DS is over four and since maybe 2 1/2 has had a lot of trouble going to sleep at night...it escalated just before three when he started climbing out of his crib and we switched to a toddler bed and he would not stay put in his room at bedtime...we had the door locked from the outside for a little while bc we were afraid he'd wander at night and it was horrible, he would scream and cry and eventually we stopped(after maybe two months ish)...he took to sleeping on the floor in the doorway of his room and did that for almost a year. But throughout all that we have struggled w him taking longer and longer to settle down and go to sleep. We have tried it all, ignoring, picking up and putting back over and over, closing the door for 5min, 10 min, etc when he comes out, and finally even let him have books and a few small toys in there hoping it would help him at least stay in there but nothing works, he is up until 10pm or sometimes later most nights and is wide awake, insists he cannot sleep and is not tired, comes out and downstairs or will just sit at the top of the stairs, etc. we start bath, books, bedtime at 730 and they have to be in their rooms around 830 and we lie with them for a little bit to talk about their day or read one last story.....but he is also verrryyyy resistant to lights out ( when we have turned them out and left a light on in closet or hall to help him, we will sometimes find him later curled up in his closet w a book and pillow...) so he has a small lamp next to his bed which I know doesn't help.
Soooo...he does still nap bc unfortunately he is a total meltdown mess by 6 pm or so if he does not, plus at pre k they have to sit and do something quietly for an hour if they are not going to nap and he is not really capable of that and would rather lie down and sleep, so eliminating nap is not really an option yet, though we have asked the, to decrease his nap, which they have but some days it is very evident when I pick him up if it was really short bc he is sort of falling apart.
This chronic sleep issue of course causes behavior challenges and is tiring for all of us. One thing I haven't tried is melatonin and was hoping if anyone had similar issues if they had tried it too?