Boo - DH is now sleeping in other room :(

Jen4033 · October 2013

Apparently my bed hogging & snoring has driven my DH away from me for the evenings. He's decided to sleep in the other room for a while, until we get the bed in there dismantled to move downstairs anyway. That room is still to be turned into the nursery. I don't even sleep with a million pillows like some ladies do! I have one for my head & one body pillow & that is it. He never had to leave when I was PG with DS.

Part of me likes the more room for me AND he's not innocent of snoring either, so there's that. But the other part of me just feels weird without him there. I told him I will only allow it (tounge in cheek obviously) if he promises to say good night to me every night, good morning every morning, and good bye every morning before he leaves for work. He agreed.

Anyone else driven their SO away yet with their sleeping habits these days? Let out your "boo hoo" feelings here!

PreDempsey · October 2013

H has spent a few nights on the couch because of my snoring, it's not too lonely because the dog is willing to take his spot. What's worked for us is trying to let him fall asleep before me. It's tough because I'm ready for bed at like 8..

cpm1223 · October 2013

If we had another bedroom, I'm sure H would be sleeping there because of my snoring! For now I'm just using nose strips to help my breathing at night and laying on my side which helps with the snoring...so I'm trying to make it less annoying for H because he has no choice but to sleep in the bed with me!

shortstuff15 · October 2013

My husband has spent the last week on the bed downstairs. He starts out in our bed every night, but he's such a light sleeper that the minute I start to breathe heavy he wakes up. This happened with our youngest too. I just enjoy the full bed and am thankful that he can get a good sleep downstairs.

Carmlvsjose · October 2013

One could only dream of this!! All I get at night is a honk honk on the boobs and trying to get some booty action! All I want to do is punch him and remind him that my throat is on FIRE with acid, my pelvis feels like it's splitting in two, and I can't even turn over without feeling like a beached whale!! Ugh!! Rant over....

pennstated912 · October 2013

Not during pregnancy yet, but when I was switching AED meds, I had to get a sleep-deprived EEG done (only allowed 4 hours of sleep) and he was snoring SO LOUD (I swear he was shaking the bed) so I moved to the next room.

When I got up to go into the next room, he woke up and asked me where I was going. He sounded crushed when I said the spare bedroom. It was the first and only time in our entire relationship one of us slept in a separate room while we both were home. I felt so guilty about it.

apickett925 · October 2013

Yeah, I'm the one who usually leaves for the couch. It's just so much more comfortable (hip fits perfectly in crack between cushions) and I don't have to wake up until he's getting ready to head out the door, lol. I usually have 1 or 2 of the dogs follow me downstairs too, so I'm not alone.

bethughknee · October 2013

I've been the one to move but yes.

When I'm up at night with racing/obsessive thoughts I seem to toss & turn and sigh a lot and it keeps DH awake. We're both light sleepers. So I've moved to other guest rooms and watched TV until like an hour before my alarm goes off and then magically I'm tired!

I've had a good sleep week this week and I noticed this morning that DH has been sleeping really close to me. He said he's trying to save up for when I hit another bad sleep cycle and leave again.
:-<

Rebis58 · October 2013

Yes unfortunately H has been in the spare room for a few weeks now

He goes to bed a couple of hours after me which is the main issue, because by the time he gets to bed I'm heavily sleeping, snoring, and usually taking up the whole bed. When I stay up a little later and he comes to bed with me and can fall asleep before me he's usually fine.

I feel similar to you, I'm torn between kind of enjoying the extra space and feeling sad when I wake up and he's in the other bedroom, even though I know it's temporary.

Dishylo · October 2013

I love DH but sometimes I wish he'd go sleep in the other room haha! He snores like the devil and isn't the most solid sleeper. I'm constantly getting an arm in the face and then 10 minutes later, an arm wrapped around me. He talks and mumbles in his sleep.

I'm such a light sleeper at the moment that if I'm not getting woken up to pee, I'm getting woken up by him!

csandroo · October 2013

Awh that's sad

but I'm sure it is for the best so you both can catch up on some much needed sleep!! Get some snuggles in before bedtime to make up for it!!

We don't have a spare bed .. we do have a couch that I fall asleep pretty easily on so I suppose I could move there (SO would never be able to sleep on the couch!) but I don't forsee us needing to because my SO is super weird and LIKES being woken up in the night ... obviously he enjoys getting sleep too but he likes to be aware of whats going on (if i'm not feeling well, if I can't sleep etc.) ... I've been waking up quite often in the middle of the night from pregnancy nightmares just screaming "no no no!" or just breathing really really fast and he likes to be there to say "breathe - it's okay - it was a dream" I've been having pregsomnia and he prefers if I stay in bed with him and watch Netflix on my phone til I fall back asleep rather than get up and watch TV in the other room. We only have a full size bed though so it is definitely getting tight with my snoogle pillow and extra 40 lbs

Jen4033 · October 2013

Dishylo said:

I love DH but sometimes I wish he'd go sleep in the other room haha! He snores like the devil and isn't the most solid sleeper. I'm constantly getting an arm in the face and then 10 minutes later, an arm wrapped around me. He talks and mumbles in his sleep.

I'm such a light sleeper at the moment that if I'm not getting woken up to pee, I'm getting woken up by him!

@Dishylo - the part of me enjoying the extra space is also the part of me who was getting an elbow in the face lately! I'm sure if you ask DH, it would be my own fault for hogging the bed. LOL.

MrsGraham06 · October 2013

I'm the one who sleeps elsewhere. I probably sleep on the couch downstairs 3 nights a week, but try to sleep in our bed when I can. Too many nights in a row, though, and my hips are killing me! (and sometimes my bump). I can sleep upright on the couch, or on my side, so I have more options.

bethughknee · October 2013

Dishylo said:

I love DH but sometimes I wish he'd go sleep in the other room haha! He snores like the devil and isn't the most solid sleeper. I'm constantly getting an arm in the face and then 10 minutes later, an arm wrapped around me. He talks and mumbles in his sleep.

I'm such a light sleeper at the moment that if I'm not getting woken up to pee, I'm getting woken up by him!

Oh my word, the mumbling. DH rambles nonsense half the time and the other half he is convinced we are both covered in "bugs." It's freaky. He will claim they are falling from the ceiling fan, that they are under the covers, that he saw them on me. (All while he's asleep of course.) I don't know what his deal is with being asleep and seeing "bugs."

HappyDoc · October 2013

I tend to go to bed earlier than DH, and he normally falls asleep on the couch. I used to go downstairs and wake him up to come to bed, now I leave him there. I honestly sleep so much better without him there, considering that I already have to share the bed with 2 80-pound dogs!

suupercute · October 2013

I fall asleep in front of the TV on the couch and husband tells me that I snore so loud he either has to turn the volumn up or watch TV in another room. We don't have a spare bed which is probably why he hasn't migrated to the guest room.

Kismc · October 2013

I wish he would sleep in another room sometimes! Seriously. I would love more room for me and my snoogle.

sarahmarie2 · October 2013

I started kicking my FI out of the bed the other night! His snoring has gotten worse cause he's congested, and he wanted the windows closed which wasn't working for me since I've been having hot flashes. If our guest room wasn't in shambles I gladly would have switched, but lucky for me he's a good guy and retreated to the couch after a few elbow jabs and whining.

bellamatson · October 2013

I sleep on a air matress in the same room for more space! Hahaha it's been that way for 2 months now. He is a light sleeper and whenever I got up to pee (which is like 6 times a night) he would wake up. I find the air matress more comfortable to sleep on

Jen4033 · October 2013

I for sure don't feel bad about DH being the one to retreat though... he's always complaining about our new bed (he had to have the firmest mattress we could find & now complains) but seems to sleep ok in our old mattress in the extra bedroom (that he also used to complain about, hence getting the new one.) So if he really is getting a better night sleep, I'm cool with that I slept ok on it before, but now that I am PG again, I get less hip pain in the night on our current new set.

That & I am the one who gets up with DS when he wakes at night occasionally & our room is closer to him.

DH also said he might still come in & sleep with me on the weekends where we don't have to get up so early.

tootsscott · October 2013

I wish my husband would be the one to leave, but he falls asleep in 2 seconds flat and is dead to the world. I have about 5 pillows in the bed with me and every time I try to roll over I am making the most ridiculous noises. Though I know he probably won't wake up, I think i get annoyed that he WONT wake up, and end up leaving the bedroom.

Why do I have to be the only uncomfortable one?? lol. Then when my husband gets home from work, every day he tells me how tired he is. I have a hard time not saying ' At least you sleep at night!'.

Winnieella · October 2013

My H works nights, but the times that I end up falling asleep and he is home he says that I have started to snore. He told me it's loud, but cute. Whatever that means.

BuckeyeANG · October 2013

This thread reminds me of a night when I was about 35w pregnant with DS1. I woke with a start when DH suddenly jumped out of bed in the dead of the night and yelled that someone was breaking into the garage (directly below our bedroom). Yeah...it was just my snoring...which apparently sounded like a garage door being broken down.

bensmommy518 · October 2013

DH has gotten quite comfy on the couch. My snoring, bed hogging, constant trips to the bathroom etc all drive him crazy. Plus I go to sleep much earlier than he does so usually he just stays downstairs watching TV and will fall asleep down there. Some nights he comes up later in the evening but many he spends down there until he hears our alarms go off.

Honestly I cant say I hate it. I get a better nights sleep not worrying if I am keeping him awake and many times when he has come up to bed late at night, it wakes me up and then I have to pee and get a little bitter towards him for being the cause of yet another pee break. Irrational, I know. But it is what it is.

jessicat2283 · October 2013

H can sleep through anything & snores. At the end of my last pregnancy he moved to guest room. It's been great. I love the bed to myself & sleep much better. Now with #3 coming we are losing the guest room. I'm actually sad he's moving back into our room. I'm a terrible wife, I'll admit it but I'm such a light sleeper

missimone · October 2013

I've been comfortably on the couch for almost a week now. It's the only place I can sleep through the night without waking up feeling achy, breaky.

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