I know there are a couple of us out there with really high maintenance babies and I remember from a previous thread a couple of moms who have been there with previous kids.
So here is my question: My baby only takes naps on me - she sleeps at night in the crib great but I can't get her to nap on anyone or anything but me and I give in because 1. She's a baby and this is what she apparently needs and 2. I don't want to add overtired to an already fussy baby. So anyone who has been through this does it get better? I try to move her to the crib for at least one nap a day but every time she wakes up as soon as I move. Will she magically one day just start sleeping somewhere else? If you have been through this and it did get better when? I know each baby is different but I really just need a little hope...
Re: BTDT moms - high maintenance/high need baby
My LO still needs more contact and reassurance as a preschooler, but also plays independently and is such a loving, sweet soul. It WILL get better.
DD1 7/10/08 DD2 8/11/10 DS 7/2/13
thanks for the words of encouragement everyone.. its good to hear from people who have been through it (or are going through it) and knowing that it will get better. Logically I know this will only last a short while and a year or two from now when I look bad I will think "that wasn't so bad" but the constant needing to be held at all times, eating all the time, and the general fussiness (though a week ago the screaming for hours ended so thank god for that) are just difficult in the moment.
@kdasr - I'm definitely in for a weekly checkin. Not knowing anyone having gone through this is probably the hardest thing.
This is crazy, but I do miss staring at his cute little face when he was sleeping in my arms. He would pucker out his lips and it looked adorable. Sweet little monster.
OP- I hope you can put your napping baby down soon!
My little love was born July 20th, 2013!
BFP 11.11.12
TTC #1 Since March 2012
DD2: Lucia (Lucy) 07/13
Our queen size bed is getting too small for 3!
Kind of butting in here. I have never posted in July 13 before. I was due August 9th and ended up having my son July 23rd. Never really posted in August that much either....just lurked.
Anywho, my son was colicky and still high needs, but getting much better.
Melissa...was your LO labeled as colicky? Just wondering bc we had the screaming for hours and hours every evening (although my son used to cry all day long as well) but the evenings were definitely the worst. His pedi never actually diagnosed him with colic, she just said he is very needy and could have a "colicky" personality. Surprisingly, every time we took him to the doctor he was good. Go figure.
It used to be his every waking minute was spent crying, but at 13 weeks tomorrow we have seen major improvement. He is still fussy though, but I am amazed at the difference.
It was definitely hell.
@iHeartVan - She used to cry pretty much every night from at least 7-10pm (a lot of times longer) and she would have a couple 30min or so screaming/cryng fits during the day too -and I mean screaming/face red and blotchy/tons of tears - not just fussy
I think the Dr thinks I'm crazy because I bring her in when nothing is wrong. I was pretty sure she was colicky but once she had an ear infection which made me feel like I had no idea what was going on (because the crying from the ear infection wasn't any different than her every day crying).
She also spits up a lot so the Dr had us try meds to see if that helped she said if it didn't help then she was probably just colicky. The meds didn't help at all. She also said I should try giving up dairy - I was going to do that 2 weeks ago when I was at the Dr last. I told myself I would stop dairy after the weekend (my sister was in town and it seemed difficult to choose then to stop) Well that was the weekend she magically got better.
Around week 14 or 15 she just stopped the screaming at night and the screaming during the day for no reason. She is still a little intense - if she decides she wants or doesn't want something she goes from happy to screaming pretty fast but at least now there seems to be a reason and I can calm her down pretty quickly
ETA: I never did give up dairy because she got better (not sure if that was clear or not)
My little love was born July 20th, 2013!
BFP 11.11.12
TTC #1 Since March 2012
I completely understand what you mean about the doctor. I took him once a week for like a month begging the doctor to diagnose him with reflux or something. Didn't happen. She just smiling at me and telling me he was healthy and it needed to pass.
I'm not a BTDT mom, but I do have what you might call a "high maintenance baby." I could have written your post word-for-word. The sling and exercise ball have become my new best friend for getting him to nap.
Sometimes I get jealous of other moms who seem to have easier babies. Twenty minutes in the stroller and my child is over it and crying...and if not placated, the crying turns in to screaming. Makes shopping a challenge. We've had success with the sling/baby carriers but only if he is sleeping. Once he's awake, he wants out- and NOW.
I turn to sympathetic friends, my mom, and my husband for encouragement. They remind me to hang in there, and that I am doing a good job.
When it's really rough, and I've been bouncing on that darn exercise ball for what seems like forever, I sometimes scroll through his birth photos. Seeing my tiny little baby, so helpless and dependent stirs up all sorts of lovey dovey feelings and mama bear emotions that help combat the weariness of soothing my high needs baby.
Hang in there! You are doing a good job, and you are the perfect mama for your LO. You may not always feel like it, but you know him best and he appreciates that you go above and beyond to create a happy, peaceful world for him.
Also a July 2013 Mom!