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Bad sleep habits

sportsmommasportsmomma member
edited October 2013 in December 2011 Moms
I'm actually embarrassed to make this post because DH and I have allowed/enabled/whatever DS to have some pretty terrible sleep habits. But, on the off chance others if you did the same and can commiserate or give advice I have to post!

DS still requires one of us to be in his room with him when he falls asleep. He's in the crib alone but needs someone in the room to fall asleep for both naps and bedtime. Question #1 - does anyone else stay in the room while LO falls asleep? Any suggestions on how to wean him off of that?

At night he seems to take an awful long time to fall asleep, sometimes upwards of 30 to 45 minutes, but almost always at least 15 min.
Question #2 - How long does it take your LO to godown?

Thanks in advance!
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Re: Bad sleep habits

  • RicolaRicola member
    Alex still needed someone to hold him or at least touch somehow up until he was 14 months old. I used to hold him for every nap and then my husband would hold him for the first 2 hours at night, while I cleaned up the house and got ready and then I would take him to our bed with me around 9 pm. We couldn't take it anymore and decided to try CIO one more time (we had tried twice before and it didn't work). This time we increased the check-in times to first 15 mins/second 20 mins and then 25 mins and it finally worked. Ever since then we are able to put him down awake and he'll eventually fall asleep on his own. 

    For nap time it now takes him about 20 mins to fall asleep, since we have moved his nap time back to 1.15 pm. When I still put him down around 12 pm, he would take longer. 
    At night it sometimes takes 15 mins, but most of the time anywhere between 30 and 60 mins, for him to fall asleep. During this time he rolls around in his crib, sits up, stands up, plays with his glowing seahorse etc. 

    I am sorry you are still dealing with it. Sleep issues are so exhausting. :-(
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  • Jmcmahon21Jmcmahon21 member
    I'm sorry you're having issues. I tried CIO with DS around 10 months old and it didn't work for him, but since you're already in the room with him you could try the sleep lady shuffle which is what we would do. You put them in the crib awake then put your chair next to the crib and if they are crying you pat them or "shh" them and let them know you're there. Every night you get further from the crib and less touching/shushing until they eventually realize it's ok. When they wake up in the middle of the night you do the same thing. I was amazed how fast he was able to start going to sleep on his own. He now will turn his stars and white noise giraffe and happily goes in his crib for both nap and bedtime. I think routine is key and finding something that works for all of you. It probably took a good week before he got the hang of it, now he takes around 10-20 minutes to fall asleep for his nap and between 30-45 minutes for bedtime. Like Ricola said our DS will just roll around, talk, play until he falls asleep now. Good luck :)
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  • buggywhipsbuggywhips member
    We had to do CIO with M around 9 months...after we failed with NCSS.  Prior to that I would nurse him to sleep and hold him for all of his naps or he'd sleep in bed with me, attached to the boob. I can honestly say it's the best thing we've done in terms of sleep.

    We have a very short routine-sing a few songs, put him down, tuck him in and turn on his seahorse.  Not sure how long it takes for him to fall asleep but he's quiet in there most of the time. 

    No real advice except once you decide on a routine, stick to it like glue!  They thrive on consistency. 
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  • sportsmommasportsmomma member
    Thanks ladies! I think we'll try the sleep lady shuffle and then if that doesn't work maybe try CIO. Need to take the binky away at some point too!
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  • bunniekrissybunniekrissy member
    We still stay in the room (lay next to him actually) until he falls asleep. I was contemplating Sleep Lady Shuffle a couple months ago, but then he started climbing out of the crib and is now in a toddler bed and there is no way to keep him there!
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  • sportsmommasportsmomma member
    bunniekrissy said:
    We still stay in the room (lay next to him actually) until he falls asleep. I was contemplating Sleep Lady Shuffle a couple months ago, but then he started climbing out of the crib and is now in a toddler bed and there is no way to keep him there!
    Good point! We better get on it while he's still In the crib!
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  • iluvmylabiluvmylab member
    Andy was rocked to sleep until he was about 16 months old. Now he sometimes wants someone in the room to fall asleep with him, but not always. He goes through phases really. We try really hard to stick to a routine since he has to be up so early since my school starts at 7:15- teachers have to be there at 6:45.

    At around 7:30, we go read a book with the lights on really low in his room. I sing a couple of songs and then put him in his crib with a stuffed animal. Most of the time, he falls asleep on his own in less than 2 minutes. It took us a LOOOOONG time to get to this point. He used to cry hysterically, but started to do it less and less as he got older. Then it seemed like he just "got it." I think kids will fall asleep on their own when they are ready, but that's just my opinion.

    He'll be two on Nov. 29, so he may be a bit older than you LO.
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  • Jen4033Jen4033 member

    DS has always been rocked to sleep at home. Most often, he is asleep within 15-20 mins. Every once in a while we have a bad night where he is either too restless or takes longer. My biggest struggle lately has been laying him in the crib with my big pregnant belly, so he sometimes wakes up. 

    While usaully a great sleeper, he has had some bad nights this past month, I'm thinking due to an off & on again cold. If I picked him up he woud fall back asleep, but no way could I get him back in his crib. If I brought him back to our bed, he would be too distracted by dad being there & then be wide awake.  I've been able to successfully get him to lay down & rub his back a little through the crib slats, then sneak out after he's back to sleep. He has been ok as long as he knows I'm there too. So if he looks up crying for me, I just say "shh, mommy's here" & he lays back down on his own. I'm not really looking to transition him to a toddler bed yet, but this is kinda the same approach for when he has that. he's still fine with his crib & so am I :)  With DS2 on the way in Dec/Jan & potty training on my mind too, the working sleeping arrangements are not anything I am lookign to change quite yet :)

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  • sportsmommasportsmomma member
    iluvmylab said:
    I think kids will fall asleep on their own when they are ready, but that's just my opinion.


    That's what I've been thinking too. So far most of his major changes (stopping bottles, etc.) we worried about when we'd do them and then it just sort of naturally happened without much effort. But then I hear stories of 5, 6, 7-year-olds still needing mommy and daddy in the room for an hour at bedtime and get a bit worried. Oh well, guess it's all part of this parenting thing!
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