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Opposite shifts

bennyandthejets13bennyandthejets13 member
edited October 2013 in Working Moms
Hello ladies. I was wondering if any of you ladies work a opposite shifts from you SO's? DH just accepted a new position at a new company but is going to work 2nd shift 4pm-1230am. I will work 6am-230pm so we will have enough time to say hi and bye but that's about it. Our DS is 5 months so he will be watching him during that day while I'm at work and of course I will be taking over once he leaves. I'm kind of nervous of how this is going to work. I know it'll be hard all by myself and I'm kind of stressing of not seeing DH during the week and having to care for DS by myself at night (which is when he's the Fussiest). I'm also kind of jealous he gets the happier easier baby during the day while I have fussy overtired baby at night, but I am thankful due to this arrangement we don't have to pay for daycare. Any tips or suggestions on how to manage?

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  • MammaBear81MammaBear81 member
    DH and I work opposite shifts.  DH gets home at 7:30am, I leave at 7:45, he goes to sleep at 3pm and I get home at 6pm (we have a nanny who watches the kids from 3-6).  I do dinner, bath (check homework) and bed by myself each night, and DH gets up at 10pm, leaving for work at 10:30. It's really great for us because we save a TON on childcare, we both get to spend a lot of time with the kids, DH can do dr appointments so I don't have to take time off of work (so we can save PTO for vacations) and now that we have school age kids we can make sure that at least one of us makes it to the concerts and other school functions.  I will say that it's hard sometimes, and it' really nice to parent as a "team" (we only get to do this on the weekends when I'm home during the day)  but overall it's the best decision for our family.

    When they are all in school DH will be able to sleep then, and we can spend evenings together again.
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  • Samiantha101Samiantha101 member
    edited October 2013
    Yes, I work Sunday through Wed 12 pm until 11 pm. My husband works 9-5 or 8-5 depending on the day of the week. We have one day off together, and then half the day Sunday. We just started this schedule. My dd only is in daycare for 18 hours a week, so it's a huge plus. I have 3 days off, and I love that. It works for us so far.
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  • pantsarellapantsarella member
    Yep, DH works 8:30pm-8:30am and I leave at 7:20am and get home at 5pm. Like PP said, he needs to sleep so our DD goes to day care 7:45am to 3:30pm when DH picks her up and has her until I get home. Then I have her until bed and get up with her at night. Luckily, he only works 3 nights in a row (when he's not working overtime), then has off for 3 nights, so I get to STTN on those nights he has off. If he has a lot of OT scheduled, though, I get screwed. I just had DD for 9 nights in a row and almost lost my mind because she's in the middle of a growth spurt/wonder week/sleep regression.  
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  • bennyandthejets13bennyandthejets13 member
    @kdc2007 he'd work until 1230am be home by 1am and right now luckily DS STTN from 8pm-8am so he'd have to go to bed right when he gets home. My MIL will also take DS Mondays and Tuesdays so he can get some extra rest or if he wants to work OT. I know right now he'll be getting less sleep than me but he wants to do the shift and save the money we would be using for daycare.
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  • KristenS09KristenS09 member
    DH and I work opposite shifts. I work 6:30-5pm 4 days a week and he works 7pm-730am 4 days a week. Dd still goes to a sitter so he can sleep. It really stinks only seeing each other on weekends but we have no other choice. Dd and I have our own routine at night so things are pretty 'easy' usually.
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  • kristenndkristennd member
    edited October 2013
    We did this originally. And we each got three hours of guaranteed sleep per night. It was rough. But you're already past the newborn stage.

    Doing everything alone all the time was hard on us both. Also never seeing each other.

    Over the last 2.5 years, DH has gradually cut back his hours as we decided our sanity was worth more than money. (His job is very fulfilling but minimum wage, so we weren't giving up as much as some would. I'm the breadwinner with a standard M-F, 8-5.) He no longer has any overnights. It's down to several 5pm-11pm shifts (I take a short lunch and come home at 4:30) and all day Saturday.

    We don't have any local family or part-time daycare/sitter options, so that reduces our flexibility.
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  • bree2020bree2020 member
    My hubby is on call 24/7 and travels when called for anywhere from 1-2 days. I am so used to him being gone that he gets on my nerves when he's home a lot :-) I am blessed- my aunt watched my DD when she was a baby and we juggle her school schedule between the two of us with the aid of before and after school care. It will be the same with baby #2 due to arrive in June.
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