Things IF makes us do

Sigh202 · October 2013

I was thinking of all the weird things IF makes us do, like examining pee whenever you go to the bathroom during the 2ww and reading into every single twinge and cramp. I couldn't even get the flu shot at work. So tired of living in 2 week segments.

RunCC37 · October 2013

Yup. I miss living my life because of all of this. I'm sad to watch all of my friends either in the mommy club or training for marathons without me. I haven't felt like myself and I am sick of putting my life on hold just to get BFN after BFN. This sucks.

dionnewedding · October 2013

I totally understand you, @sigh202. I didn't get the flu shot at work, and guess who got the flu last week? I missed a day of work and felt like people were thinking, "why didn't this stupid girl get the shot when we offered it." Also, the last Wednesday of the month, we get chair massages at work which is so cool. Guess who hasn't had a chair massage in months? I also don't sign up for things months away because there's no way I will be able to participate pregnant. Oh wait, the months come and go and I'm still not. IF sucks.

ronniesgirl1981 · October 2013

I needed a new sports bra and for me this is like a $75 purchase. I didn't do it for like 8 months because I was sure that I'd be pregnant the next month and not be able to wear it. Been wearing that sucker for like 8 months now. Grrr. I did however start looking for a new job. I figure I'll take whichever comes first. It's hard to accept that it could be 5 years from now and we could still be without a child. We have to keep moving forward in all the other areas of our lives.

Sigh202 · October 2013

That sucks @dionnewedding. Hope you're feeling better. @ronniesgirl1981 I'm going shopping today. I'm thinking that if I buy body conscious items, the universe will ensure that I can't wear them. :-)

JadziaDax · October 2013

Sigh202 said:

I'm thinking that if I buy body conscious items, the universe will ensure that I can't wear them. :-)

Ok this is a great idea! I might just go out and do the same..

brittneyandadam · October 2013

YES. I'm normally a very logical, calm person. But IF has turned me into a completely absent minded, crying at the drop of a hat, lunatic.

I know that exercising is good for stress and will help my body...but I find myself thinking that I can't because I'll knock something loose when I run or will squeeze something wrong when I do core strengthening. Who AM I???

ttcnc · October 2013

. . . how about buying a pineapple so you can eat the core? yup - that is a wierd thing that IF makes me do ;-)

JMForte33 · October 2013

Yay! I was just thinking about this today....as I was examining how many times I had pee'd today haha.......and I thought I was the only one! Good to know I'm not alone

Sigh202 · October 2013

I don't keep much from DH but have been secretly POAS. He thinks we'll test Monday. I just don't want to disappoint him sooner than I have to.

priadean · October 2013

Oh my goodness I can completely relate. I am not the same person I was before this started... I don't know how to get over it and just carry on with normal life and then BAM when I do pregnant I can make the necessary changes...

DreadGamerWife · October 2013

So much of this post resonates with me. I have put off purchasing large amounts of new clothes/shoes for two years, stress over if I should try to change jobs, and put off vacation plans all on the great "what if". We live our lives in limbo, going from appointment to appointment, every month hoping that this month "it" will work and we can finally start planning for the long term again. Even getting benched only offers a month's reprieve. While that helps (no stressing over every bite I eat, no having to come up with execuses for the absences from work, etc), it really doesn't help much for retaining our long term sanity.

Lady2010 · October 2013

Wow - glad to know I am not alone. I have definitely been overanalyzing every little twinge in the TWW and am also constantly making tentative plans. I was just talking to my sister and told her I don't know if we will be at my niece's 4th bday next month (out of state) since it largely depends on if I need to be here for tests, etc.

And I had to also buy new sports bras - and regular bras (I go up 2+ cup sizes when I am on the clomid and through ovulation and then start to revert back to normal in week 2 of the TWW - so annoying!)

And due to a reorg at work my job - and the rest of the team's is being eliminated. My friends have told me I should take some time off and relax and suggested taking a trip. Umm - 1, my husband can't just take off work, and 2 - even if that were an option, I can't plan anything since I need to be HERE. So frustrating!

absolutelymaybe · October 2013

@sigh202 - I know exactly what you mean. I hate living two weeks at a time. I missed out on a fun run last cycle because I was going to be on my two-week wait and couldn't train. My friends are having a Halloween party the weekend after Halloween and I'm not sure if I want to go because I might down if the cycle failed (and PG friend will be there) or moody from taking meds next cycle.

mmerckle · October 2013

@MeatandBandP - I totally can relate to your post. I tell my husband all the time that I NEED to have a plan. He is okay with just driving around, I need to go from point A to point B. This whole Im not sure what is happening this week or next week is a killer. On top of it, I am a nurse who has to be in work for 6am sometimes -- it is so hard to schedule appointments when your work schedule fluctuates and you have your own patients to take care of. The uncertainty of it all is NUTS!

TLooney17 · October 2013

I say this all the time! If you could give me a time frame like this will happen in 2 years or 4 years, it would be so much easier for me to take. It's the not knowing and not being able to plan that kills me!

ejrobbi · October 2013

Sounds like a plan to me too!!

Cutiecruz327 · October 2013

bbg676 said:
We were planning for me to be SAHM, and with my health, it has just made sense for me to be SAHW until we got pregnant. Fast-forward over two years - I recently realized the chance of us getting pregnant anytime soon was low and being SAHW was completely unfulfilling. Depending on this cycle, I will probably be picking up a part time job and going back to college to finish my degree (I have two AAs and 90+ credit hours).

So I guess my answer is that IF partially caused me to put my life on hold for a future I was okay with but left me with a present that is boring, unrewarding, and dull. DH is looking at changing jobs soon, possibly out of state, so I'm not even sure what a job or school would be for me, but at least I'm thinking about it now, instead of just accepting a life that I would have, most likely, regretted in old age, especially if we end up CFNBC.

This was me. I got laid off last January. The plan was to collect & be a SAHM. I went back to work in Beginning of September. It was rough staying home and waiting to get BFN month after month. Going back to work has helped my sanity.

The other thing I hate is what it's done to our sex life. We hope to do our first IUI in November. Hopefully it will take the pressure off and we can restore our sex life back to we want to not we HAVE to.

Sigh202 · October 2013

@cutiecruz327 you're so right about the sex life. IF has totally taken the fun out of it.

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