HAIR - how did your baby affect your hairstyle and should I fess up?

BP607 · October 2013

I have heard this from a lot of places that your hair changes after a baby - and mine definitely did. It used to be very greasy and now has become dry and brittle. I use conditioner, moroccan oil, etc. My schedule had been kind of busy and my hair was looking scraggly and I couldn't make it to my usual salon so I had a random at another salon trim me up until I could get in with my regular girl. My appointment is coming up and I need a new hairstyle or something...my hair is wearing me out. I want to chop it off, but I think I will regret it. It is currently to my shoulders, a little shorter in the back. Also, would you fess up to your girl that you "cheated" on her??

*sparky* · October 2013

You can tell her you went somewhere else once because you were desperate and your schedule's been crazy with LO. Chances are she may be able to tell anyway.

After I had my DS I cut my hair short and I was so happy I did. I couldn't wear it down because he pulled on it whenever I changed his diaper, so it was pulled back in a ponytail 24/7 anyway. Also, I had a weird wave that developed during PG and keeping it short was the only way to get it under control. I grew it back out after a couple of years, which took forever, and now I am PG again. So far I am keeping it long, but if I have to chop it after my baby arrives so be it.

financialdiva · October 2013

I grew my hair really long before my wedding, cut it short (just below my chin) and donated it afterwards.

Then I kept the short hair for a while, then grew it back out. Then cut it and donated around the time DS1 was a year, just below my chin again.

Then I grew it out again and cut it last fall and donated it again.

Now may hair is just above my shoulder. It is so much easier to maintain when it is short. I think I keep it short bc of the kids, but really, I have had short hair on and off before them.

emberlee3 · October 2013

My hair was awful after I had DS. Not that it really changed, but that I never had time (or never made time) to get it done.

When I was pregnant with DD, I found a new stylist that is just a block from my home. I started getting regular highlights and cuts. I schedule my next appointment before I leave the salon. I have a simple hairstyle that I can blow-dry at night after my shower, brush in the morning, and it still looks decent, sometimes even good

The highlights definitely help by giving my fine hair a little more texture. Talk to your stylist about what would work best for your hair, and then stick to a schedule! And yes, you can fess up to her.

Virgo17 · October 2013

I would be honest about having gone somewhere else out of desperation and a crazy schedule. Then I would ask her for some recommendations of styles that are short and easy to maintain. I go through phases with mine for sure. I grow it out, then get sick of it and cut it off, then want to grow it out again. Right now, it's shoulder length and I can still put it up in a ponytail if I want to.

aeh72 · October 2013

I definitely think you can fess up to your regular stylist. I'm sure all stylists understand a woman having a "hair crisis" and feeling desperate for a trim. And, afterall, you are going back to her!

I've had long hair and a short bob - ane ever length in between. For me the short bob was so much more work than any other style I've had. In order for it to really look good I had to blow dry it as straight as I could and then flat iron it. I have thick hair too so blow drying even a short haircut takes forever.

Only in the last few months have I accepted that the texture of my hair will never really work super straight so I've begun to embrace the natural wave in it. I now wear my hair shoulder length (like a long bob) and I blow it dry using Argan oil and let it fall however it does. After years of fighting it, I finally feel happy with my hair.

I would ask your stylist what she thinks will work best with your hair texture and maybe try something new. It will grow back! (Oh, and when I'm in a hair funk, I feel highlights or dying it brown gives me the perk I need if I'm not quite eady to commit to a shorter or different hairstyle.)

Samiantha101 · October 2013

I don't really understand the "fessing" up bit. It's your hair.

I keep my hair long. I cut it only usually once or twice a year, usually about 6 inches. I don't really have a particular, per se. I've been doing this pre and post baby.

emmy236 · October 2013

I'm a natural blonde but it's a super dull, dishwater, almost grey color so I used to do an all over color to make it brighter. I'd go every 6 weeks. Well that isn't going to work so after baby I went in and had it dyed to my natural color and just a few highlights put in. It's way more boring but I can stretch it out a lot longer. Since being PG I have whole new sections of shorter fine hair that grew in. Since my hair is curly those short chunks get very matted with my normal long hair. If I didn't super condition and constantly comb, I'd have dreads.

CarrieB. · October 2013

After DD1 was born, I got bangs and they helped me feel more pulled together when I didn't have a lot of time to do my hair and just pulled it back in a pony or a messy bun.

I work in a client facing/sales position now and I have to get more regular hair cuts and colors which is a pain, but it does make me feel better about myself.

SLGILL1978 · October 2013

I had short hair pre pregnancy. My hair got really long during my pregnancy. I haven't cut it yet. The only con, I had with my hair is that it started to fall out about 3-4 months pp but I hear that's pretty normal.

DiveFrog · October 2013

My hair was fine and thin and pretty lifeless before PG and didn't change with PG, or afterwards. I keep it long enough to put up in a bun and then I use hairpieces and wigs.

It makes things super simple getting ready for the day and I can change my style from day to day too.

Karla CS · October 2013

If your hair dresser is anything like mine, he would know, even without you fessing up. Mine knew something was up because it wasn't falling the same way it does when he normally cuts it. And I didn't have to fess up to cheating on him, I had to fess up to the fact that pp my hair was getting terrible knots, so on more than one occasion, I had to cut some of it out. (Although, that's probably more obvious than someone else cutting it!) Either way, he wasn't mad, they understand stuff happens.

My hair's a little past shoulder length, and DD loves to grab it. But I like that it's long enough to throw into a ponytail without any fuss, especially when I run,

SunAndRain · October 2013

I would tell my hairdresser that I needed a trim but coudln't get in with him so I went elsewhere. A hairdresser would either be understanding and move on or discuss with you how to reach them in the future so that they could try to make themselves available to you. I'd want to give them an opportunity to look for ways to get me in to see THEM, understanding that their time isn't limitless. I wouldn't expect them to have hurt feelings so long as I was upfront.

I say go for a change of hairstyle! You never know unless you try!

KKCARLS · October 2013

I couldn't get into my hairdresser and I went somewhere else a few times. I decided I didn't really like the new place I was going even if it was less expensive and went back to my original stylist. When I saw her at my next appt. I just said - you must have been extremely busy lately because I've been having a hell of a time getting in.

She said she was sorry and if I called in the future and they said she was booked to just tell the receptionist to tell my stylist and my stylist said she would call me and set up something outside of her normal hours - how sweet of her. Since then I haven't had to go the VIP route b/c she has had openings, but it felt good to be a cherished customer.

SunAndRain · October 2013

KKCARLS said:

I couldn't get into my hairdresser and I went somewhere else a few times. I decided I didn't really like the new place I was going even if it was less expensive and went back to my original stylist. When I saw her at my next appt. I just said - you must have been extremely busy lately because I've been having a hell of a time getting in.
She said she was sorry and if I called in the future and they said she was booked to just tell the receptionist to tell my stylist and my stylist said she would call me and set up something outside of her normal hours - how sweet of her. Since then I haven't had to go the VIP route b/c she has had openings, but it felt good to be a cherished customer.

This! My hairdresser rearranged his hours around my scheduling needs for my next appointment! Being a valued customer makes me feel great!

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