I feel like I can't do anything starting to loose my mind.

suziejane14 · October 2013

My little boy will be 2weeks tomorrow. I'm breast feeding and I feel like I have no life. I don't even like people coming over because I feel like I have to feed him all the time. I pumped for the first time a couple days ago and put the milk in the fridge I tried giving it to my little one today but he wasn't having it. I ended up giving him my breast and throwing out the milk. I just need help or advise on how to start getting him to like the bottle, I would like to be able to have others feed him so I have some me time, I need it.

kelseyjohnston · October 2013

I felt like that, I tried not to pump though because I hear baby's sucking is way better for your milk production, etc. I was embarrassed to feed him in the beginning and one night I even sat in my car and fed him while my family was inside a restaurant! Finally I was just fed up. I feed him everywhere now. Once we hit 3 weeks, he began feeding every HOUR! Growth spurt

He is spacing out to about 2 hours now at 4 weeks, but trust me, you will get to the point where you are comfortable feeding in front of anyone. I got the mindset that my baby needs food and if they don't like it, they can stay away! haha

ilovetolaugh · October 2013

I think that most of us have felt that way. You're doing great and things will get easier soon!

Juliebird8307 · October 2013

You should try to have someone else give him the bottle. He will smell the milk on you and know that he can get it from you instead.

CBiggs85 · October 2013

I remember feeling that way too. But trust me, it will get easier as the days pass and eventually the feedings will space out and breastfeeding will feel more natural. Hang in there!

kcs7 · October 2013

Oh my I was just in tears as my dh just got home from his second day back at work. Lo is 1week2days now and feeding about every hour for about 20 to 35 mins at a time. He sleeps if I hold him, but I put him down and I get about 15 mins before he fusses so no naps for me. Plus every diaper change is likethe end of the world to him right now and I dread the next diaper change. Im glad I do not seem to be alone but I so want to cry! I also dont want visitors and my mil and sil (12 yo) want to come by daily (live 3 mins away) but it just is too much for me right now. I feel a little selfish but then again, not so much. I do love this little one though and I know it wont always be like this! Right??

jmo866 · October 2013

I am way past due for bedtime, but ladies this is all totally normal and yes pp, this too shall pass! I felt exactly that way with my first son. It will get better before you know it!

ELauren88 · October 2013

Ooooh, I'm still there some days! My LO will be 8 weeks tomorrow, and we've gotten into a pretty good feeding routine. It WILL get easier, I assure you.

As for the bottle issue, I've heard others recommend trying different bottles. Perhaps your LO just doesn't care for the one you're offering. My LO has never had any problems with the 2 brands we have offered (tommee tippee and playtex drop in). Also, check the nipple flow, you may need a smaller one.

Good luck! You'll be fine!

LittleNugget93 · October 2013

You are not alone. I got one hour of sleep last night and I'll be sleeping tonight on a towel because LO got poop on my bed and I have been unable to wash the sheets. Lovely.

A little advice. DD refuses to take a bottle from me. But she will take it from anyone else. So try that! He may just be frustrated because he knows your boob is right there.

Laughing thru life · October 2013

Breastfeeding is really hard in the beginning. Mine would feed for and hour at a time. At 9 weeks it's more like 10 minutes. My parents stayed with us for quite a while. My mom would help at night, then they'd watch him for a few hours in the morning so I could get a little more sleep.

Personally I didn't start pumping until he was about 3 weeks. I just couldn't add anything else, just keeping him fed was all I could do until then. My husband started giving him bottles occasionally around a month. Wide base slow flow nipples are supposed to be best to avoid nipple confusion. We started with medela nipples and now use platex vetaire. I just pumped once a day (first thing in the morning when you have the most milk) to build up a freezer stash or let someone else give him a bottle every few days.

Hang in there. It gets better. I actually hated breastfeeding for the first week, disliked it the second, then slowly became ok with it to the point that I actually like it now.

I found having a newborn to be an incredibly isolating experience. Even though I had a lot of help and a really involved husband I still felt like he was primarily my responsibility, which was a but paralyzing. I hadn't been around babies enough to know what to DO all day. You get in a groove eventually and adjust to sleeping when the baby does

kcs7 · October 2013

Laughing thru life said:
Breastfeeding is really hard in the beginning. Mine would feed for and hour at a time. At 9 weeks it's more like 10 minutes. My parents stayed with us for quite a while. My mom would help at night, then they'd watch him for a few hours in the morning so I could get a little more sleep.

Personally I didn't start pumping until he was about 3 weeks. I just couldn't add anything else, just keeping him fed was all I could do until then. My husband started giving him bottles occasionally around a month. Wide base slow flow nipples are supposed to be best to avoid nipple confusion. We started with medela nipples and now use platex vetaire. I just pumped once a day (first thing in the morning when you have the most milk) to build up a freezer stash or let someone else give him a bottle every few days.

Hang in there. It gets better. I actually hated breastfeeding for the first week, disliked it the second, then slowly became ok with it to the point that I actually like it now.

I found having a newborn to be an incredibly isolating experience. Even though I had a lot of help and a really involved husband I still felt like he was primarily my responsibility, which was a but paralyzing. I hadn't been around babies enough to know what to DO all day. You get in a groove eventually and adjust to sleeping when the baby does
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rayandbrit · October 2013

As PPs have said, it will get better! You're still in the "survival mode" time frame. Be patient with yourself during this time- if you don't feel like having people over, or cleaning, etc, don't! This portion of time is so small in the grand scheme of things, just get through it how you can! Also, fwiw, I feel like we normally hit our sweet spot around 3 months. Sorry no advice, just hoping to encourage!

kcs7 · October 2013

rayandbrit said:
As PPs have said, it will get better! You're still in the "survival mode" time frame. Be patient with yourself during this time- if you don't feel like having people over, or cleaning, etc, don't! This portion of time is so small in the grand scheme of things, just get through it how you can! Also, fwiw, I feel like we normally hit our sweet spot around 3 months. Sorry no advice, just hoping to encourage!

And I totally appreciate encouragement! Thx!

sprocketsmom · October 2013

Totally normal to feel that way, and it does get better! With this LO I felt like we turned a corner at about 3.5 weeks. I started feeling like we'd settled into our new normal. Just hang in there. Your job right now is to feed baby and rest as much as you can. Everything else can wait.

Dahlia813 · October 2013

My LO is 9weeks and I dont feel like I can do much during the day b/c she doesnt take long naps and it takes 35-40 mins to feed her... I feel like I get nothing done. I think it will always be like this!!

redhead610 · October 2013

Like others have said, it will get better with time. It is still hard timing errands, but I will feed him in the car in a parking lot if needed.

Try having your husband give the bottle instead of you. Also, remember that anytime baby is getting a bottle, you need to be pumping to make sure your supply stays regulated.

Jarangela · October 2013

Ya, I swear having a newborn is such a more difficult experience than people say. We just moved to a new state a month before our girl was born, so it's been a struggle not really knowing many people in the area. My girl is about 3 and a half weeks now and I'm just now feeling like I want to get out with my 2 yr old and girl.

suziejane14 · October 2013

Thanks for all the advise, the last couple days has been good, we have even had a couple of full 4 hour sleep times (amazing). I'm just feeling a little lost with the whole pumping thing. I've only done it once and the milk went to waste. So i'm going to try doing it once a day and freezing the milk for when I'm ready. I tried asking friends what they did and I'm really surprised that no one actually breast fed they all went to formula early. This is a lot harder than I expected but I want to make it to 6 months. If there is any other tips or advise I would love to hear it.

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