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TwinkleTorTwinkleTor member
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I am feeling down today. For one I've been waiting for Domenik's birth certificate to come in the mail. It's been a month. I went to the hospital to find out how much longer I'd have to wait. They told me they don't send them in the mail anymore. I have to go to the town hall and pick one up, and I'd have to buy it. Plus, I work 9-6 and the town hall hours are 9-3. No weekends! Grr!

I also had to eat lunch with one of the pregnant girls at work who just talked about being pregnant the whole time. I miss my bump. Why did this have to happen. All I want to do it hold my baby, listen to his breathes and heartbeat. This will never get easier!
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  • NoetholaNoethola member
    edited October 2013
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    Im sorry to hear they no longer send it out. Perhaps you can call town hall and ask? The hospital actually gave us the incorrect information about the certificate, but the funeral home told us correctly. So, I would check in with town hall. 

    I am so very sorry that you had to endure that. It is very hard.
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  • TwinkleTorTwinkleTor member
    My fiancé is going to stop by the town hall and pick it up! Tomorrow is the day we planned our baby shower and our families are getting together to commemorate our Domenik! We want to have the birth certificate there to show everyone and celebrate his life! Sorry! I know that may sound strange. But it makes us happy!
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  • elephantsonpatrolelephantsonpatrol member
    TwinkleTor said:
    My fiancé is going to stop by the town hall and pick it up! Tomorrow is the day we planned our baby shower and our families are getting together to commemorate our Domenik! We want to have the birth certificate there to show everyone and celebrate his life! Sorry! I know that may sound strange. But it makes us happy!
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  • jbranden12jbranden12 member
    I think it is such a good idea for everyone to get together to celebrate Domenik on the day that was to be your shower! Also, I'm sorry you had to sit and listen to your coworker talk about being pregnant. How insensitive and rude of her!


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  • OSUWifey09OSUWifey09 member
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    That's so awesome that everyone will be gathering to celebrate Domenik - I love that. And glad you got his birth certificate! I felt a big sense of closure when I finally had that in my hands...it was the last thing we were waiting on from his loss [we had all of the medical stuff sorted out and his ashes with us already; the certificate took 6 weeks].
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  • mingaling2mingaling2 member
    I think it's wonderful you're getting together to celebrate Domenik. 

     
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  • neptunebljcneptunebljc member
    I would maybe mentioned to the pregnant girl it makes you uncomfortable. I am friends with a pregnant co-worker and she has been very supportive through this and doesn't bring things up unless I question her about the baby.
    She gets there are good days and bad days.  

    Your co-worker just might not realize how insensitive she is being.
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  • TwinkleTorTwinkleTor member
    Just to update... My city doesn't hold "stillbirth" birth certificates at the town hall. The only way I can get one is if I order one (by mail) to the capital. And I have to pay more for one. Ugh! I feel so frustrated. I would have thought it would be easy to obtain, not more complicated. Like I haven't dealt with enough, they just make things more complicated. Now I won't have his birth certificate for our gathering, and now I have to wait longer. I feel the same as OSUWifey09, I think I will feel much better once I have it. But I'm still waiting for medical results, even though I pretty much know the cause.

    Anyway, thanks a lot ladies! You have no idea how helpful this forum is. And all of your responses are so caring and genuine! Definitely makes me smile
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  • weddedwifeweddedwife member
    That's just ridiculous. Making a grieving mother jump through all those hoops to get the certificate. And to make you pay MORE??? That's an outrage. I'd be writing an angry letter for sure!

    And I would throat punch your co-worker. Is she that clueless??
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