Ready for baby #2?

brittany&dain · October 2013

DH and I started talking tonight about trying for baby number 2. When did you know or decide you we're ready for another? DS is almost 14 months right now, should we wait longer and space them out? I need advice and opinions please !!!

allardr · October 2013

We just started TTC, I grew up two years between all us 3 kids and loved it. Our plan is to have this LO next fall shortly after DD turns 2. I dont' want to get too far past the baby stage and then have to do it again. I'd rather get the baby sleep deprivation, etc done close together. For me though really when I couldn't get pregnancy/baby#2 out of my head I knew it was time. Baby on the brain

Rosebud2587 · October 2013

I wanted 2u2 but then DH got deployed so we started ttc as soon as he got back. It took us 2 cycles so now our LOs will be about 2.5 years apart.

brittany&dain · October 2013

Why did you want yours that close?

brittany&dain · October 2013

Why did you want them spaced apart more than 2 years?

bigdreams24 · October 2013

We just got pregnant with our 2nd. My DD will be 2 years 4 months when this baby is born. I had wanted a longer spacing but we decided we would try for just one month and then it happened just like that! I am still nervous about the close together especially with daycare costs and such but i'm sure it will all work out.

LEIGHLOVE09 · October 2013

DD will be 22 months when this
one will be born! I wanted them roughly 2 years apart. My DH has been ready for #2 for a while but I just wasn't there yet. I woke up one morning and was ready so I said ok and that week I ovulated and was pregnant 2 weeks later! Crazy. Happened way quicker than I was expecting. We are having another girl and I'm really excited they will be close in age and really close in life. I know people (namely my DH) who is 4 years older than his bro and they are not close at all. I am 2 years, 4 months older than my sister (2 school grades) and we are really close. I wanted that for my kids

DawnLilly · October 2013

We will start TTC next spring/summer. DS is 16 months. The original plan was that I wanted 2u2 but that timing rolled around and DH and I didn't feel ready. Some selfish reasons like time to us, time with DS, a big couples vacation planned ect. Other not so selfish reasons include finances and space. We need to finish the basement and put another room down there and we need to pay off my truck so that we can buy an SUV because I can't fit two car seats right now. So as it stands when we do TTC DS and number 2 will be 2.5-3 years apart.

ashiscute · October 2013

Mine are 19 months apart. It wasn't actually planned but I'm actually loving it. My DD was an easy 1 year old while I was pregnant and caring for a newborn. She is still lovely at 2 but much more independent and concerned with things being her way. It was kind of nice having her be a little more easy going during the pregnancy and whatnot. And now my kids are 32 months and 13 months and have a lot of fun together. I would not change it if I could.

salbabe79 · October 2013

we originally thought we would try again when Eva turned 1 but when it got here, we decided to wait another year. Numerous reasons: my own medical condition affecting my weight, wanting more time with Eva before adding another, wanting her to be more independent when the next one comes, as well as others...

mommymegan831 · October 2013

we aimed for 2u2, but ours are 26 months apart. It was, and sometimes still is, very stressful at times, but I think parenting in general is stressful. DD was potty trained about a month after DS was born, which was still earlier than any kids her age we knew, I did not enjoy that month of having 2 in diapers. I like that they're still both stroller age so I can run with them. I don't know if they'll be close later in life, and I think alot more than age plays into that, but right now at 1 1/2 and 3 1/2 they are best friends and it's adorable watching them play together, and as DS gets bigger and more independent, it gives me a break having them so into each other they don't rely on me as much.

ALHickok1 · October 2013

We've been talking about TTC#2 for a while now. I don't know why we finally decided now is it, but I have my BC removed last month and started trying right way. The spacing between children is all up to you and DH. DS is 23 months right now, so him and the next one will be close to 3 years apart if we get pregnant right away.

MNgirl326 · October 2013

We have run into some trouble the 2nd time around, which totally took me by surprise, since had good luck with the first.

I originally wanted my kids to be 2-3 years apart but now we are looking at 4+ years. its isn't quite but what I wanted, but there is something to be said for having a LO that is a bit older. he is potty trained, is pretty independent, loves to be a helper, etc. Plus, when we do get pregnant again, at most we will only have to pay for 1 year of daycare with them both in DC, and then LO will go to KG.

You and your hubby are the other 2 people that can decide when the right time is. There are pros and cons to having kids close together and pros and cons to having them more spaced apart. You just have to decide what is best for your family

brittany&dain · October 2013

Well it seems the decision is made I just found out I'm 2 weeks pregnant. Ds will be a month shy from being 2 when new baby is born

MNgirl326 · October 2013

2 weeks pregnant? That isn't even possible. I'm confused

EandIMommy86 · October 2013

Mine will be 15 months apart. I'm almost 37 weeks. I wanted them to be able to grow up together and we had a very pleasant easy baby the first time. It is all personal preference.

SandFHasse · October 2013

We didn't really start trying, but DH and I had been talking about having another child for a few months. DD was 9 months old when we found out we were expecting baby #2. I was so scared when I saw the positive test that I cried for days. DD and LO will be 18 months apart and now I am super excited. They will be close in age and will grow up together. DH has always talked about wanting our kids close in age so that they will be close with each other since his brothers were so much older then him.

APendola · October 2013

It really depends on you and your situation. I want mine spaced out a little longer. First of all, I had DD when I was 27 so I am not in a biological rush to have a baby. Second, in Canada we get a year of Mat-leave - so I just got back to work three months ago. So I want to get my career and financial situation back on track before I get pregnant again. I also don't want the cost of two kids in full-time care to overlap for too long.

brittany&dain · October 2013

I took the digital test which said 1-2 weeks pregnant, went to the doctor today I'm 3 weeks and 4 days.

smileybabyboy · October 2013

APendola said:

It really depends on you and your situation. I want mine spaced out a little longer. First of all, I had DD when I was 27 so I am not in a biological rush to have a baby. Second, in Canada we get a year of Mat-leave - so I just got back to work three months ago. So I want to get my career and financial situation back on track before I get pregnant again. I also don't want the cost of two kids in full-time care to overlap for too long.

Oh wow!! A year of maternity leave!!?? Is it paid?

yepyepsms · October 2013

I am almost three months pregnant with our second. Our LO's will be 23 months apart. Ultimately our biggest decision to keep going closer in age is our age. We are in our early 30's, but we'd like to have 3-4 children, therefore I feel like we don't have a lot of time to space them out. Plus we were sure if we would have trouble. We fortunately got pregnant on our first cycle off BC. With DS it took about 5 cycles. Good luck with your decision...I feel it's one of those decisions in life that you can't go wrong....it will be what it will be. Make a pros and cons list together and decide what you both feel strongly about.

brittany&dain · October 2013

smdukes said:

I am almost three months pregnant with our second. Our LO's will be 23 months apart. Ultimately our biggest decision to keep going closer in age is our age. We are in our early 30's, but we'd like to have 3-4 children, therefore I feel like we don't have a lot of time to space them out. Plus we were sure if we would have trouble. We fortunately got pregnant on our first cycle off BC. With DS it took about 5 cycles. Good luck with your decision...I feel it's one of those decisions in life that you can't go wrong....it will be what it will be. Make a pros and cons list together and decide what you both feel strongly about.

thank you so much. We talked about and decided that we would like to start trying and the next day I took a test and it was positive. My body just wasn't feeling right and I started to have a lot of reactions to skin care and shampoos that I did when I was pregnant with our son. Seems as though things tend to work out how they are meant to be.

michelle7482 · October 2013

I just had my second in sept so my girls are 19 mo apart and so far it's been great!!

AlfiesMOM · October 2013

We are both 100% ready for number two! My hubby and his sister are a little less than two years apart and they love being close. For me I want to have my kids close and move through the baby stage all at once. I know once I have E out of diapers I won't want to do it again. We plan on starting to try in Jan and the only reason we are waiting so long is we have 4 weddings next summer which we are both in! It will work out better for us to wait a few months and E will be a little over two!

jillomw · October 2013

We were originally going to start trying when my oldest DD turned 2, then that time came and I didn't feel ready. As she approached 3 and started preschool, I started to feel ready but DH didn't feel ready at all. We finally agreed to start trying shortly after, and it ended up taking me 6 months to get pregnant (didn't have such a hard time the first time around!). DD2 (16m) is 4.5 years younger than DD1 (will be 6 in Dec), but honestly I've really liked the age difference so far! DD1 was SO independent and able to be such a big helper, plus she loves having "the baby" around and it makes her feel so grown-up to help out with her. Sometimes she helps a bit TOO much, but there are times big sis is the ONLY one who can calm her down or make her laugh.

I love watching them together! Good luck with your pregnancy!

tamararachel2 · October 2013

Well DS2 wasn't planned at all. I didn't want another baby actually but DS1 was 4 when DS2 came along and I like the age difference because DS1 helps out when he can....like watching DS2 when I need to put laundry in or pee! My sister and I are 6 years apart and I think that was a little too much of a difference at least when we were younger, but the 4 year difference is perfect!

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