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school or baby?? I can't decide

smileybabyboysmileybabyboy member
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I guess I'll just ask your opinion.  DS is 13 months old now and I would love to be pregnant again.  However, I can't decide if I should get pregnant now or get through my 2 year college program that I just started.  I will be 34 next month and it makes me nervous to wait to have another one. We got pregnant with DS quickly and he was an easy and smooth pregnancy. I'm afraid if I wait 2 years that we wont get pregnant as easily and they older you are the more risks involved.  So what would you do?  Have another right now and put off school a little longer or wait and graduate first before having a second?  I've been thinking about this for months and I can't figure it out. 
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Re: school or baby?? I can't decide

  • PunkyBoosterPunkyBooster member
    Get through a year and a half of school then try.

    Many of my friends are pushing 40 and still (easily) having healthy babies. Age is only a number.
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  • CoachAPCoachAP member
    Is the 2 year college program going to lead to a career or significant increase in pay/living for you?

    I may be in the minority here, but i am also turning 34 in a few weeks and I regret putting off my first (LO is 6 mos) due to a new job and wish I started sooner so we could have the option of #3 or even #4 down the road as now i feel that is going to be unlikely.  So just some hindsight - nothing is more important to me now and I will never "wait" on something that is ultimately trivial compared to a child!

    However, if this program will lead to significant improvements in the life of your family, then yes it is worth consideration to get through it as soon as possible, if its just something that you would like to do/nice to have, i would have to vote baby :)

    Good luck with your decision.


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  • mAnYaShamAnYaSha member

    School+babies = rough. I am sooo happy to be done with my MBA.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

    I started when DS#1 was 1 and then took a year break to have DS #2. There was a small overlap of pregnancy and studying. If you just need to get through the program, then perhaps you could study until LO is born and then take a little break. However, if you want to do well and really get into your studying, do not overlap.

    As pp said, age is not the biggest determinant at your age. Consider age difference between kids and what would work best for your family. Getting myself into school was additional deterrent from trying for #2 until we were financially ready.

    If your baby rabies are getting bad, then it is probably best to have a baby and return back to school, otherwise your mind will never be on your studies.

    GL !

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  • Jmgresham22Jmgresham22 member
    I have my two babies close together and love it. I plan on being a stay at home mom indefinitely. We are ttc #3.

    My point is we can't wait for a perfect time because there isn't one. If you love being a mom and want another little one then go for it. School can be figured out... There's nothing like the joy an happiness a baby brings. And no babies aren't a whim.... But it's ok to look for advice or affirmation that you're making the right choice.
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  • smileybabyboysmileybabyboy member
    Thank you for the recommendations. Knowing me and how distracted I can get, I should probably try to get through school first before having #2 like many of you mentioned.  When I was pregnant with DS I could barely study because I was so tired and distracted with the excitement.  Thank you! 
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