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Does the mom guilt get to you too??
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I'm pretty sure "mom guilt" is the worst curse ever!!!
I'm so blessed to have an awesome work schedule that allows for me to be at home one day a week (not working) to spend with my youngest child one on one. BUT because of the way our daycare cost is structured, it's the same price to put him in 4 vs 5 days so we always have that 5th day reserved "just in case' (periodically I will need to put in that 5th day of work--not often though).
So I did something bad to my neck/back earlier this week and finally going to the chiropractor today. I have a list of a million other errands I need to run as well. I feel HORRIBLE GUILT thinking about putting him in daycare today so I can get these things completed in a quick fashion. Because of when their lunch/nap is, I wouldn't be able to pick him up until later in the afternoon (I don't want to go pick him up in the middle of their nap and wake the others).
What's weird is when I was working more hours, I didn't feel as much guilt taking a vacation day and doing this--but because it's my "non working day" I feel like I shouldn't put him in daycare. And again, I rarely do. I just know the pain I'm in and how zipping in/out of several locations today would be much easier. Although HE loves to run errands with me (I'm very lucky). And I LOOOOOVVVEEEE to spend time with him, making this decision so much tougher.
Do you feel a ton of mommy guilt about silly stuff like this???
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Re: Does the mom guilt get to you too??
I agree with PP. With DS1, I felt the need to spend every moment outside of work with him. I am a much better mom when I take a day or some time for myself. But I do know how you feel.
I like to think of it like this- your LO is better off in a stable environment, with age appropriate activities, exploring and playing instead of being carted from errand to errand with you.
Take the time. Get the errands over quickly. Then you can actually spend QUALITY time with your little one.
Quality over quantity!
And really- running errands WITH Ds can be frustrating and it's not really quality time. I'd rather go out alone, run my errands quickly, then come home and spend quality time w/ DS.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Sometimes you have to do what you have to do. All of my off days I spent with DS also. Now that he's in kindergarten, I get my off days all to myself (until school pick-up time).
I say, don't feel guilty, and go handle what needs to be done.
Days without baby AND work are few and far between and I sometimes feel guilty about being excited about those days. The day after Thanksgiving is one this year...daycare is open and work is closed. I'll probably drop him off late and pick him up early, but I'll enjoy shopping by myself and going to a movie or something (DH has to work).
I will admit that it was different when she was an infant. I felt very guilty when I wanted to quit PT and return to work FT. But then I got over it. Now that she's older, my guilt threshold over daycare is much higher.
I have working mom guilt about lots of things, but taking time for myself is not one of them. I think it is so important to take time to focus on things for yourself - be that recovery from an injury/being sick, errands that need to get done, or just something fun for yourself. I think doing this helps me be a a more focused and more energized mom because I'm not with him stressing about other things I need to get done or wishing I had a break. So - my advice - take the time it sounds like you really need! :-)