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Parenting after a Loss
Sueball1
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Got Leo's frenulum cut...still BF issues :(
Sueball1
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At our 2 week pedi appt today, the doc confirmed that Leo is indeed tongue tied, so we went ahead with the frenulectomy. It should prevent him from speech issues and other problems with his tongue, so I'm glad we did it, but I was really hoping it would be the "magic" fix that everyone told me it would be - that he would immediately start nursing like a champ.
We've now tried to nurse 3 times since he had the procedure and its the same old situation... he just can't seem to latch or "hold on" to my nipples. The EPing is getting really tiring and frustrating and I'm at my wits end. I want to just switch to maybe FF with BM supplementation so badly... so I can just pump some and FF the rest. My supply is low and I just can't seem to keep up with my baby's voracious appetite.
DH is pressuring me so much about the BFing - it makes me feel like such a failure. I know he thinks I'm just not trying hard enough but I am so frustrated with the whole situation... and I just hate that my poor kid is missing out on having mom's attention since she is constantly hooked up to a machine with no hands free trying to keep up with his appetite.
Rant over.
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Re: Got Leo's frenulum cut...still BF issues :(
m/c August 2007 - Blighted Ovum
Sean - Our IUI/Injectable miracle born Oct. 5, 2008.
Liam - Our second miracle born July 16, 2010
It takes a while to learn bfing. Tell dh to either grow a set of boobs & do it himself or shut up!
Just keep at bfing & you both will figure it out. Have you tried calling a LC? I would.?
I would call her back since something has changed. Did the dr tell you whether he'd be uncomfy at all? that can really affect nursing.?
And no one should be disappointed in you. You're doing the best you can for your baby & you. Everyone else is beat for the time being & if they don't like it, that's their problem. Unfortunately, right now you can only worry about leo.
And if in the end you decide that pumping and bfing isn't worth the trouble, the only thing that matters is that it's the right decision for you guys. Not your dh, not your parents, just you & leo. ?
Please hang in there and know that even with no issues, bfing takes quite a few weeks to get. MEredith & I are still having issues. It's a process and it takes time. I promise it's not some magic button we push to make it work. ?
You do the best you can do, and that's all you can do! If it doesn't work out, thank god there is formula. I know it's hard, but please don't let this wear on you. Leo will be just fine!
I somehow missed this post at first but I just paged you in a new post.
I've been exactly where you are.
Susie -
#1 - You are a great mother. Don't ever question that.
#2 - you have to do what you feel in your heart is best for Leo. I understand that your DH wants what he thinks is best for Leo, but you are doing everything you can and your DH needs to shut the hell up and deal with the reality of the situation
#3 - BFing takes time to figure out. You might want to see a LC now that Leo's frenulum is cut to try to get him some help learning how to latch. He's new at the BFing thing, too!
#4 - My LC told me that if you use the pump for a couple of minutes and then try latching, it helps pull your nipples out to make latching easier for the baby. It might be something worth trying.
#5 - If you are going to continue pumping, get a hands-free bra. I've heard you can just cut slits in a regular sports bra for that, too.
#6 - We love you! Lots and lots!
Honey, as long as you feed that baby, (IMO) it doesn't matter how you do it. What's most important is that he's healthy and you're happy. I'm not here to encourage you to give up if BFing is truly what you want to do....but if it doesn't work, you're NOT a failure. I hated BFing. It didn't work well for us at all (couldn't latch, one of my nipples was flattening, I was bleeding all over, DS was bawling his head off) and I quit trying the first night in the hospital. I am SO glad I did- I was a huge freaking stress ball and it was taking away from what really mattered- enjoying my sweet new baby. Anderson's healthy as a horse so far, and I don't feel at all like I let him down- if mama's happy, baby's happy! I love the fact that DH is just as involved in feeding him as I am, and I enjoy not being limited in what I can and can't eat. Again....JMO. I think BFing is wonderful too, but just wanted to share that I'm a "quitter" and my world went on!
And until your DH tries to feed a child using one of HIS most sensitive body parts while juggling insane post partum hormones....he doesn't get a vote.
((hugs))
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
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