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August 2011 Moms
Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha
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Crying
Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha
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Remember the not-so-awesome neurologist we saw for DD2?
After dealing with his horrible bedside manner and change of diagnostic based on nothing but thin air, I decided to seek out a second opinion.
I faxed in my consult request. Called the new hospital a month later to be told it would be another 2 weeks before DD2's file would even be looked that - and THEN they would decide of her priority level and give me an appointment. The appointment was set for October 29.
In the meantime, I sent in a request for a copy of her file from Dr Asshat. When I received it (last week), I faxed it to the "new" hospital. I was hoping this would speed things along and avoid unnecessary testing.
Got a call back from the secretary this morning. She informed me that all requests for a second opinion must come from the neurologist who first saw the patient. Um and no one thought to tell me this before? Not to mention, Dr Asshat was really condescending when I showed some reserve about his plan of action. So I can only imagine how fun it will be to ask him to personally ask that I see another Dr.
I started crying.
The secretary felt so bad for me, she had a neurologist call me back. The neurologist tried to be re-assuring, but what she had to tell me actually made things worse. In a gist, here's what she had to tell me: Dr's don't take requests for a 2nd opinion personally. They see it all the time and I shouldn't feel bad for asking for one. However, if Dr Asshat already set a course of action, I shouldn't delay it by a year. (*pause* Wait, what, a year? Why would I wait a year?) She clarified: Second opinion patients are low priority. They have 800 name son their waiting lists. Some patients they are calling now have been on that list for 2 years. The reason I got the October 29 appointment was because DD2 was considered a new "emergency" patient. Now she's not anymore and we lost that spot. Her file is being closed for now. They will re-open it when they get the request for a 2nd opinion from Dr Asshat.
So in other words: I can ask for a second opinion, but that won't happen until it's too late,so I really should just go ahead and start the proposed treatment. Which then completely defeats the purpose of asking for a second opinion.
Note: There are 2 hospitals with pediatric neurologists, so I've pretty much exhausted my options. Hence the crying.
Farewell, nesticle, you will be missed
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Re: Crying
I'm so sorry MHa. This is terribly uninspiring. Is traveling an option? Can you seek a second opinion from a neurologist that is farther from you in hopes that the wait list isn't so impacted?
My sincerest sympathies.
// I love you too. //