Sleep. Help us!

skooz · October 2013

I am seriously at the end of my rope. DD will not go to sleep on her own anymore. I have no idea what else to try. She screams, not just cries, but screams when I leave the room. She had an ear infection a couple weeks ago so I held her more than normal for a few days (sometimes rocking her to sleep or holding her for naps), but I don't see how that could've thrown things this far off. I guess I'm bad at cry it out because I never make it past 30-40 minutes because she's screamed until her voice is gone by then and I feel like I have to do something. She has dropped down to one nap, I don't know if it's because she was really ready for that or I just couldn't deal with the screaming twice a day. She does the same thing at bedtime. I have no idea if this is related either, but she's had more sleeping issues since DH came home about 2 months ago (he was gone for about 5 months). I'll take any suggestions at this point. I can't deal with the nap/bedtime battle anymore, I feel like I'm about to go insane and it makes me want to just let her play until she passes out from being so tired. Oh and our routine didn't change other than the few days of ear infection. Brush teeth, read a book, sing a few songs, and put her down sleepy but awake.

skooz · October 2013

BPaws said:

Oh boy Hun! No advice but HUGE hugs! I'm a sucker- I snuggle H to sleep every night- but that's not doable forever. I hope someone can give you some more insight! Lots of hug

Thanks. Rocking her to sleep has even been backfiring sometimes. As soon as I transfer her to the crib she wakes up and starts crying. Like I said, I have no idea what to do at this point

SJandVA · October 2013

Sorry I have no advice. I'm on kid number 2 and still messed up the sleeping with DD2 just like DD1.
Not that it helps but just know you're not alone. I know exactly how you feel.

skooz · October 2013

@bpaws , it's been almost 2 weeks now. I would love it if she just went back to normal next week! She's also been waking a few times per night too, so maybe it is just a rough patch. @sjandva thanks, it is nice to know I'm not the only one. My SIL has a daughter a little older than DD and she's never had any problems like this so I was starting to wonder what is wrong with DD/my parenting. Maybe I'll just bed share until another baby comes along. I'm sure that transition would be greeeat.

sdlaura · October 2013

I'm sorry. Our doctor told us that if you do CIO and you give in after 30-40 minutes, that just teaches the baby that all they have to do to get you to come back is scream for at least 30-40 minutes....so that's what they will start to do.

I know it must be super hard, but I think you probably will have to do it and not give in for a few nights for it to take hold!

allardr · October 2013

I can't do CIO. Another strategy maybe would be go in for a snuggle and lay LO back down (either once calm or after about 2min). LO will prob scream again, give it maybe 5min, redo snuggle & lay back down. So LO learns you'll come if hear LO, then maybe wont feel need to cry since knows you'll come and comfort.

GL!

jillybean7582 · October 2013

There is a wonder week that starts right around the 59 1/2 week mark. My DS has always fought sleep around the begining of each on of these leaps. It usually lasts 1-2 weeks then he goes back to normal. Hopefully that will be the case for you too. I really haven't found anything to curb the fighting sleep but keeping track of the Wonder Weeks and knowing that i probably the cause for us and that there is an end in the very near future helps me to deal with it and stay calmer.

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