she may want space. Sending something thoughtful can't go wrong either.