Would you say something?

brownmouse · October 2013

Hello there! I have a question, and wanted some input from other babywearing Moms. I recently saw a picture of a friend of mine who is a new mom (Her son is 4 months old, I believe) carrying her baby in a moby facing outward, and it didn't look secure at all. Made me nervous just looking at the picture, because he looked like he was going to fall out, and was dangling facing outward by his crotch. I am wondering if I should say something. Obviously I would be nice about it, I wore DD for a long time in the same wrap, so I feel like I could give her some pointers, but I don't want to be that mom telling her she is doing it wrong...
Thoughts?

Emerald27 · October 2013

If it were me, I probably wouldn't say anything. I might wear my baby in a comfy carrier/position and praise it casually when I was with her. Chances are that if she's wearing her LO improperly, neither one of them is comfortable. She may mention it to you if she sees you happy and comfy, and at that point, you could tell her the way that you found the moby most comfortable.

st.augbride · October 2013

If it was a close friend or relative I might say something but make it seem like it was coming from your own experience, like "by the way, I have the same carrier and I noticed that if I accidentally do x,y,z then it wasn't as secure". But if it's someone you don't talk to very much or aren't very close to, then probably not.

ncbelle · October 2013

If it's someone I count as a friend - yes, I'd say something about how they might be more comfortable. If it's a random person, I only say something if it seems the baby is in danger.

blu-eyedwife · October 2013

How close are you? If it were a close friend of mine, I would probably say something, but focus on them, not the baby. Like "I saw that adorable picture of you and baby B! But my back hurts just looking at you carrying her! Does it bother you at all?" With carriers, I really find that comfort is key. People like the idea of wearing the baby - as your friend obviously does, but if you're not doing it correctly, or using the wrong carrier, it's not comfy. So "advice" which helps make it more comfortable is usually well accepted.