relationship question- sort of NBR

Re: relationship question- sort of NBR

• happylady5 member

  October 2013

  Yes. I think it dishonors your spouse and marriage. And it's just not necessary. (You asked for honesty so there ya go.)

  "Sweat is my sanity". Sarah Palin "Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised". Proverbs 31:30

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• Drea926 member

  October 2013

  I'm a flirt by nature - but it falls under the PeanutR1 definition of flirting. DH and I have had conversations about this and he's said that he would never try to stop me from doing that because it's my personality and he loves that I'm super friendly with males and females for that matter! 

  
  

  So in my opinion, if it's innocent flirting, I don't think it's bad. I know for me it makes me feel confident and sexy....the one to reap the benefits? DH!

  

     
  

  
  

  
  

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• babywisher member

  October 2013

  I guess I would say it's not a good idea. In the distant future it might set the wrong example for your ds, but that's very far away. I for one would not be happy if dh was a flirtatious man and he wouldn't like it if I were.

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• Drea926 member

  October 2013

  I actually want to add something!

  
  

  During one of your "flirtatious encounters" (lack of a better term), is it something you would tell your DH about? If it isn't then that's a bit of a red flag, in my opinion. I know with me I'm like, "Hubby guess what?! The deli man (or whoever) flirted with me today! Isn't that funny!"

  

     
  

  
  

  
  

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• holly321 member

  October 2013

  I am a flirt by nature sort of person. Dh is amused by it, because I have gotten myself in more than one awkward situation. An example .... I asked the fed ex guy at work about his tattoos. On my end it was completely innocent, the next day, he obviously was flirting talking about my hair. I have done the same thing with women too. I try to watch out with what I think is friendly banter, and what comes off as flirting. It isn't fair to my dh, and it isn't fair to the other person either. A

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• DublinMama member

  October 2013

  I know it shouldn't matter, but to me there is a difference between flirting once with the waiter at the restaurant on Girl's Night Out, and flirting regularly with a male co-worker or someone you see on the regular. If it's something though, that I would be upset if my husband was doing, then I feel like I shouldn't be doing it, either.
  

  

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• tiffanyp member

  October 2013

  I think you should always act the way you would act if your husband was in the room. Even bitching to friends about him is something that can eat away at the relationship over time, although it can be really difficult not to commiserate.

  
  
  
  

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• froggystomper member

  October 2013

  I'm kind of on the boat with the poster above me. My SO and I did have fidelity issues mostly on his end. The best rule we came up with was if you won't do it in front of me, don't do it. I'm a lot more outgoing than he is so sometimes I have to clarify that no I was not flirting I was curious/interested/debating with the other person. I'm a terrible liar so I'd be super busted if that wasn't the case anyway. And he is a bartender, so flirting is kind of part of his job. So long as hubby is okay and you're okay then I see now harm in some mild flirtation (ie: Peanuts definition)

  

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