Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months

Picky eater, when to worry?

greyt00greyt00 member
edited October 2013 in Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
My son used to be a great eater.  At 9-11 months he ate almost anything we offered him.  He would eat whatever we ate for dinner (if appropriate for him) -- our casserole, crock pot meal, etc (such ingredients as grilled chicken, ground beef, rice, beans, vegetables).  He used to eat apple (cut into thin slivers) and applesauce.  At around 11 months he stopped eating much variety.  For instance, we went out for Mexican food shortly before he turned 11 months and he ate a little rice and beans that I offered him.  He won't touch anything like that now. 

He will nearly always eat: bread of any kind, dry cereal (crunchy carbs), shredded cheese, sandwich (grilled cheese and turkey), baby oatmeal cereal (I give it to him for the iron)
He will often eat: scrambled eggs, broccoli (he loves broccoli, which is awesome) , cereal bars
He will sometimes eat: zucchini, green beans, peas, a little yogurt, little pieces of American cheese, fish stick

He won't eat fruit, pasta, beans, or any meat besides what's listed above.  Is he ever going to eat much else?  At day care he doesn't eat a lot.  They say he eats a little of their food (which varies a lot).  At least he's trying it.  But I'm scared he will get worse and worse.  At 12 months his growth was still fine but his eating has been worse since then and he was transitioned from breast milk to WCM at 13 months old.  Do I take a hard line with meals, and if he doesn't eat what I want, he gets nothing?

I tried mixing some apple in his fruit and he ate a little but then got upset and wouldn't eat it anymore. He used to eat banana and he won't eat that now.

 

Re: Picky eater, when to worry?

  • I think his diet sounds pretty great, definitely not a concern yet. Many kids his age will literally only eat 2 or 3 different foods, so I think what you described sounds like a decent variety. Kids are usually more enthusiastic eaters when first introduced to solid food, and then it's not so exciting anymore, so they settle on a few favorite foods they want to stick with. Don't worry, his palette will not be this limited forever, kids' tastes change all the time as they get older.

    Definitely do not turn it into a fight. Mealtimes with a toddler are hard enough, so I would not struggle with him unless he totally stops eating anything. If you want to introduce new foods, I would add a small portion of the new food to one of his regular meals, so he can taste it but still has other foods on his plate he's familiar with. This is also a good age to start involving them in the cooking process, so maybe helping you make dinner will get him interested in food again.

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  • Thanks for the reply.  I've tried smearing a little bit of a new food on a preferred food and the result is he stops eating the combo and it's hard to get him to eat the unaltered preferred food again.  :-P  I offer other food and whatever he doesn't want gets picked up off the tray and dropped on the floor.  He gets upset when he doesn't want stuff, or doesn't get what he wants, and he rubs his hands all over the tray and has a fit.  Is this normal?  It doesn't help that our older son is a complete disaster with eating (I don't even want to get into that) and he sees his toast and wants it.  :(  I wish I could keep the younger one from seeing the older one eat.  I'm afraid it will wreck him.

     
  • He eats way more than my 20 month old. She'll eat pasta, but will not touch any meat at all. We've gotten her to eat a couple bites of ground beef and chicken lately by bribing.  Flame if you want, but we use whatever we can to get her to eat some new stuff. I will give her things that I know she'll eat and one thing that is iffy and she rarely eats the iffy.  But I will keep offering just in case.  As long as she's growing and developing I'm not worried about it.  She's gaining weight and inches appropriately so I prefer not to have the fight over food.
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  • I wouldn't worry about his diet at all. Of the things he always or even sometimes eats are pretty healthy. Children at this age don't have much control over to much, but food they can control. He'll eat when he's hungry. As long as you're not giving in and he's solely living off of cookies, or loosing weight, you don't have anything to worry about. He sounds just fine.
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  • Thanks everyone.  I'm wondering, though, if he hasn't eaten much that day, do I give him carbs at dinner if he won't eat anything else?  Or just let him be hungry (if he even is)?  As of right now, when he won't eat, he gets upset.  I let him out of his chair, he's generally happy.  He's 14 months today so should I let him go "hungry" unless we find out at 15M that he isn't gaining weight like he should?  I will try to start doing weekly weights at home on the baby scale.

     
  • DD went through a very picky phase around 13-14 months, really only ate pasta, bread, and a few different fruits. I just tried to stay consistent with giving her a variety of things and she is much better now, I definitely think it was an independence thing! Now she's finding more ways to be independent and eating much better again. I have also found she will eat anything that comes from my plate, and she will refuse food that I try to feed her but will feed that same food to herself just fine. So I really back off, let her grab whatever she wants and eat as much or little as she wants. The other night she asked for three helpings of black beans and refused to touch anything else, so that was her dinner! I would let him go hungry, as long as his weight is ok. When they are really hungry, they will eat!
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  • DD also used to throw food if she didn't like it or was finished, so we showed her what to do instead. If she doesn't like food she can put it back on her plate, or put it on my plate. When she is finished she knows to push her plate away. I got that advice from a feeding therapist and think its really easy to overlook - instead of just saying no, show them what they can do. It's common sense but something I tend to forget about sometimes!
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  • Thanks both.  I will try to stay strong.  I don't want to repeat what happened with DS1 (though some/all of that is out of my control due to medical issues).  Good point about showing him what to do with the food he doesn't want.  I don't even use a plate most of the time because he picks it up, tries to turn it over, etc.  I've been lazy, but I guess I need to do the "hard work" of teaching him about the plate.  I also found the same thing with wanting the same food off my plate not his (high chair tray).  One day he would not eat off his tray but ate the same food off a plate on the table (the plate I was pulling his food from).  I put that plate in front of him and he grabbed food from it.  Another time he didn't seem to want anything so I let him down but I followed him around with broccoli and he ate while he roamed the living room.....  I wonder if this would be a good time to move him from a high chair to booster seat right next to me.  It might be easier.  Hmmm.

     
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  • greyt00greyt00 member
    edited October 2013
    The teachers at day care act like I am being mean by not providing more food for my son.  :(  They said he doesn't eat much of their food (at lunch) and most parents bring alternative food in case the child doesn't eat what day care provides.  The thing is, they get a late morning snack and TWO afternoon snacks (crunchy carbs).  I already eliminated the 4 PM snack, so he only gets the 2 PM snack after lunch.  My hope was that he might eat something healthy at dinner if he doesn't snack too much or eat enough at lunch.  But even that's not working, some nights he just won't eat much for dinner.  Am I mean???  He has the 15 month check-up in 1 month.  We'll see his growth at that appointment.  Is it OK to wait and be tough on food for now?  I have no idea how to handle this.  It was so much easier when they only needed milk/formula.

     
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