holiday worries

kkrolik3399 · October 2013

My little one will only be a few weeks old when thanksgiving comes around.......Luckily it will be at my mothers house 5 minutes away so it will be a little bit more of a enviroment I am comfortable with. I am very worried the baby will be passed around like a football stick when I am not around. The plan I am going to try to use is to designate my cousin....and brother both of who have little ones so I know they are fully vaccinated to be baby watchers and try to keep the baby with them. However I have some very.....difficult family......as much as i would like to tell them to suck it up and handle it when they find out the baby will not be passed around I have to find a way to do it politely. Atleast at first....any tips?

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · October 2013

I've heard wearing the baby works wonders. I wish I'd have thought about that with DS. This year we're simply not going to Thanksgiving (at my ILs there's literally 60+ people there). My parents will come down and my mom will make dinner. We may allow a few (and a very select few) people from DH's family to stop by and briefly visit but that's it. Once DD is here we will be living in a bubble.

lamo1210 · October 2013

I may be an idiot but what's a football stick?

kkrolik3399 · October 2013

haha stick was definatly not supposed to be in that sentance....sorry for the confusion. I will definatly be looking in to a carrier like many of you suggested. I also dropped the bomb at a family gathering this past weekend when they asked if id be attending turkey day with the baby I quickly informed them that the baby would basically be with me...dh or in the pack n play upstairs at my moms because I didnt want her getting sick before she had shots. They wernt thrilled but thats life.

cmrussell27 · October 2013

Just an FYI - even though they are not happy about that they will still try to hold the baby. Trust me as I'm having number 5 and it happens every time. We aren't doing thanksgiving and probably even Christmas with extended family because that part is way too stressful on me and it seems as though no one listens and I feel like crying the whole time. May still want to bring the baby carrier or leave the baby in the car seat and keep away from everyone.

mmm50 · October 2013

Our LO will be at least 2 weeks old by Thanksgiving, probably around 4-5 weeks. Our family also has a large Thanksgiving-- about 40-50 people-- at my parents. DH and I are planning on going late (like 2 or 3 hours late) because by then the crowd is down to my immediate family (my parents, brother, sisters, and the one cousin who has a baby) and the grandparents, so it's around 15 people. I will also be wearing LO to try to minimize people passing him around and my mom has a crib at her house, so I'm hoping he sleeps for all or almost all of the short time we are there.

And of course I'll be bringing Purell as well. Normally I'm not big on things like Purell but with such a new baby and so many different germ sources- I'll be "that mom."

Elreid · October 2013

My dads side of the family has a huge family thanksgiving every year...80-100 people and that doesn't include kids/babies, so there will be a lot of people wanting to hold the baby. I have absolutely no problem with adults holding him, but anyone who is still in school (yes, even college) will not be allowed to hold LO because there are just too many germs and new germs that can be introduced at those places. And most of them still get sick at least once a year around that time. If adults hold him they will all be washing their hands and if they have ANY sign of a cold/cough they will not be allowed to hold him. I know things can get pretty crazy with my family so I plan on wearing him and only letting people that come up and ask to hold him, hold him.
My SO's family on the other hand is filthy and not very "baby friendly" so NO ONE will be holding him at those thanksgivings. They are the type of people that tell you to SHUT THAT BABY UP when they are crying or fussy. This should be interesting...

And @cmrussell27 is so right...people will still try to hold the baby no matter what because they are worried about themselves rather than your wishes and the health of your LO.

mskatiep · October 2013

We are skipping our big family thanksgiving gathering all together this year specifically to avoid this issue. No one will pay attention to my wishes anyway, and it will just be safer/easier to stay at home. SO is sad to not get turkey, but he will live. If my mom and sisters want to just do a small get together we will participate in that, but not the full 100+ people that would be getting together at my aunt's house. I would rather just hunker down with our LO than be constantly worried about who is holding her and if they washed their hands.

Kfran84 · October 2013

We are skipping Thanksgiving for this reason. MIL is shipping us a small smoked turkey. Victory.

We might offer to host Christmas, but it will be immediate family only, our parents and siblings only.

MMMiller · October 2013

My little one will only be a few weeks old as well. We have many events to attend that time of year though and he will be dragged along. I do plan on wearing him if in a public place. We are actually hosting thanksgiving as we always do, this time with the help of our mothers. I have to admit that my family is very understanding of the germ issue and is always polite about asking to hold babies and washing up beforehand. That being said I'm going to have to chill out a bit with this lo because I have a three year old in preschool who is constantly bringing some kind of germ home. Also living in a bubble with another child at home does not seem practical or even possible.

Ashleyfurillo · October 2013

I'm due in the 15th so we are having immediate family (my patents, sisters and there husbands and DH mom and sister and 1 of my aunts) come to our house. My family is not local, about 5 hours away so they will be staying at the house with us and doing all the cooking. There will only be 10 people plus us so I'm not worried about it. We are skipping going to my patents for Christmas this year and will just stay home and spend Christmas with DH mom. I will be going home the end of Jan (LO will be 2 months) to see the rest of my family and friends, that's when I will have to watch out!

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