terrified

babym6705 · October 2013

I'm 14w1d today and we have announced to family, close friends, my principal, coworkers, and students now. I am terrified that now that the news is pretty much out something bad will happen. My anxiety level is so high. I don't have another appt. for about 4.5 wks. I feel like Charlotte from SATC. I'm so happy, I'm terrified. Does anyone else feel like this? How do you cope? Part of me wants to post my FB announcement, but I honestly feel like I'm jinxing it by pressing post.

SPS430 · October 2013

This was me last time. I'm 12 weeks 3 days and not announcing until my verifi test comes back.

babym6705 · October 2013

background info: I am not PGAL but it took us 3 yrs to conceive.

MaryKathryn1987 · October 2013

We all know someone who has suffered a loss during pregnancy but we all know a lot more people with happy healthy babies. You're past your first trimester. Think positive and fight your negative feelings with positive ones and take deep breaths. Hope for the best and focus on picturing your new life with your new addition!! Best wishes!

BR · October 2013

I know how you feel. I still haven't told many people because I'm so scared. I'm 14 weeks and it's getting very hard to hide, especially since this is not my first pregnancy. My only advice is to take one day at a time and try to focus on the positive, that you are out of the first trimester and that you have a healthy, growing baby inside of you. And whether you told people or not, it won't jinx anything. What will happen, will happen anyway. I know it's hard- I'm trying to follow my own advice at the moment.

PaddysGirl8 · October 2013

I feel this way everytime we tell someone new. Also, as I get close to an appointment. I have one tomorrow, hubby can't be there so I was relieved when my mom told me she would come along.

BiggerinRealLife · October 2013

I felt the same way! Like I jinxed my pregnancy. I'm better now, but know what you mean.

Rachel71189 · October 2013

I keep telling myself that I want the support of friends and fam if anything happens to my widdle gummy bear. I wouldn't want to just it and cry alone. Hang in there no stress n positive thoughts might help.

RocksInTheWater · October 2013

I totally know what you mean. So many people know at this point that I can't even imagine if something bad happened now.

porterlove525 · October 2013

A lot of PgAlers have mottos like "I am pregnant today, I am happy today" I try to take it one day at a time. The odds are in our favor at this point that our babies will be born in April and we have a less than 1% chance of losing them before then...those are pretty good odds. All we can do is hope and try to enjoy these days as much as we can.

avidkeo · October 2013

I'm with you, I totally understand where you are coming from! Yesterday, I was a bit anxious before my MW appt today, all I could think is what happens if the cant find the heartbeat?

I'm a numbers girl, and I keep reminding myself there is less than 1% chance of anything happening after 12 weeks.

Try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy, and congratulations!

Bluebird2318 · October 2013

avidkeo said:

I'm a numbers girl, and I keep reminding myself there is less than 1% chance of anything happening after 12 weeks.

This is me exactly. I just keep telling myself that I've seen healthy baby and a strong heartbeat after 12 weeks, so the odds are on my side.

I understand how you feel though, OP. I'm kind of afraid to announce. My pregnant skeleton tee and skeleton leggings for Halloween came in the mail today, and I totally got that "oh man, oh man, I jinxed myself" feeling.

sayysayy13 · October 2013

I feel the same exact way. Except everyone keeps telling me it's such a happy and exciting time. You should be happy and not worry about something bad happening. The cat is pretty much out of the bag for me I'm just not announcing it on Facebook until we find out sex in November.

twinklemoon · October 2013

Same here. Actually, my cousin and I work together. I noticed that everyone that would walk in through our office he would tell them I was pregnant. It really annoyed me because I felt that is my right to tell whoever I want. I talked to him about it and he said he was just so happy and excited for me. I get that but I am afraid that if something happened. These same customers would later on ask "oh how is pregnancy going" and then here I would have to explain what happened or say something like "I lost it". He respected my wishes and stopped saying it. For a second I felt like a bitch for asking him not to, but ultimately I felt is no ones news to announce but mine and my husbands. Hope your fears and terrors ease as the days go by. I still have my moments, but we are only human.

sarahbeth27 · October 2013

I'm still terrified. I keep thinking "we'll tell some people after the next appointment." Then when that appointment goes well, I thin... "Well, lets wait and tell people after the next appointment..."

PgAL & Infertility brain can suck a fat one.

Erikahenderson1 · October 2013

I bled at 5 weeks. Everything is fine, and I waited til 12 weeks to announce it. 12 weeks and 1 day, I bled more, like, a lot more than at 5 weeks. Ended up being ok, but I am always worried too.

mkmae · October 2013

I completely can relate. It's hard not to obsessively worry, but some things are just out of our control. I am just trying to soak in the happiness of actually being pregnant. I hope you can feel more confident soon!

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