Avoiding triggers

TwinkleTor · October 2013

I feel guilty for trying to avoid triggers. This morning while driving to work some of the songs that make me think about Domenik I attempted to skip over. Then I didn't because I felt like I was avoiding thinking about him. I feel like by doing that I'm neglecting him in away. I'm not sure if that makes sense. But does anyone understand? Is this wrong?

mingaling2 · October 2013

I do the same thing. I don't know if it's "wrong," but I feel like sometimes I have to just hold it together (like at work).

Noethola · October 2013

In our worlds, you do what you do to get through a day. It doesn't mean you are ignoring him, its simply a way to preserve yourself. If you feel like you are trying to avoid all thought of him (I know you are not) just find things that are good triggers for memories. Big ((hugs))!

OSUWifey09 · October 2013

***SIGGY WARNING***

I second what mrsgerman said - do not feel bad. I think it's just natural to avoid those triggers until we are comfortable facing them again; that's all a part of our lives now, unfortunately.

I still avoid things that remind me of Devon, and I still have a hard time looking at his memory box [even though I feel so much better when I have a hard day and get to look in that box to see his sweet face in pictures]. Some days, I can face random triggers and be OK; other days, they set me off. You just never know how grief will work. Eventually, they will get easier to handle, I hope. *hugs*

weddedwife · October 2013

I don't think it's wrong. I think you do what you've gotta do on any given day just to get through it. Sometimes I'll "set aside time" to grieve, like when I'm driving home. It helps to have some time to just think and cry or whatever I need to.

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