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Continue Working? Or Stay at Home?

melmcdaniel07melmcdaniel07 member
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I need to vent more then anything but I'd really like to know what other people are doing.  This is my first week back to work after having off 12 weeks with my little guy.  I knew all along I'd probably not want to go back to work but I guess I just never made myself think about it until now (big mistake!).  I'm really struggling with what to do.  My husband said I can stay home but I know it's not what he wants me to do.  He makes pretty good money but really feels like we have become adjusted to our current life style and if I quit it would make things "harder".  I'm debating getting a part time job to make us both happy but I'm not sure if that's the solution to the problem or not.  Anyone else struggling with the same thing?  Or ... if anyone is staying at home - is it as gratifying as you thought it would be, how are you handling the financial changes?  I'm just lost... I change my mind several times a day.  Overall I miss my baby and want to be the one that takes care of him but not at the cost of damaging my relationship with my husband.
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Re: Continue Working? Or Stay at Home?

  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    My only guidance to you is to give it more time.  You may find that you still strongly wish to be home but the first few weeks are, by far, the hardest.  I wouldn't make a decision right now because you might find that you get into a groove and don't want to stay home.  There are a lot of emotions right now so just give yourself a little time to be able to take a deep breath and make a decision without such intense emotions fueling it.  GL :)
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  • mrsnorthernbellmrsnorthernbell member
    I agree that you both have to be really on board for you to stay home. It's hard work and your dh has to be in the same mind set.
    I went back to work after dd was born for almost 2 months. I wanted to give it a real chance before making a decision. Dh wanted me to stay home but ultimately wanted me to just be happy. I gave up a great career with great pay but staying at home was the best choice for us.
    I do enjoy it and it is gratifying. I love being able to spend every day with my littles and watch them grow. I couldn't do it though if dh wasn't 100 percent supportive.

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