Ugh! Potty training at daycare vent!

buddrfly421 · October 2013

So DS is doing SO good at home with potty training. Like I said in my last post I put him in underwear all day and pull ups for nap and night time. I've been working with him for 2 weeks now, and off and on with him for awhile before that. Well I took pull ups for him to daycare to try it out. I wanted to just try it out there because I know he's way more distracted there. (I work at the same place he goes) asked his teacher at lunch how he was doing and she said he wouldn't even go for them. Which I knew right away was a lie because he will squeeze any little drop out every single time. So I go to pick him up and I'm waiting to talk to his main teacher and the first teacher I talked to earlier says he did better in the afternoon that he acually went. So as I'm waiting for his teacher I look at his bathroom chart for the day and they hadn't even taken him in the morning like she said! She only took him once in the late afternoon when I went to pick up, the other times they just changed him like a diaper. No wonder he didn't do "good"! So his main teacher tells me that she doesn't think he's ready so they just want to use diapers for now. Which I know is my choice but I am NOT going to spend more money on pull ups when they are just going to lie to me and tell me they took him. Sooo frustrating! I'm still going to do it 100% at home, I just hope it doesn't mess him up too much since he's at daycare 9 hours a day :[ sorry just had to vent!

Leap08 · October 2013

tas1883 said:

They should be abiding by your wishes. If it is working at home then they should be able to work with him at daycare. Send him in undies along with a bunch of changes of clothes and let the teacher know when you drop him off at his room for the day. Tell them he has been using undies at home and doing great so this is the next step. They will either take him potty like you want or have messes to clean up. If they still refuse I would talk to your boss/director just like any other parent having a problem with their child's teacher.

FYI my DD is the only potty trained child in the 2 and under wing of her daycare and has been potty trained since 18 months. Actually daycare started it as she was copying at that time the older kids who were potty trained. When they got a new batch of teachers we had a very big to do about them needing to take her potty and not just think because she is the littlest she wears a diaper. They normally don't really start working with the kids unless they are showing interest until the 2.5 mark as they like them to be fully trained before moving to the 3 year old room.

Good luck

I completely agree. Take him in undies. They will either have to take him potty or change his wet clothes. You're the parent and you know he is ready. I also think being in undies at home and a pull-up at school will be confusing for him. Talk to his lead teacher a little more and explain what your plan is going to be going forward. Tell her how you handle going potty at home and see if she will follow the same plan. They really should support whatever it is you want to do. Good
luck!

Virgo17 · October 2013

I agree that it seems a little soon, but then again maybe I am bitter that my almost 3.5 year old is still not fully potty trained! They are probably not used to dealing with it for kids at his age. If it is super important to you, I guess you could bring it up to them again. I would probably just continue working on him at home. Maybe they could agree to put him on the potty if during diaper change he is dry.

shannm · October 2013

This is exactly why I had no interest involving daycare in potty training. I waited till he was more than ready, switched to underpants cold turkey after Christmas and brought him to daycare after the new year fully trained. I was in no hurry.

buddrfly421 · October 2013

wife07mom09 said:
he is 18 mo? Dont you think it is a little too early? sure some kids can be PT that early but sounds like you are really frustrated and Id hate that to hinder him.
sure work with him at home but I think there needs to be 100% consistency between DC and home.

No, he's 22 months not sure if my ticker says 18 months because I'm mobile.

PseudoMama · October 2013

You could try underwear and plastic pants. They won't really have a choice then will they.

cecilyandgautam · October 2013

Sounds like you're at a center, which presumably has non-carpet flooring or at least stain resistant flooring. If that's the case, I would take the pull-ups away and I would ask that they proactively take DS to the potty at least every 1.5 hours (or whatever you think is reasonable based on your experience at home) if he doesn't ask to go sooner. Pull-ups are diapers in the shape of underwear and I really think they just delay the whole PT process; the kid knows he can just go in them if he's having too much fun and the parents know there's no rush to get them to a potty (DH is a lot less "on it" when DD is in a Pull-Up).

Regarding his age - you know what he's capable of. In most parts of the world, kids stop using a diaper well before 2. There are plenty of cultural influences that make PT at 2.5/3 "normal" in the U.S. but that doesn't mean it's unnatural to learn at a younger age. Don't listen to the nay sayers. You know your kid is ready - talk to him about it, give him a "tour" of the daycare bathroom and let him know that's where he'll be going from now on, and leave the kid in undies. He'll probably have a few accidents, the daycare workers & he will learn from them, and then you'll be done. Good luck!

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