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Moving while pregnant vent

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in February 2014 Moms
So after a long battle with the bank we are going to be losing the house. This has been going on for 3-4 years now and we knew this could happen at some point... But right now?! Really?

Honestly our situation could be a lot worse. We've been living in our house without making a mortgage payment in over 3 years while this has all been going on. And the bank is going to pay us a small amount of money to give up the house instead of going to trial.

If I wasn't pregnant I would be fine with all of this. DH is very good at supporting our family and we even have a rental house we could live in. We'll be fine. But these damn hormones and the idea of packing up and moving at this point of my pregnancy is not appealing.

What's also hardest for me is that this whole pregnancy I've been picturing my baby in this house. And her first steps here and everything. Now I don't know what to picture. Plus my baby shower was supposed to be here, but we won't be here anymore and I don't know where we'll be, therefore i don't have an address for the invitations.

So I'm hormonal and teary and sad. I know everything will work out just fine but this timing sucks. :( thanks for letting me get it out ladies.


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  • WookieesCookiesWookieesCookies member
    I'm so sorry. I know this has to feel pretty devastating. No matter where you have your special moments, they will still be special. You will remember the feelings and people more than the surroundings. Hugs in this hard time. With my first son we moved unexpectedly the same month he was due. All the images in my head changed, but I know now it doesn't matter where they took place, but who was there to make it memorable.
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  • AudsxAudsx member
    Sorry you are going through a hard time, moving is difficult even without added complication of pregnancy. But try n look forward and think of the new memories your family will make with your new addition albeit in a different home. Best of luck
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  • keags5496keags5496 member
    megash113 said:

    Maybe I'm missing something, but why weren't you making mortgage payments for three years? 

    I was wondering this to. I really want to be sympathetic, but if you really haven't been paying for 3 years and are getting paid to leave the house, that doesn't sound like that bad of a deal m
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  • Mazingmommyof6Mazingmommyof6 member
    I lost my house 3 years ago... I understand how sad that can be
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  • CarissaACarissaA member
    I'm having to move too, we have a total of 30 days to pack up and move and find a new place. It is super stressful but we did find a new place and will be moving in 2 weeks.

    Good luck!
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  • Meghan14Meghan14 member
    I am sorry you have to move.  What a pain.  You can do this!- take your time, try to relax and try not to get overwhelmed (i know easier said than done).  ((HUGS))
    As PPs said memories will be special no matter where they happen.  

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  • NoetholaNoethola member
    Memories will be made regardless of local, though I know its hard to give up on dreams. There are a lot of us on TB that are in the process of moving, so you are not alone. Moving is never fun, regardless of timing. However, at least you have a heads up and are moving now instead of the bank taking things back while you are trying to deliver/have just delivered a newborn. 

    If you did save the money you might have been paying on your mortgage, perhaps you can invest in movers to help you? That will at least make it a bit less stressful.
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  • azzyberryazzyberry member
    I'm sorry you are dealing with that.

    Our circumstances are different but we are unexpectedly having to move out of state next month so I can completely relate to the stress of having to move while pregnant. I just keep trying to stay positive and think about the new memories and adventures we will have in our new home.  This is actually my 3rd time moving while pregnant.  I seemed to only ever have to move when I'm pregnant...lol.  

    Everything will work out.  Good luck to you!
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  • wheathergirlwheathergirl member
    edited October 2013
    megash113 said:

    Maybe I'm missing something, but why weren't you making mortgage payments for three years? 

    It's a long and pretty boring story I was trying to spare you all from but ill try to make it short.

    Basically DH bought the house right before everything went in the shiter here is ca. We had a sliding interest rate that went up to $8000 a month. Which is ridiculous and we cant afford. When we tried to get it remodified the bank said "well you have been making
    Your payments so you don't seem to be struggling" so we stopped paying. And have been going around in circles with them ever since. And up until recently we thought that we were going to end up keeping the house which is why i had pictured bring my newborn home to this house. We could go to trial and possibly keep the house, but it's worth much less now than we bought it for and owe. And taking the deal from the bank is the best option. If you want more details I can go into it but its really just about the messed up loans the CA banks were giving out a few years ago ECt.

    I'm not looking for sympathy on my living situation. Like I said in my post we are going to be just fine. I am fully aware that we are luckier than most.

    My post was on having to pack up and move while pregnant and being emotional over saying good bye to what's been my home and what I thought was going to be my baby's home.
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  • wheathergirlwheathergirl member
    DreamingBabies said:

    If you haven't been paying your mortgage in 3 years, you should have money to pay for packers and movers. I'm having a hard time being sympathetic to your situation.

    We totally do. My post isn't about financial woes it's about emotional ones. Like I keep saying my family is very lucky and we'll be fine. This is just crappy timing and hard for an emotional pregnant lady.

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  • BioGirl21BioGirl21 member

    I'm sorry about the crappy housing situation. 8 grand is an insane house payment! I don't think anyone could pay that!

    I moved in 1st tri. It was hard and it sucked! But I would imagine moving now would be easier than moving with a small infant that you'd have to keep track of and occupy. Hire movers with the money from the bank! I plan on doing that the next time we move.

                                   

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  • keags5496keags5496 member
    That makes more sense now I guess. I don't blame you for not wanting to move while pregnant. That does suck.
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  • AngLK987AngLK987 member
    That's some pretty shady stuff with the bank, I'm sorry it's taken 3 years for them to figure this out, I hope you're able to find a more permanent place for your family that suits your needs, like some PP said it's not about locations for the memories, they'll be special no matter where they happen :) Good Luck with the move!
      
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