Fleas!!! (Long)No thank you!! Christmas concern.

lafsalot · October 2013

I have posted before that I am having challenges with DH about Christmas with a new baby... He is set on spending Christmas Eve and day (morning) with his family.... I can live with spending the time with family, just not at his sisters.... It is not comfortable and not very clean... To add fuel to the fire, we stopped by for a few minutes yesterday to pick up something, and thier dog was infested with fleas!!! Hundreds of them!!! She is not a diligent cleaner to begin with and I let her know that she would need to vacuum daily for a month or more to get rid of fleas... Her dd bombed the house on Friday but the dog was still covered so additional fleas were reintroduced!!! I sent DH over with the bottle of Frontline we use for our 3 dogs to spray the poor pup down! My heart ached for the fur baby. She is now mangy and doesn't even look like herself. I checked with SIL this morning to see if the dog still had fleas and she had her son check they appear to be dying and off of her... But I still don't want to take my infant over there at Christmas... Fleas, tape worms and bubonic plague can be picked from flea infestations... I keep trying to let DH know that I am uncomfortable taking an infant over there and he takes it so personally... But I don't want our baby exposed to unnecessary infections... I have told him we could have soup or what not at our house on Christmas Eve and then breakfast at our house before we leave to go to my greandparents for dinner there... I tried to pull on the heart strings of baby's first Christmas at our home... My preference is being at my grandparents for all of the holiday Eve and day, but I am trying to compromise and spend the time with his family but in a way that us safe for a baby. I feel bad but I can't control that environment - I can control my home and know we don't have fleas and our house is clean and large. Am I being unreasonable?

Kim22 · October 2013

Heck no! I'm all for sharing the holidays with both families but that is gross. Newborn aside, I wouldn't want to go in that house alone with the fleas. How is she not mortified that you even had to mention them in the first place? This is one you have to stand your ground on.

justmepreggo2020 · October 2013

^ This

gwenneh · October 2013

Kim22 said:

Heck no! I'm all for sharing the holidays with both families but that is gross. Newborn aside, I wouldn't want to go in that house alone with the fleas. How is she not mortified that you even had to mention them in the first place? This is one you have to stand your ground on.

Exactly this. Flea infestations are almost impossible to get rid of easily; getting rid of them involves nasty chemicals and before you do manage to get rid of them, they bite the crap out of everything that moves. No way I'd be taking a newborn around any of that!

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lamo1210 · October 2013

I stopped reading at "100's of them".. yea..no.

I get it, animals can get bugs on them. But you should see it and fix it asap.

lafsalot · October 2013

I am hoping that DH will listen to reason after I sent him some info in flea infestations... I was mortified at what it takes to get rid of them in a normally clean home let alone for someone lax in housework... I would freak out... We bought a puppy last year and she had a couple fleas, we treated out other dog and treated her with organic puppy safe cinnamon shampoo that helped for about a week and rebathed. The few she had made us squirm, let alone being able to see so many... SIL's dog is miserable. I feel horrible for the dog!!! Any way it can take years to get rid of that kind of infestation from what I was reading... Which means no way do I want my baby there.... So I will be having a couple of tough conversations with DH about Christmas. Thank you ladies, I feel bad for her and I didn't want to be in her house at all yesterday and went outside as quick as I could... It is so filthy. Stuff everywhere... It would mortifying me to live that way.

Vcurrado · October 2013

As PP said... Nope!!!
I would feel the same way!
Not unreasonable whatsoever

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · October 2013

Hell to the no! And also why we're going to live in a bubble after DD is born. I know what's going on in my house. My IL's- not so much.

ranaverde · October 2013

Ugh. There's a huge difference between pets having a few fleas, and a house being so infested that you can see them. I'm not at all a neat freak myself, but, yeah, that's gross. Your suggestions for visits at your place seem like a perfectly reasonable compromise.

lafsalot · October 2013

I think I'm going to have to tell DH he can go over on Christmas Day if he wants but LO and I can't go. I honestly think he was just as taken a back as I was but he has this thing about defending his family and I can compromise all day long but he won't bend and just says I don't like his family... Truth is, I don't desire to spend oodles of time with then cause thier clingy... Not in the give me a hug sense but the crazy co-dependent sense...
So I am hoping this is an eye opener for him, he doesn't like going over there either but, makes me feel horrible and now, I just can't fathom taking my baby - I wanted to run out as soon as I saw the poor pup. I told her she had to keep the dog away from me because I have 3 pups at home and didn't want to take any home.... Then I read all the stuff in the internet and my skin ran away!! Gross!! I don't understand how someone can let thier home and thier pet be at such a risk... Or in such a state...

Wish me luck with DH... He's getting a double whammy... Christmas chat and living wills... He'll be so thrilled with me.

dobrydney · October 2013

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. This is partially the reason we aren't planning on visiting family for the holidays this year. We want to spend time together at home, just the three of us, but usually we end up at my brother's house for part of the day and I don't want to have to explain to him why we don't want to come there. They don't keep it very clean, and his kids aren't made to behave.

mom2curlygirls · October 2013

That is plain gross and I don't blame you at all. That is mean to the dog too. They can't tell you how uncomfortable it must be to have hundreds of bite marks covering their body. There is no way no how I would let my baby be exposed to that knowingly. And she needs to hire a pest control company. The yard must be treated, the house, the cars (they get on your clothes, etc). This will not be an easy nor cheap fix.

VegasGal1978 · October 2013

I completely agree with you! I wouldn't want to go there either. Especially with a newborn. Maybe he will feel different once baby is here. Maybe his protective instincts over his child will ramp up more once he sees his little bundle of perfection for the first time. Good luck!

lafsalot · October 2013

I hope he comes around... I let it alone last night but it's coming...

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