T&P please - baby #2 measuring behind

abbyful · October 2013

Had my 1st ultrasound yesterday and both baby & sac are measuring 6 weeks. Baby has a heartbeat, I think it was in the high 90s but I don't remember exactly.

Problem is, I should be 7.5 weeks. I know when I ovulated because I was using OPKs and doing a half-hearted attempt at charting. ( https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/370c26 ). There's no way I'm only 6 weeks, I got the positive test September 19.

I go back in 2 weeks for another ultrasound. From what I've been reading online, it seems a 50-50 chance.

AmySmolos · October 2013

Thoughts and prayers with you. From what I've heard early ultrasounds can be off some and I pray that is the case here. Rest and try (I know it's impossible) to relax.

britvahok · October 2013

@abbyful my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

NeneCakies · October 2013

T&P, and don't google anymore stats.

brandyleighxx · October 2013

Lots of good vibes headed your way. Try to relax your body and think positive (I know, way easier said than done)

CourtneyEeps · October 2013

Prayers for a healthy little one. Big, big hugs to you.

Tapthathank · October 2013

Thinking of you! Try to relax and think positive thoughts. Grow baby, grow!

rp-chicago-mom · October 2013

Thinking good thoughts for you. I hope you get good news at your next appointment.

(((hugs)))

SJandVA · October 2013

T&P Try not to google. Try to relax. Hope your next appointment goes well. I'm sure it's going to be a long 2 weeks.

jodegaard · October 2013

Thoughts and prayers for you and the LO!

And step away from google in the mean time!

amaite · October 2013

I hope all goes well.

sdlaura · October 2013

T&P for you!

cedenton · October 2013

T & P for you!

Maizey06 · October 2013

T&P for you. Crossing my fingers everything works out.

AggieDaner · October 2013

It's perfectly natural to feel afraid right now, but don't go out of your way to scare yourself with Dr. Google! Sending lots and lots and lots of good thoughts your way, mama! We're here with you!

gollywollypog · October 2013

Oh hon, I hope everything works out and baby makes it.

fastcarsandfreedom3319 · October 2013

Grow little baby! Best wishes to you!

BluepointToasted · October 2013

T&P are with you!

MeredithML · October 2013

T & P for you and your growing little one. Like pp said try to relax and stay away from crazy dr google. Big hugs.

rainedrops117 · October 2013

T&Ps and baby sprouting vibes your way hun. (((hugs)))

MoFree · October 2013

Is late implantation a possibility? Best wishes and for your sanity please stay away from Dr. Google.

abbyful · October 2013

MoFree said:
Is late implantation a possibility?

I don't think so.

I got BFP a month ago.

abbyful · October 2013

Thanks for the T&P ladies! It's going to be a long 2 weeks. I'm hoping for the best, but expecting the worst. The more I think about it, the more I feel like there's no hope, 1.5 weeks seems like a lot.

abbyful · October 2013

ginabina11 said:

abbyful said:
Thanks for the T&P ladies! It's going to be a long 2 weeks. I'm hoping for the best, but expecting the worst. The more I think about it, the more I feel like there's no hope, 1.5 weeks seems like a lot.
Can you ask for an ultrasound for next week instead of waiting two weeks? I'd think they'd be able to tell what's going on since it's so early. Two weeks is a long time to wait in limbo.

They said they wanted to wait 2 weeks "so they could see more".

They rescheduled the whole appointment. They didn't do my blood work, medical history, etc. that was supposed to happen at this visit. Which also kind of made me feel like "she's probably going to m/c so we don't want to waste our time". (They didn't imply that at all, but I inferred it.) They are treating it like I'm just earlier than I thought.

DH doesn't get why I'm freaking out. He thinks our visit went great. He is perfectly content with the idea that we are just 6 weeks instead of 7.5. He thinks the explanations the NP gave sounded right (OPKs can peak up to 3 days before ovulation, implantation happen late) and also online found that there can be a 4-5 day variance on the u/s machine.

To me, the probability of all those things coming together in a "perfect storm" is quite low. And the fact I got BFP a month ago, don't you have to implant before BFP?

If I'm going to m/c, I wish we wouldn't have even seen the heartbeat, it's going to be worse knowing baby was alive and now isn't, versus if there would just be an empty sac. (I've never m/c before, I know it sucks horribly, but I can imagine it's even harder after seeing the little heart beating.)

It really sucks that Halloween (my next appt is on Halloween, isn't that great?! I may be to crushed to take DS out, and I really won't feel like answering the door and talking to neighbors) I will either be releived and over-the-moon happy, or completely crushed and depressed.

And my mom has been asking lately when we were going to have baby #2. She doesn't know I'm pregnant. We were going to announce on Thanksgiving, but now I'm dreading her pressuring over the holidays when I'm pretty sure I'll be recovering from a m/c and she'll be like "when are you going to try for baby #2?".

jessalynn521 · October 2013

Honestly, it can happen commonly for all of those things to come together for the perfect storm. With both of my successful pregnancies I was a week behind (granted my second was a surprise and based on LMP) but even with when I got my + pg test it seemed a week slow for. Like I would have had to have gotten a + pg test 2 DPO for both of them to have matched up with the u/s. Take a deep breath and remind yourself "today I am pregnant and I love my baby" It was the pgal mantra when I was over there, but it seems like it might help you now. I hope these next 2 weeks go quickly for you dear, and I am not counting you out yet.

sdlaura · October 2013

abbyful said:

Thanks for the T&P ladies! It's going to be a long 2 weeks. I'm hoping for the best, but expecting the worst. The more I think about it, the more I feel like there's no hope, 1.5 weeks seems like a lot.
Can you ask for an ultrasound for next week instead of waiting two weeks? I'd think they'd be able to tell what's going on since it's so early. Two weeks is a long time to wait in limbo.
They said they wanted to wait 2 weeks "so they could see more". They rescheduled the whole appointment. They didn't do my blood work, medical history, etc. that was supposed to happen at this visit. Which also kind of made me feel like "she's probably going to m/c so we don't want to waste our time". (They didn't imply that at all, but I inferred it.) They are treating it like I'm just earlier than I thought. DH doesn't get why I'm freaking out. He thinks our visit went great. He is perfectly content with the idea that we are just 6 weeks instead of 7.5. He thinks the explanations the NP gave sounded right (OPKs can peak up to 3 days before ovulation, implantation happen late) and also online found that there can be a 4-5 day variance on the u/s machine. To me, the probability of all those things coming together in a "perfect storm" is quite low. And the fact I got BFP a month ago, don't you have to implant before BFP? If I'm going to m/c, I wish we wouldn't have even seen the heartbeat, it's going to be worse knowing baby was alive and now isn't, versus if there would just be an empty sac. (I've never m/c before, I know it sucks horribly, but I can imagine it's even harder after seeing the little heart beating.) It really sucks that Halloween (my next appt is on Halloween, isn't that great?! I may be to crushed to take DS out, and I really won't feel like answering the door and talking to neighbors) I will either be releived and over-the-moon happy, or completely crushed and depressed. And my mom has been asking lately when we were going to have baby #2. She doesn't know I'm pregnant. We were going to announce on Thanksgiving, but now I'm dreading her pressuring over the holidays when I'm pretty sure I'll be recovering from a m/c and she'll be like "when are you going to try for baby #2?".

I think in general that you are being a realist and very reasonable about the situation. I know that for me, it is better to assume that things are not ok and be pleasantly surprised, rather than get my hopes up and be disappointed. I know it is way easier said than done, but I think you need to try to take your mind off of it and go on as normal as much as possible. And I think you are smart to keep it yourself now. I hope things turn out fine and you don't need to deal with this,but In my opinion it's easier to tell someone that you had a miscarriage and get their sympathy then, rather than tell the person you're pregnant, have them get excited about it, and then have to give them bad news. I'm sorry you're dealing with this and hope everything is fine on Halloween, but like I said, I think you have the right attitude about things. I will be thinking of you!

rMe6411 · October 2013

I wish I had been on here more recently. Hopefully this will give you positive thoughts. I went in for my first ultrasound due to some spotting and cramping. I was measuring 7 wks 2 days when I calculated I should be 8 weeks 5 days. I was crushed. I thought for sure I was going to miscarry. But the spotting stopped and baby is fine. They said I must have ovulated late and implanted later than I thought. The hospital had my "new" due date written down but my midwife is not planning to change it unless my 18 week is also behind. Supposedly I am between 11-12 weeks now.