Bitchy Pregnant ladies

vorse · October 2013

Had to delete, I feel bad

vorse · October 2013

No, I don't treat people like shit on a regular basis. Thanks, though.

2010weddinggal · October 2013

Eh pregnancy is not glamorous she needs to get the heck over it, I started to bitch at my hubby in the very beginning. That is when I got a hobby because I noticed if I had nothing to do I would constantly bitch about everything.

cherylnicole · October 2013

I try not to judge people based on my own personal experiences. Everyone's different and you don't know how she's feeling. Maybe she is having a hard time, maybe she's over exaggerating. Either way, you're not the pregnancy police. She's entitled to feel however she wants and express it the same way. Not saying that she's not having her moments where she's a bitch, but pregnancy is harder on others.

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BootsOrHearts · October 2013

That's really annoying. I guess all you can do is stay away.

grannyweatherwax · October 2013

Ok, you should try to be understanding because some people have a really hard time with their mood during pregnancy. My OB said it could be an indicator of PPD. That being said, you should just not talk to her as much if her behavior bothers you.

mightymousy · October 2013

@cashingn2 basically, her cousin bitches a lot about being pregnant, and so she's decided to bitch about her cousin.

kittyh8r · October 2013

Some people hate pregnancy. Just because your pregnancy is a glorious walk in the park, doesn't mean hers should be. I don't think she should complain all the time, but then again...I don't feel as awful as she does. Also, hormones are a bitch. She may not be able to control a lot of her anger and outbursts. I never realized that until after I had my daughter and I couldn't control a lot of my anger. You should probably be less judgmental. You don't know what she is going through.

You know what you can do? Stay away from her and POOF! Problem solved.

thesportsgal · October 2013

She doesn't sound like a bitchy pregnant lady...just a regular bitch.

esf60 · October 2013

@Cashingn2 said:

TL:DR, but I thought this was going to be about our board. I figured out within the first sentence that it wasn't and stopped reading. Sorry, my attention span isn't that long. Cliff notes?

2010weddinggal · October 2013

Eh pregnancy is not glamorous she needs to get the heck over it, I started to bitch at my hubby in the very beginning. That is when I got a hobby because I noticed if I had nothing to do I would constantly bitch about everything.

Nrg2020 said:

2010weddinggal said:

Eh pregnancy is not glamorous she needs to get the heck over it, I started to bitch at my hubby in the very beginning. That is when I got a hobby because I noticed if I had nothing to do I would constantly bitch about everything.

Is your hobby eating? That's mine! I feel if my mouth is full, I can't talk and therefore can not complain constantly!

No, I took up knitting keeps my hands busy so I do not over eat ( not that I do not want to I just have to watch the weight), and keeps my mind busy so I do not miss a stich.

FutureMrsCaesar · October 2013

I don't really bitch about pregnancy, but pregnancy plus my 2 kids makes me exhausted which in turn makes me complain about lots of other things.

kittyh8r · October 2013

Heaven802002 said:

I have no idea how anyone can do this more than once :-<

Children are magicians. They make you forget every pain. Seriously

lifesaverz · October 2013

ColeRose said:

I contain most of my bitching about pregnancy to myself, sometimes I tell DH and when people ask his I'm feeling I usually respond with "uncomfortable." Everyone's body handles pregnancy differently. Personally, I am having a pretty miserable time and I'm in pain all the time. It happens. I don't think it is right to take it out on others but what could you possibly say to her? We are in the home stretch...just ignore till the babies are here.

this is pretty much exactly me. I've been in pain all the time & fairly miserable, but I mostly keep it to myself or talk to DH about it. I'm also in the camp that I don't think it's right for people to take it out on others just because they're feeling crappy...I totally get that it's hard, but that doesn't make it okay. I had another pregnant woman at work totally go off on me one day when I was in 1st tri (before she knew I was pregnant) & I was feeling TERRIBLY sick, yet I kept myself together & was still professional despite feeling so awful, so to me feeling bad is no excuse. That said, I agree with PPs it might be easier for you just to stay away from her for awhile if it bugs you.

lifesaverz · October 2013

also, I do sorta wonder has she always been this vocal about her feelings in the past? if so this shouldn't be surprising, although it might be more heightened than normal

amberpro · October 2013

Heaven802002 said:

I have no idea how anyone can do this more than once :-<

I keep telling DH... this is such a short period of time in the long run. Think of the endgame. It's all about the endgame

As much daily pain and discomfort as I'm currently in, we're even planning a #3.

swirl25 · October 2013

ColeRose said:

I contain most of my bitching about pregnancy to myself, sometimes I tell DH and when people ask his I'm feeling I usually respond with "uncomfortable." Everyone's body handles pregnancy differently. Personally, I am having a pretty miserable time and I'm in pain all the time. It happens. I don't think it is right to take it out on others but what could you possibly say to her? We are in the home stretch...just ignore till the babies are here.

This is me too. I'm one of those for whom pregnancy is not a walk in the park (and this one has been harder than my first), but I try not to complain to everyone all the time (with the exception of DH and my mom!). I don't take it out on them, but it's certainly not easy to put on a happy face and be the jolly pregnant lady. My standard answer for people who ask how I'm feeling is "tired". Anyway, your cousin is clearly having a harder time than you -- every pregnancy is different and it's temporary, so just try to take it with a grain of salt. If her DH isn't frustrated with her behavior towards him, I wouldn't be either....he may be more empathetic than you think.

edenkeever · October 2013

I generally don't like being pregnant...I like feeling the baby move but that's it. Im super sick in the beginning, have about two weeks of feeling alright and then get crazy uncomfortable. This is my third so I must be a glutton for punishment...really I just love my babies, so it's worth it. I don't complain to anyone who would listen though. DH only hears it when he asks.

If you want to make the situation with your cousin better, start by avoiding her and finish by not going on and on about how much you love being pregnant when you're around her. Should level it out. I've also found that when someone is super complainy it usually shuts them up if you just offer some sympathy right from the get go.

vorse · October 2013

jordanm24 said:

also, I do sorta wonder has she always been this vocal about her feelings in the past? if so this shouldn't be surprising, although it might be more heightened than normal

She's having a hard time and I do feel bad for her. She was never this vocal about anything in the past, so it's a whole new side of her.

SweetPriz · October 2013

Well in experience my first two preg I was a happy preg lady but this time around not so much and I try not to bitch (can't help it or notice ) but I do feel more overwhelmed and have symptoms I didn't the first two and everything just hurts but for that same reason I stay away from people because everything gets on my nerves and just feel shitty most of the time every preg is diff not always rainbows :-S

vorse · October 2013

Sorry that post got so long... I didn't intend it to be. I've never once done anything but listened to her and sympathized. I do realize that I'm lucky (so far) and I haven't rubbed it in her face at all. I only mention it whenever she asks if I'm feeling the same as her, that's it. I'm with pp that said it's not fair to others to take out your miserableness on them.

2010weddinggal · October 2013

Nrg2020 said:

@2010weddinggal what are you making or have you made?

I'm working on a black and blue baby blanket, I let DH pick out the yarn colors and I will be taking that blanket to the hospital.

zou bisou · October 2013

She screams at her Dh if he doesn't answer her fast enough? Ugh, that would be so awkward to be present for. When spouses act abusively to each other in front of others, I don't know what you do. I get embarrassed for the two parties involved. I guess avoiding it is the best strategy.

mamaj1220 · October 2013

I am actually having a terrible time being pregnant thanks and you've said yourself you are one of those women who love it. Good for you I wish I had that going on for me so while you may think she's overdoing it on the this sucks you are not her and you are not having a hard pregnancy. Honestly this post really makes you sound like a bitch. You're like oh it can't be that bad but you have had a good experience enough said, not all of us are that lucky. But hey thanks for making me feel even shittier about not liking pregnancy and feeling like all I do is complain.

peitri · October 2013

I would perhaps keep my distance and stop having daily check-ins with each other. Sounds like your non-pregnant friend and pregnant friend are two completely different people, which is fine, because we all have different experiences. But if it bothers you so much, I'd just stay away as much as possible.

nofcksgiven · October 2013

I'm an incredibly bitchy pregnant lady today and I think you sound like you're one as well. Like PP said, if she's not a whiner and complainer normally there's no reason to think she's exaggerating now.
I'm glad you're having an easy pregnancy, but that doesn't mean that other people are faking it.
I've been on bed rest for 11 weeks. My kid is pinching my sciatic nerve and some other nerve making me feel like someone poured gasoline on my entire right thigh and set it on fire. My lower back feels like it's ripping apart. I've been in PT for 7 weeks and it hasn't gotten any better- but that could be because I can't do aggressive PT or my baby may just fall right out of my vag. Between my thigh, back, and acid reflux, I sleep about 3-4 hours a night. My morning sickness has also come back with a vengeance.
So- I probably wouldn't walk into a room of people I didn't know and tell them all of this, but I'll absolutely tell my family and close friends how miserable I feel.
Give her a break.

GeauxM&V · October 2013

I usually try to contain my complaining because I know a lot of women would give anything to be in my shoes. I feel guilty voicing my discomfort, except on occasion to my H or my mom, but that's about it. It was a difficult and emotional road for us to get pregnant and I know how lucky I am. While I definitely have bad days and feel like shit, I don't feel it is necessary for me to bitch out loud. If people ask me how I am doing or feeling, I will not lie; I will just tell them that some days are worse than others and that I am doing the best I can with all of the changes and symptoms. If other pregnant ladies' complaints bother me, then I will try to avoid them. Haven't really run into that much yet.

shoeflypie · October 2013

Your cousin seems like she has several underlying issues and could use some support. My aunt (We're close in age) had a tough time dealing with weight gain and ended up with Post Partum Psychosis. Many other things contributed to her issues and she has had 2 more kids since. You could be a shoulder to lean on or even someone to keep her in line. (If your relationship can handle it) Pregnancy is great but wicked hard!

mamaj1220 · October 2013

It doesn't feel like an over reaction when you are stuck and miserable and people all seem to think you should be happy and excited. I see exactly where her cousin is coming from though I don't attack my SO but it's the way she said it. Like her cousin should feel bad for feeling crappy, I feel crappy all the time and have since the start so maybe I am a bit sensitive and I'm sorry for that but to give someone else shit for not having an easy pregnancy is not cool. Be glad you are having an easy one but understand for some of us this is not an easy process and we are miserable

nofcksgiven · October 2013

JennaDyer said:
It doesn't feel like an over reaction when you are stuck and miserable and people all seem to think you should be happy and excited. I see exactly where her cousin is coming from though I don't attack my SO but it's the way she said it. Like her cousin should feel bad for feeling crappy, I feel crappy all the time and have since the start so maybe I am a bit sensitive and I'm sorry for that but to give someone else shit for not having an easy pregnancy is not cool. Be glad you are having an easy one but understand for some of us this is not an easy process and we are miserable

This exactly.

thetheisens · October 2013

The hormones are really rough for some people. Also some people have to change their normal antidepressant or antianxiety pills or dosage during pregnancy, which can be really hard and emotionally taxing. I had terrible outbursts last pregnancy that would come out before I even realized they were happening.

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