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November 2012 Moms
maven212
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feeling like my job and LO
maven212
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are not compatible. I've been coming home around 10 pm most nights the last two weeks and have worked each day of the weekends. Next week I'm going away for 6 days. LO is distressed...at least, I think she is - she was extra clingy and emotional this week. She has been favoring DH's company the last two days as well. I'm spending my few spare minutes a day crying in the bathroom. This is not a sustainable work situation and I will be making serious changes when I return from this trip.
In the interim - I think this business trip is going to break me. I miss her so much already and we are still under the same roof. LO will spend the trip with my parents and DH, which will be nice for all of them. I, however, could use a little advice from other traveling mommas. How do you cope on business trips?
In the interim - I think this business trip is going to break me. I miss her so much already and we are still under the same roof. LO will spend the trip with my parents and DH, which will be nice for all of them. I, however, could use a little advice from other traveling mommas. How do you cope on business trips?
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Re: feeling like my job and LO
I'm sorry you have to be away from your LO and be getting home so late. If you feel that way, I agree that maybe you should look for a job that will offer more time to be with your family and less traveling.
I'm taking my first business trip without LO in a few weeks. The plan is lots of photo texts from DH, and we'll face time once or twice, though it will be LO's first Facetime, so not sure what she'll think of that. I arranged my flight times so I can see her awake before I leave on the first day, and get home before her bedtime on the day I get back. LO has already spent two weekends with grandparents so did just fine without seeing me for a few days-- I'm guessing a few more days will be OK.
For your job, can you do any of the weekend and evening work at home? I sometimes have to work long days, but I try and come home for dinner and bedtime, then work from home once LO goes down.
I'm sorry things are tough for you right now. Hang in there!
Today we spoke for a little bit and DH told me that LO was very upset and clingy, in general - so we decided that maybe I shouldn't be skyping her a few times a day. I'll speak to her tomorrow night for a few minutes and that will be it.
I have to say that while that was a tough pill to swallow at first, it was also a little liberating. I've gotten teary in front of my boss a few times and that is just not flying well. Also, I have to walk and travel by public transit between work sites a few times a day and I don't have a smart phone, so talking to LO is hard to schedule. I call and she ends up missing nap time etc.. So, one little call a day is likely best for both of us.
As for my job - I am looking for something a step above what I am doing now. This way I can fully manage my schedule and it can be arranged around my family needs. It's a long job application process and very competitive though, so I won't know if I'm under consideration for any position for a few months.
But, I've read your comments and I think you guys are right. I can't do my job part time, but I can significantly alter my hours. I can shift LOs schedule as well (she goes to bed very late right now) so that I can work a little in the evenings and go to work a little earlier. I think what I might do is leave before she is up and come back earlier in the evening, squeezing in a little work here and there at night. If I can't squeeze it in, oh well. The schedule has been really hard on all three of us, so it has to change. I'll be speaking to my boss about it Monday.
Thanks again, guys. I really am very happy for the support you give.