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You don't always have to be nice..
Erinm278
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I'm going to be the mom who gets called into the principal's office because her kid says something to another kid. Sure there are a lot of moms that this happens to. The difference is that I'll be the one that tells El to say something inappropriate to that other kid.
My niece was all upset after school yesterday and I asked her what was wrong. She said a boy made fun of her for wearing a superman shirt (she's 7). He said superheroes are for boys. She asked me what to do.
What I told her to say: girls can like superheroes too and that there are a lot of female super hero characters.
What I wanted to tell her to say: You're an asshole Tommy.
Someday I'll be sitting in the principal's office with Tommy's parents explaining that YES I did tell my daughter to tell Tommy he's an asshole. Maybe if your son wasn't an asshole then nobody would call him that. Also, my daughter is a mother Fing super hero. Suck it.
Baby girl #1 7/11/13
Baby girl #2 4/30/15
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Re: You don't always have to be nice..
I'm right there with you momma. And DH already has plans to put DD in Muay Thai classes ASAP. Great.
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This was my mom and I will continue it. I remember she would tell me you know what, if they don't like you fuck 'em. Their loss, you don't have to take shit from anyone and tell them to get fucked.
And I do... to this day, tell those who want to criticize or try to belittle or make me feel bad about me, to get fucked.
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I think this is part of the reason kids are killing themselves over being picked on. Because they have never been told how to stop the idiot doing the picking, I think a good catchy come back, maybe a swift kick to the nuts, or a good right hook would stop some of this. But kids are not taught how to manage when not "everyone" likes them. They are taught to be "nice" all the time, and play ground fights and disagreements are micromanaged by the puppies and rainbows ideals of today.
It's horse shit. It doesn't help that every single sporting event requires trophies for showing up. Parents tell their kids that they are "great" at everything... Hey little Sally, that's the best shit I've ever seen anyone take, good job, you are wonderful. We have to stop blowing glitter up our kids asses and start preparing them for the real world.
Would it be nice if everyone liked everyone else and was 100% supportive, and everyone was great at everything... sure... why not, but that's not how life is, and I refuse to let my kids go through their lives believing this is so, just to be smacked with reality when they leave the nest.
Life isn't fair... deal with it.
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DH and I were just talking about this very subject this morning. As a teacher, he isn't allowed to use a red pen when grading papers as it will make the students 'feel bad.' In a recent discussion about playing sports, he asked them why they play sports, to win. And if you aren't a winner, you are a loser. Kids got upset....yelling at him that they aren't losers, they were all winners.
No. If your team isn't the one with the most points, you are a loser.
But it doesn't mean that you are a loser in life. I think that as a society, we've forgotten to make that distinction. You may not always succeed in what you do, but you succeed in living the best life that you can.
And anytime E wants a superhero costumes, she's totally getting one.
@rondokye- I completely agree with you. I have a lot of opinions about how the way we treat children is contributing to a generation of entitlement.
It's ok to lose, that's how we learn to win. It's ok to be told you had the wrong answer, that's the first step in learning the right answer.
I refuse to coddle my children to the point that they become unable to handle being told they're wrong. I believe in comforting kids and letting them know they always have a safe place with you, but I'm not going to let my kid be an asshole to other kids and I'm not going to make excuses for my kid. On the reverse, I'm not going to let her be walked all over. She's going to learn how to stand up for herself and others.
Baby girl #1 7/11/13
Baby girl #2 4/30/15
Baby Boy Due 2/16/19!
@aiylin- I also refuse to ever let anyone tell my daughter that the boy is being mean to her because he likes her. How fucked up is that? I don't want her to equate someone being mean to her to mean that's how someone shows they like her.
He's acting like an asshat because he's an asshat. Maybe someday he'll grow out of it. Until then, stay away from him and if he threatens you then kick him in the junk.
ETA: Sorry about my passionate response. I just got real fired up about that.
Baby girl #1 7/11/13
Baby girl #2 4/30/15
Baby Boy Due 2/16/19!
Baby girl #1 7/11/13
Baby girl #2 4/30/15
Baby Boy Due 2/16/19!
and therein lies the problem.
Parents who think little Jimmy should be exempt from normal life experiances... Bet his parents were picked on a little and vowed that they'd "never let that happen to their kid." barf.
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@meimsx... me too, on the potty... for now... but when she's "good" at that... you best believe the praising may slow down a bit.
Sad. really.
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100% agree
The principal may have to get to know me pretty well. He'd better have coffee. :P
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