I have had two miscarriages in two years. The first time around, I found out I was pregnant and less than 36 hours later I miscarried.That was in October 2011. This time I found out I was pregnant at the end of August.
At the end of September, I had been suffering from severe migraines for about three weeks. My primary physician was out of town and his stand-in would not see me. They sent me off to Urgent Care, which in turn sent me off to the ER.
After 7 hours of waiting because a severe migraine was not a priority on the list (there were only two people ahead of me when I arrived), they finally did an ultrasound and found that the baby had stopped developing 2-3 weeks earlier. I was devastated. I was supposed to be 9 weeks along, each week a step closer to being out of the danger zone of the first trimester. Not that people don't miscarry in their 2nd trimester.
I have no children. For years I was told by doctors that it would be almost impossible for me to get pregnant without treatment. Luckily, something changed in my body that allowed me to get pregnant these two times.
Through my pain and suffering, I find myself getting angry at situations I see around me:
1. It bothers me to see teenage girls walking around flaunting their baby bellies like it's nothing. And to then find out that they weren't even using protection is ridiculous.
2. If you have children, especially more than one, then why are you so devastated that you aren't having luck with a third one? Why can't you be grateful that you have any at all?
3. Why is it that I come accross women cheating on their husbands multiple times with different partners that continue to get pregnant and have healthy children? Why do they get to have that? Here I am only hoping for ONE child. Being faithful to my partner. Working hard to be able to provide for a child.
I know that life isn't fair and that there are worse things I could be going through. I am just tired of coming accross people who are either ungrateful, don't care, or are horrible examples of human beings.
Please feel free to rant. I need to hear what others feel about these situations.
Thank you.
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Missed M/C natural cycle 10/2013
DX PCOS 3/2014
2 cycles Clomid 50 mg + Ovidrel + TI
1 cycle Clomid 50 mg + TI - no response stair-stepped to Clomid 75 mg + Ovidrel + TI
1 cycle Clomid 50 mg + Ovidrel + IUI
1 cycle Letrozole 7.5 mg + 150 mg Follistim + Ovidrel + TI
1 cycle Letrozole 7.5 mg + 150 mg Folistim + Ovidrel + IUI
1 cycle Letrozole 7.5 mg + 150 mg Follistim - no response, repeated Letrozole 7.5 mg + 150 mg Follistim + Ovidrel + IUI = success! 12/2014
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IUI #2 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
IUI #3 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
Playing the compare/contrast game (aka "Pain Olympics") can be pretty dangerous and can ultimately not help you in your journey of healing. Grief is a beast, and anger is a very normal feeling but it can and will EAT you up if you let it.
As someone who lost my daughter Marianne at 22 weeks barely 2 months ago, believe me when I say that it was (and still is sometimes) upsetting to see pregnant women, especially very young women (the day I left the hospital after we lost Marianne, I witnessed a pregnant teen smoking). However, I have no idea who lies behind that pregnant belly, and am working REALLY hard to fight against that anger and bitterness, and simply surround myself with those who love me and take care of me.
A loss is devastating, no matter if you already have children or no. Last year, I witnessed a friend go through a second trimester loss and subsequent D&C. She is a stay at home mom with two daughters, and she still had to take care of them while suffering. It was really difficult. It's ALL difficult.
We're all suffering. It might be different, but it is no more or less painful. There's no other way to put it.
It's all about perspective.
You are a strong beautiful woman who went through something awful, as we all have, and you can conquer these feelings. It's counterproductive, fight back!
My intention isn't to insult you, I'm just trying to help.
Take care of yourself (((Hugs)))
Re: Frenchteachermama
When I talked about people who had other children and complained about their luck with a third, I wasn't referring to those who had miscarriages. A loss is a loss, no matter what.
I just wanted to clarify that I was talking about those who had two children or more and just were not getting pregnant at all.
I hope you understand what I mean.
Re: meladoriestar
Again, I was not talking about someone's loss. I was talking about getting pregnant in the first place.
I have no great advice - sorry. I just lost my first baby and am a bit lost at the moment myself. I just wanted to say that I wish you all the best. We all will get through this in our own way. I hope you can find some peace. *hugs*
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