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How do you work with your ex?

rachaelT28rachaelT28 member
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My husband has cheated on me, screamed at me, thrown me out of my home and made my life horrible for four months. The thing is we have two boys together and one on the way. We are a long way from being out of each others lives. Those of you that work with your ex, how do you do it? I want to be able to be civil when it comes to our children, but its hard when someone blames you for absolutely everything. Please help, moms who make this work how do you do it?
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Re: How do you work with your ex?

  • newmompeanutnewmompeanut member
    My ex and I had a very different split so It's hard for me to give advice on how to work together.

    I guess my best advice is to work together for the boys.  Maybe during the next couple weeks and months, when the break up is still fresh and emotional, only converse about the children?  Only contact each other about the boys.  Before you contact him I would have a list of 2-3 things you'd like to cover.  Try to stay as calm as possible and not react even if he's not calm. 

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  • tracy41tracy41 member
    It is really hard the first year. At least it was for me. I was going to weekly counseling just to stay reasonably okay. And it's probably even harder right now while you're already a hormonal mess from pregnancy. I strongly recommend counseling for both of you if possible (it's for good coparenting skills) and/or yourself for your sanity. Just keep your head up, try your best, don't let HIS crazy change who you are, and know...deep inside faith know...that time will make it better.

    But you absolutely have to disengage from him for your own sake because he sounds like he's having some major life crisis issues and trying to drag you down with him. Life will be different now, but it will still be good.
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  • ksmall2012ksmall2012 member
    Going through a similar situation right now.  There are two things that are getting me through it.  My faith and my son.  I keep it civil for him.  He didn't ask for this, and I refuse to fight in front of him.  It's not worth it to be nasty to each other, because you are stuck dealing with them for the rest of your life.
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