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Need insight--pregnant and starting new job!

DcopaniDcopani member
edited October 2013 in May 2014 Moms
I accepted a job in a school district this June and ended up pregnant in August (due May 10th!). I start the job in three weeks. We are very excited about the baby but I'm conflicted because I'm thinking my coworkers might view my pregnancy as a negative thing--needing maternity leave 6 months after I start! I'm not sure when or how to share my news. I know that my coworkers will be very surprised. I'm sure gossiping will happen behind closed doors. Should I be worrying about this? Shouldn't they have expected this when hiring a 28 year old married woman? I'm still feeling bad about it...like I let them down! It's my first year on the job...ugh...
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Re: Need insight--pregnant and starting new job!

  • CopperPoppyCopperPoppy member
    I'm in a similar situation. I work really far from home (1hour+) and moving isn't really a option. We live where we want to live and I've applied for jobs in the area. I have been on this referral list for 6 months and they called me again for an interview. The thing is that now if I get the job I'll need maternity leave in 6-7 months. DH says it might start the working relationship on the wrong foot but I don't know.

    I don't know if I should even be interviewing knowing I'm pregnant but I want and need a job closer to home.

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  • MigggMiggg member
    Don't feel bad and don't spend too much time worrying about it. People may talk but there's nothing you can do about that and I can't imagine it'd be negative talk anyway. It's not like you're a pregnant teen, no one is going to be too shocked and I guarantee most will be happy for you! I'd probably tell people before you start really showing so people don't jump the gun and start whispering about it. Just bring in some cute cupcakes and a smile and be proud! And congrats on the new job!

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  • chargers32chargers32 member
    People have babies all the time, try not to stress too much. If they are going to talk badly about yourself for becoming a mother screw them! Yes you won't have been working very long, but who cares its your right. 
    Sorry I just hate to hear people feeling bad for such a wonderful blessing because it's not too convienient for some co-workers.

    Also the 1hr commute post, I would absolutely keep looking for a job closer to home. Also then when you go back to work you won't be so far from your newborn :)
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  • dollface777dollface777 member
    I was 4 months pregnant when I started a job with my first and after I had the baby, I was planning on being a stay at home mom. I worked really hard up until the day I went into labor. I didn't tell them I was pregnant until it was obvious and I didn't tell them I was leaving until I was required to. But I made them glad to have me for as long as they did. They even threw me a little party when I left and my boss cried and said she would miss me. Just rock the job and the pregnancy!
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  • mimzgoymimzgoy member
    On the same boat! Started a new job last Monday. I wasn't pregnant when I applied and didn't know I was pregnant when I took the job. I'm thinking of just going in and telling my boss this upcoming week. I want to tell them before I start showing. I, too, am stressing about this. I really like/want/need this job!
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  • Charmayne81Charmayne81 member
    I just told my work I was pregnant after I been there 2 weeks. They were really good about it and glad I was honest. Everything happens for a reason. Pay wise you are entitled to maternity pay from the government which you have to apply for through the job centre. It's about 136 per week for 39 weeks xx
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  • CookingStarCookingStar member
    Don't worry about it- it's life. Everyone has kids, they'll be happy for you.
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  • DcopaniDcopani member
    It's nice to hear that someone is in the same boat...I'm hoping my experience is as good as yours (as far as sharing my news!). I'm sure I am assuming the worst...thanks for everyone's feedback!
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  • Charmayne81Charmayne81 member
    I think just be honest from the word go. They were really grateful that I told them and actually adjusted my job slightly so it will be easier when I have more heavily pregnant. I am Very lucky and so happy I told them xx
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  • mamagermanmamagerman member
    Same situation here... Accepted a teaching job in July (my first as well), got married in August, got pregnant a week later. I have told my coworkers and boss and they are thrilled :) hope it goes just add well
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  • DcopaniDcopani member
    I hope so too!!! Were you scared that their reactions would be negative? I can't figure out why I'm so paranoid about this! And did you wait a bit before telling them? Or did you tell right away?
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  • Charmayne81Charmayne81 member
    We did a test mid week and got it confirmed by the dr then told them on the Monday. I was 9 weeks and only been working there 2 weeks. It's my first baby, not planned, just bought a flat so no savings it was just a stress I didn't need so I told them - and they were brilliant! I was a bit scared but I work on honestly is the best policy. Xx
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  • mamagermanmamagerman member
    Well, some of the woman started guessing, and I can't keep a secret. They are all such sweet women though. Wasn't really nervous but ended up telling mainly because I was so sick. I thought they should know in case I needed someone to cover my classroom
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  • teachnkcteachnkc member
    I am a teacher too and just started in a new district. I am due late May but everyone has been super supportive and excited for me being a FTM. Keep your head up and stay positive. You are in a field saturated with young women, I am sure they have dealt with this before..they can do it again :) Just stay postive and show them you care about your work too and I am sure itll be okay!!
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  • DcopaniDcopani member
    Thank you all so much! Family and friends have given me advice, but it's much more helpful to hear this from people going through the same!
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  • charley0624charley0624 member
    In a similar boat; got a huge promotion and found out 2 days later I was pregnant.  I havent told work yet (waiting until 14 weeks).  I do worry about how my boss will react but honestly, Ive been working my tail off at this new position through my first trimester without a complaint, day off, etc.  They should have no reason to question my abilities, loyalty, etc.  When I do tell my boss, I plan to give a run down on how I intend to ensure things are covered in my absence and my estimated maternity leave.  Otherwise it is what it is, and quite frankly, we worked hard to get here so oh well, right?  GL to you!!!
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