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KrystenLeanne
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ectopic? scared/sad/confused.. .please help
KrystenLeanne
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Hi guys-
I'm new here and this is my first post, so I hope I am in the right place.
I stopped taking the pill about 6 or 7 months ago. DH and I aren't really TRYING to conceive but we're just sort of not NOT trying and letting things happen as they may. I have been using the Period Tracker app on my phone just to monitor everything.
Anyway, for the past week or so I have been feeling dizzy and just not quite right. I figured I was coming down with something. I woke up yesterday morning EXTREMELY tired... like... falling asleep on the way to work tired. no idea what was up. i went to the bathroom when i first got there and i was spotting. I was confused... i'm not due for my period for another 6 days and I have been pretty on schedule. I also started having some cramping but it was really all on my left side.
I made it through the day... not sure how. the spotting continued all day... bright bright red. not enough to wear a pad but it was there every time i wiped. around 4pm yesterday i really started to feel yucky... queasy and more crampy and still very fatigued. at that point i made the mistake of googling this and read about ectopic pregnancies.
i stopped on the way home and got some first response tests. i made a deal with myself that if it was positive i would go to the hospital, if not i would would just keep an eye.
i took one and at the 3 minute mark, where they say to read it, it was very very faintly positive. at this point i burst into tears, i was so scared. a couple minutes later i pulled myself together and looked at it again and the positive line was gone and it was just negative. wth????
DH came home right around then and was so sweet when i told him everything. we decided to call my primary care dr. i spoke with the urgent care nurse who didnt seem very compassionate and concerned. she gave me home advice for nausea which was sort of baffling. she finally said to just take another test, if it's negative "don't worry about" and if it's positive then to call my OB.
i took another test and it was negative. DH and i made a plan that if the pain got any worse we would go to the ER.
i tossed and turned all night and barely slept. pain was the same as yesterday. i took another test first thing since i know first morning urine is best. it was negative. i had today off so i went back to bed for a bit.
i am still having some spotting and the pain. i expected to get my period but it still hasn't happened and i just don't feel premenstrual.
the pain in my left side has gotten a little worse so i called the ob/gyn today and spoke with the nurse. she was very very sweet and knowledgeable. she said that her concern is that the last period i had i got despite being pregnant and that this could be an ectopic pregnancy. she doesn't think that this is an ectopic pregnancy from the last time hubs and i made love.. about 2 weeks ago, right around the time i should have been ovulating. she said that would be too early for me to be having symptoms.
so she had me come in for a pregnancy test but the blood results won't be in for a bit. she said she would call to give them to me on tuesday (they're closed on monday due to the holiday) but the lab tech said i could call urgent care tomorrow for the results.
she said that if the pain got any worse or if i started having shoulder pain to go to the ER.
i'm just so worried about everything. i don't want to go to the ER and have it be nothing but I don't want to wait if it is something. the pain isn't bad right now.. maybe a 1-2, at times a 3. but i'm terrified of waking up in the middle of the night at a 10.
i'm so all over the place emotionally. any tips???
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Re: ectopic? scared/sad/confused.. .please help
Like GM said, if your pain gets worse or you have severe bleeding (like a pad an hour or more) then go to the ER. Until then, nothing you're experiencing is an emergency.
It also would be beneficial for you to pick up a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility or at the very least take the tutorials on Fertilityfriend.com and delete the app on your phone. Even "regular" women can have months where their periods are a few days early or late, and that's still normal. Plus the phone app (unless you're using it to input your basal body temperature readings each day) is 100% useless at determining your fertile period.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
I agree with Jmgresham22 that it's always worth getting checked out if you are concerned-better off "wasting time" and find nothing than the alternative.
I had a MMC in Jan, took 2 months off and then in May, a few days before AF, started spotting and had some discomfort. I was hoping implantation was the reason. Took a test 2 days before AF, BFN. Took test 3 day later, a squinter was there. I scheduled blood work for 5 days later and started bleeding 2 days before ad HPT was not getting darker, so I was convinced chemical. Went for 1st betas and that afternoon had intense side/back pain, dizzy and couldn't decide if I wanted to vomit or pass out. Went to ER where they said threatened MC and ruptured cyst. Went about my normal work week and the following week, after blood wok showed slowly rising betas and decreasing progesterone, plus me complaining of feeling full and 10 days of bleeding, an u/s showed EP, surgery showed no cyst but a ruptured tube and internal bleeding.
So, long story short, you don't have to be 7-8 weeks for an EP to be serious. I was 5 weeks and I chart so I knew when I ovulated.
Good luck to you-I hope it is not an EP but a cyst that resolves on it's own. Be your own advocate and seek help if you are still concerned.
BFP #2 5/7/13 EDD 1/14/2014 Ectopic discovered 5/21/13, lost left tube
Referred to RE, blood work done August 2013, AMH 0.27, all else normal, HSG clear
Yes, ectopics happen but they really ARE rare. For a woman to get an ectopic and to have a pregnancy and not get a BFP, that's even more rare.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
With that being said its better to be careful and get checked out even if its nothing than to listen to people telling you it's nothing and end up reproductively challenged due to a lost tube or worse, dead.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.