STMs, older child during delivery?

sugarland726 · October 2013

What are you doing with your older child during delivery? Repeat, scheduled c-section on a Monday. I can send her to daycare all day, I can send her part of the day, or we could keep her home/at the hospital with my mother. I feel torn between having my mom pick her up after nap to bring her to the hospital and having mom pick her up after LO is born and we are settled so she can meet her sibling right away. What are you guys doing?

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cja06 · October 2013

We have to have a variety of contingency plans because I won't be induced (at least it is unlikely). I wish I was only for the convenience of knowing which plan to follow through on. For number 2, I was actually induced on a Friday and my MIL was able to fly out. We sent our son to daycare and my MIL picked him up. His brother wasn't born until 6 p.m. and she brought him the next day to meet the baby.

For this one, we will have to have three different plans:

1. If I go into labor on a weekday during the day (while kids are in school/daycare)

2. If I go overnight on a weekday

3. If I go on a weekend

It will all depend, but my MIL will be on standby, but she is 40 minutes away. We will also have our neighbors on standby. We will determine when the boys will meet their sister depending on what time of day she makes her debut. We will keep the boys on their schedule as best as possible.

SandFHasse · October 2013

DD will be staying with one of the grandparents. We decided that she will be the very first person to meet her little brother. DH will get her from the waiting room and the 4 of us will spend at least an hour together with no other friends and family in the room.

BuckeyeANG · October 2013

We don't have a plan which is a major issue for my Type A self. I SAH so I don't have a daycare option, otherwise I would definitely just keep him in his usual routine and send him to daycare. My mom will be in the delivery room with me, hopefully. That leaves my dad, 2 sisters, brother and some friends (all of the aforementioned people work or are full time students). Since I don't know when I'll go into labor we are just going to have to wing it somewhat which is very difficult for me to swallow.

heathern618 · October 2013

I left the decision up to my daughter, whether she wanted to go to school or come with us to the hospital for my scheduled c-section @ 11am. Needless to say, meeting her baby brother sounded better than school. So my 8yr old plans to be at the hospital when her baby brother is born. My parents will be there to wait with her in the waiting room as I have a scheduled c-section.

vstevens · October 2013

DS is staying with my ILs as soon as I go into labor. He'll probably actually be with my nanny / nanny share family until they can get here; since my labor last time was so fast we can't count on being able to wait for my ILs to get here from their home 45-90 minutes away (depending on traffic).

After LO arrives, I do not plan to have them come down right away. DS loves spending time with his grandparents, so it will be fun for him, and will allow us to take some time with LO on our own (just like DS1 got when he was born!). I figure they'll come the following day in the morning or afternoon, depending when LO arrived the previous day.

Piach · October 2013

I'm a scheduled c-section on Monday as well (at 12:30), so we will do our normal morning routine with DD and send her off to "school" (DH & MIL will probably take her) and then my MIL will pick her up and bring her to the hospital after "school."

My MIL/FIL arrive the Friday before my c-section, so as long as this baby doesn't mess with our plans and come early, we have a pretty easy schedule.

If the baby comes early, all hell is going to break loose

moosebaby2011 · October 2013

A good friend of the family (DH's good friend's mom) is retired, has her own car seat, and will be ready to watch DS if I go into labor during the day. My sister (who lives with us anyway) will stay with him at night. I'll have my sister bring DS to the hospital to meet his little sibling once things have settled down.

mrsjenni · October 2013

Still undecided about DS1. As of right now, my induction is Friday, 1/24... MIL will be taking all of the kids, so she will have my 2 younger ones, but DS1 has school (kindergarten). I think I will pull him out that day to make it easier for everyone (especially my MIL!) I don't want her to have to wait until school is over before bringing the kids and herself to the hospital. It's a special day and I want DS1 to be there as soon as I am able to have visitors.

Thankfully, it works out now that delivery on a Friday means that there will be no school issues before I go home from the hospital. Of course that all can change if I deliver earlier than 39 weeks.

MrsGraham06 · October 2013

If I go into labor during the week, we will try to keep the kids' routine. We'd have to get a van to my parents, since they will be taking care of my older kids while I'm in the hospital. Previously, my mom brought the older kids to the hospital the day after the baby was born. We'll probably do that again. Since my boys will be in school, hopefully their routine will be changed as little as possible, with the exception of visiting us after LO is here.

If it's a weekend, not much will change, the boys just probably won't miss school.

MamaP19 · October 2013

BuckeyeANG said:

We don't have a plan which is a major issue for my Type A self. I SAH so I don't have a daycare option, otherwise I would definitely just keep him in his usual routine and send him to daycare. My mom will be in the delivery room with me, hopefully. That leaves my dad, 2 sisters, brother and some friends (all of the aforementioned people work or are full time students). Since I don't know when I'll go into labor we are just going to have to wing it somewhat which is very difficult for me to swallow.

You & me both!

We've discussed a few options since I am so hoping to go into labor on my own this time & not be induced. So.. MIL is going to come stay with us for about a week when DS is born so that I can have help taking care of DD. Ideally we'll call her when I'm in early labor and she'll make the 2 hour drive to stay with us. I plan on laboring at home as long as I can (and will have a doula) so DH could look after DD until it's hospital time. I have a SAH mom friend who lives about 2 min from the hospital. DH can take DD there while I go to L&D with my doula. Worst case scenario, DH would stay home with DD. I'm hoping for option #1 - but you never know.

Jackapatamus · October 2013

DS will go over to my IL's along with our dog! And as soon as we can we will have them bring him to the hospital.

ccip82 · October 2013

Our Mary Poppins babysitter, Anna, will be watching DD while DH is at the hospital with me. It looks like I most likely will be having another C/S...so at least scheduling everything will be easy enough.

Anna has stayed overnight with DD before, so I feel comfortable leaving DD with her for a day or two.

buckeyebride22 · October 2013

As long as I make it to then I'm a schedule cs so my MIL will take him so my mom can be with me before the surgery. Once I'm cleaned up they will bring him to see his sister. I don't want him to see me in pain. Though he's only 20 months he's really sensitive to my emotions.

Carmlvsjose · October 2013

I'm in the I HAVE NO CLUE category...eek!!! I should probably get in this!!

Arrgcr · October 2013

I'm a SAHM and all my family is out of state. My husband is wanting our son in the room. He's going to be 4 tomorrow. He is very tender hearted and if I'm in pain he will be really upset and will cry. DH seems to forget that.

I have become very close with a family at church. I was asked the other night if we would mind them being his 'grand parents' since they have none of their own. (Their daughter is one my friends and we are close too.) I know if it gets bad, no matter what time, I can call on them if necessary.

jessicacss · October 2013

my current plan is for my sister who lives about 20 minutes away from me come over while I am in labor, if it is after school hours, or pick Chloe up from daycare after school. She will only be 2 and 3 months old, if I make it all the way to my EDD, I'm sure she is too small to understand what the hell is going on and why there are so many things connected to Mommy

juliasmama2010 · October 2013

DD will likely be with my parents. Mom will come to the hospital when I get closer so she can be there when baby is born (not in the room). Then after Mom has had her fill of LO, she will relieve my Dad and he will come down. If I go into labor in the middle of the night, either my sister or best friend will be coming to the house to stay with Julia while she sleeps, then take her to a) day care or b) my parents house, depending on if I go into labor during the week or not. After LO is born, DH will sleep at home with Julia.

waterlily2k2 · October 2013

We'll have DS go to his sitter's house. It really depends on how long I'm in labor for as far as how long he stays with her. He absolutely loves her and her dog (and vice versa

) so it would be no problem for him to stay the night with her if need be. Induction will probably be either Dec 27 or 28th. If it's not a 24+ hr labor and delivery, then I'll leave it up to DH what he wants to do. But our sitter will be more than happy to have him for as long as we need.

OSUWifey09 · October 2013

If I'm induced, DS will go to school like normal, and my parents will pick him up and bring him to the hospital for a little bit - then back home to bed. We want him to stay on his routine as much as possible. If it's a weekend and I go into labor on my own, we decided to have him at the hospital for a few hours, but then whoever is spending the night with him [probably my dad] will take him after dinner and get him settled down for the evening. Basically, our plan is to keep him on his routine, have someone available to be at home with him until I'm released from the hospital, but make sure he gets time with me.

AprlShwrs18 · October 2013

DS will go to PT daycare, and then be with my mom and possibly sister while we are at the hospital.

shortstuff15 · October 2013

My girls will be with my parents. We won't be sending them until it's necessary, so they will likely see me in labour for a little bit, but once we are ready to go the hospital we will get my mom to pick them up. They will stay there until we are settled after baby is born, whether that's the next morning or what, and then they will come to the hospital to come visit baby.

LexGator · October 2013

Both families are OOT, but one or both will be here a week early to help watch DD when I go into labor. I am due 12/31, so finding an on-call babysitter around the holidays would be nearly impossible. Logistics haven't been worked out yet and both families are annoying me, but that is the plan in theory.

cowscrub · October 2013

I honestly have no clue and I have 4 kids to plan for.

My last pregnancy ended in an emergency induction on New Years weekend. My mom lives here but she's in finance and the end of the year and end of the month she was unable to help. Thank god we had an unemployed very close friend who stayed with them till my IL's drove in that night from 8h away.
This time I'm just waiting and seeing how it's going to play out. I start my NST's much earlier this time so I'm hoping it won't be another show up for an NST and go upstairs for an induction.
In a bind we have friends and family close and they'll help where they can but hoping to make it till her due date and then my IL's will be here for a week.
Guess I got some planning and things to work out just in case..

folkfemme · October 2013

We are having a home birth, so it's a bit different for us. With my first my labour began at midnight and he was born at 4am. If I have a similar time experience this time around, I'll just let him sleep and ill labour in another area of the house. When/if he wakes, he can come hang out with us, depending on how I'm feeling. If I'm not up to having him in the room, or he seems uncomfortable, my sister is a block away and will come grab him at a minutes notice. I'm also considering having my sisters and mom at my house to be with him if its during the day, and I'll labour in my bedroom when I need quiet and serenity. I like this situation because he can be with us in the seconds after the baby is born.

mommygrams0730 · October 2013

With my last my water broke when we were at our cabin so my son just stayed over night with my parents. They brought him to the hospital the next day.

Right now we have it planned that my mom will come up to be home with the kids at night. Depending on when labor starts and what part of the week the kids could be in daycare and my mom would pick them up and stay home with them. Otherwise when ever she gets to our house we'll head to the hospital.

jciardi10 · October 2013

My 8 year old Jack wants to be in the room! My 10 year old Caroline said no way! lol Plan is to have them both come to the hospital right about the time I deliver. I live 5 mins from the hospital - so grandparents will be on standby to bring them over once I start to push lol

I just think it is so funny my son wants to be in the room! (not gonna happen!)

nbbride06 · October 2013

I hadn't gotten quite that far

MIL/FIL will stay with DD until we tell them to bring her. I guess depending on when I deliver it will be either that day or the following day. Haven't decided if I'm going to send DH home at night to sleep and be with DD or if he will stay at the hospital with me. A lot depends on if I end up with another c-section or not.

ksonne · October 2013

DS will be in daycare and staying with my parents when I deliver. If the baby is born during the day, hopefully DS can meet the baby that afternoon. If not, he can meet the baby in the morning. I'm lucky that my parents live close by.

ac1259 · October 2013

Our plan is that whenever my water breaks we will somehow get DD to my IL's- they live 20 minutes away, I'm a SAHM so no daycare. Last time it happened at 3 am- I can only hope that DH will at least be home when I go into labor! But, my mom will leave her house ASAP when I go into labor and come stay with DD overnight at our house while I'm in the hospital, bring her in to meet her baby sister when she can. She's only 1 so I highly doubt she'll even understand what's happening but I'll still want to see her!

LindsB314 · October 2013

It will depend what happens when I go into labor. If its in the middle of the night, my mil will come over and watch dd. If its during the day, I might bring dd to my moms. I'm just debating because my mom was such a good support system along with dh during my labor. I would like her there again. So we kinda have a plan but some things are still up in the air. I'm really nervous about being away from DD for 2 days! :-( she's only slept at my moms twice and we got her first thing in the morning.

MiaMyPuggle · October 2013

My mom and in laws will watch my son while I undergo the c section. They "HAVE" to be at the hospital (at 7:30am with my son who sleeps until 8:30-9am?!?) when she is born. DS won't do too well at the hospital for hours upon hours like how they were when he was born. I'll have to talk about it with them when the time comes.
This has been in the back of my mind for a bit and I don't know how it's going to work out.

Ljessen13 · October 2013

bridefromafar said:

We have to have a variety of contingency plans because I won't be induced (at least it is unlikely). I wish I was only for the convenience of knowing which plan to follow through on. For number 2, I was actually induced on a Friday and my MIL was able to fly out. We sent our son to daycare and my MIL picked him up. His brother wasn't born until 6 p.m. and she brought him the next day to meet the baby.
For this one, we will have to have three different plans:
1. If I go into labor on a weekday during the day (while kids are in school/daycare)
2. If I go overnight on a weekday
3. If I go on a weekend
It will all depend, but my MIL will be on standby, but she is 40 minutes away. We will also have our neighbors on standby. We will determine when the boys will meet their sister depending on what time of day she makes her debut. We will keep the boys on their schedule as best as possible.

This exactly!!!! We have different plans depending on when I go into labor. I am due first week of jan. So we have plans week/weekend. School in session or out on break. Night or day!! It's stressful. I have a 10 yr old who lives with us and my 8 yr old step son we get every weekend. So it's a fun fun plan!

aessary03 · October 2013

My c/s is scheduled for Monday 12/23 at 7:30 AM which means we'll have to be at the hospital at 5:30 AM. So .... we're thinking Emma will spend the night either with my dad/stepmom or my in-laws and they'll bring her to the hospital in the afternoon to meet her brother. And then she can hang out with us as long as she wants. We have a plethora of family that can/will take her as need be. My dad and brother are taking her Christmas Eve evening to do dinner, lights, and presents (our family tradition). I'll probably have my husband bring the Santa presents up to the hospital to open on Christmas day and spend that time together as a family. I'm assuming will be in the hospital until at least 12/26.

I dunno ... that's our tentative plan right now!

Galaxy8227 · October 2013

I'm a RCS, scheduled for 130 on a Tuesday. If the time table sticks, we'll drop DS off at daycare in the morning and my parents will pick him up and bring him to the hospital after DD is born.

RobynLovesDano · October 2013

SandFHasse said:
DD will be staying with one of the grandparents. We decided that she will be the very first person to meet her little brother. DH will get her from the waiting room and the 4 of us will spend at least an hour together with no other friends and family in the room.

This! I want DS to be able to meet his little sister without a huge crowd, or people trying to pass around and take pictures of her

SweetPeaKate · October 2013

I am more than likely having a csection. Just not sure when yet: 39 weeks unless LO needs to be delivered early.

My overall plan is that since I wasn't conscious for the delivery or the 6+ hours after, I would like some time with my hubby and the baby if at all possible before everyone else comes. DS will probably be with my mom, who will also be very anxious to come.

I also really want DH to wait to call family until I am in recovery so I have some time and awareness of what is going on this time. I'm sure people will be annoyed, but they will just have to deal with it.

Ideally, I will want to keep DS' schedule (nap time) as consistent as possible, but I know I'm going to miss him like crazy so we will see how long I will really want to wait until he comes to visit.

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