What's your biggest fear about parenting?

Bcsquier · October 2013

Hi ladies! So this is my first child and I'm a little nervous about being a parent. I worry about finances, I'm worried about raising it right, and I worry about something being wrong with the baby, and I have to admit I'm worried about losing my freedom. I feel horrible even thinking it but I'm just being honest. I'm also so excited too! I can't wait to see what the personality will be like and I can't wait to show it things and create new memories. Is anyone wake having some fears?

TonyaCody06 · October 2013

Take one day at a time and do your best!

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jerseygirl612 · October 2013

The fact that you are even worried about this proves you will be a great mom

You really do just take 1 day at a time. Its normal to feel like you need to get away, and you do need some time for you here and there. Just try not to worry too much and enjoy each day.

Pahialii · October 2013

I'm most worried about being around enough... and how that would affect my child. My own mom was a SAHM so I never went to daycare or after-school care. She was a room mother at my school, a Sunday School church teacher, the works. My mother-in-law was even more involved as a SAHM - she was parent president of our high school PTA (DH and I went to the same school since the 6th grade but didn't start dating until we were graduating college). So both of our childhood memories include having mothers that were constantly around all the time. I plan on being a working mom so I worry about the time spent away from my family. But I am super excited of the time I will get to spend with them, and getting to experience the world again through their eyes!

ricecakes1216 · October 2013

I worry about finances and working too much. I only work 40 hours a week but H works at least 55 and has a long commute. My dad wasn't around a lot because he worked too much and I resented him for it. I don't want that for my kids.

AllyTales · October 2013

I think losing your freedom is a normal first time mom feeling, I feel it too. I felt guilty for that in the beginning, but not so much anymore. I assume it's just a normal thing. When you're used to having to take care of ONLY yourself (well, and your spouse, etc.. you get me) it can be weird to think about having to take care of someone else. Losing your freedom to sleep when you want, get up and go, eat when you want, etc. That's a fear of mine, too! I can be selfish now. And when he/she is here, I can no longer be selfish.. yeah, that does worry me sometimes.

I'm also worried about the world I'll be raising my child in. I swear every year "things" get worse, the news.. the bullies, the schools, safety, gangs. I don't recall 11 and 12 year olds killing themselves when I was that age Stuff like that? Scares me so much.

ItttyBitttys · October 2013

I have to say I'm pretty intimidated that someday DS will be a MAN. It hit me one day that I'm not just taking care of a little boy, I'm teaching him how to be a man. I hope I'm doing it right.

jenandbrett · October 2013

I just wanted to say all of these fears are totally normal. You are all going to be great moms and yes, our sweet babies will go brought tough times, but they will make it through and we will be right there waiting when they do. Like Tonya said, just take it one day at a time and it won't feel so overhelming. It's the unknown now that's getting to you. Once they're in your arms, a lot of those fears will just disappate.

amackattack · October 2013

I am definitely worried about us both being working parents. I'm worried about other people judging me, and constantly feeling guilty for working and not spending all day with my child that my relationship and friendships suffer because I will never afford them the time they need because all of my time will be focused on my baby and me trying to make up for time away. I just don't want to make the wrong decision and I don't want all my the aspects of my life to suffer because I chose to work and try to balance everything.

This is me being a very negative nancy.

Bcsquier · October 2013

I worry about our baby being the odd one out also, hubby and I moved to Colorado last year and all our family is in Utah. My husband has a daughter from a previous marriage but she will be 19 when the baby is born, huge gap! But she is super excited and I can't wait for her to be a big sister!

JNerd · October 2013

I'm worried about what life will be like with 2. I know that I won't be able to devote the same time and attention to LO#2 as I did to DS, simply because DS will be home with us and needs attention too.

I'm worried about finances - I know we will make it work, but we went through some pretty rough times earlier this year and are still scared because of them.

I'm worried that DS is turning into a bully - I know he is too young for this, but I am scared.

I'm nervous about how DS will respond to not being an only child.

I'm scared for the teenage years - I know karma is waiting in the wings with a big fat sloppy kiss. I know what I was like and am terrified.

I am also worried about this pregnancy- a lot is different in our lives now, and I am worried that some of those changes might have a negative affect on the baby. Eg - I was a vegetarian and did yoga 6 days a week for the first 2 trimesters with DS. Am not vegetarian anymore and haven't had a chance to find a studio to practice at - and even then - trying to make the time to go will be a challenge for sure.

Bcsquier · October 2013

You could get an at home yoga workout video, that's what I did and I really like it!

Pepper6 · October 2013

I'm afraid of my kid being bullied. With how many stories you see nowadays, it's hard to avoid. Especially knowing H and my genes, our kid will probably have some awkward years where they'll need braces, and glasses, and maybe have acne. Maybe I'll start our kids in karate or something when they're young so they can kick ass (I always wanted to do karate when I was a kid, but my parents couldn't afford it). I would support my kids 100% if they got in trouble at school for defending themselves, though I hope it would never come to that.

zipscheer07 · October 2013

Parenting can be scary but it is the most amazing thing in the world. You have someone who looks up to you and thinks you are the best thing on this earth. When they look at you, your heart melts. You feel everything they feel and you worry about everything but that baby will make your life seem like it was incomplete when they get here. With my daughter, I don't know how I lived without her all these years!

cristykaye · October 2013

I will be s sahm after baby gets here so that's a plus. I'm scared of the world that my child will grow up in. It had changed so much from when I was a kid. I want them to know responsibility and love and goodness and its going to be hard in the world we have today. My fiancé is a doctor so finances are not on my list right now but things change all the time!

mom2be614 · October 2013

Lcgroenewe said:

I am definitely worried about us both being working parents. I'm worried about other people judging me, and constantly feeling guilty for working and not spending all day with my child that my relationship and friendships suffer because I will never afford them the time they need because all of my time will be focused on my baby and me trying to make up for time away. I just don't want to make the wrong decision and I don't want all my the aspects of my life to suffer because I chose to work and try to balance everything.

This is me being a very negative nancy.

You'll have to find a new balance, but that's okay. For me, work is worth a lot. Spending time with my daughter and husband is worth a lot. Other things/people fell to the sides somewhat, but that's okay. Also, I'll add that our daycare provider is absolutely amazing, and I am beyond grateful that she and the other kids she cares for are part of our daughter's life.

mom2be614 · October 2013

I'm with @JNerd - I'm worried about how we'll do raising a second child. DH and I are both the oldest child in our families, so I'm worried that I'll unintentionally favor our oldest child. I also worry about how DH and I will handle parenting responsibilities with two kids. It was a huge adjustment in our marriage to have our first baby, and I know this one will present challenges, too.

*sigh* At some point, though, worrying doesn't help much. Things will work out eventually, I'm sure.

Swiftymomof3 · October 2013

With this being number 4 I worry about being spread to thin. Our other 3 are 11, 8, & 7 so there is an age gap. They are involved in dance and sports so we are constantly running to practice and dance. I worry about dragging a baby to all of that. But I'm not that worried. I know it will work out in the end.

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