June 2014 Moms

Pregnancy is making me lie!

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edited October 2013 in June 2014 Moms
I committed my first major pregnancy deception tonight! Friends invited me out for 'dessert and drinks' to celebrate a big job interview I had today. They wouldn't take any of my excuses that I was too tired for a drink, so we went out. I ordered the drink I thought would most look normal if I turned it into a 'virgin'. After the waiter left, I excused myself to go the bathroom and went by the bar to tell the bartender I needed my drink without alcohol but that no one could know. He immediately caught my drift, whispered 'congratulations, miss', and made my drink without gin. I'm pretty sure my friends didn't know anything was amiss!

Anyone else having to lie more in the last few weeks than ever before? It's certainly for good reasons but I'm not used to this!
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  • I've lied to people (not about drinking because I don't drink). I hate it but I'm not ready to tell yet.
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  • I feel like I've been lieing left right and center for the last week.  Between my mom, sister, dad and my editor at work is been a nightmare.  I'm not ready to share yet especially incase baby doesn't stick. 
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  • Me, too. I plan to come clean about it all once everything is out in the open. 
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    DD 2 years old
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  • That made me chuckle, though :)

    I've lucked out!  I'm busy packing my home up, so I haven't had much time to go out with friends. They've all come here to help, but there hasn't been drinks yet (normally if they came for dinner or something, there would be). 

    We will probably all go out for drinks and dinner before we leave, though, but I may break the news before we leave anyway.

  • I've had to lie A LOT to my co-workers about why I'm always skipping out early to go to the RE for monitoring and bloodwork since my dr. takes their last appointment before the work day is through. I had to do this even before I was pregnant, when I was trying!

    DX PCOS June 2011, SA: low volume and concentration, 2% morph
    June 2011 Clomid 50 mg + metformin 500 mg = BFN
    August 2011 Clomid 100mg + metformin 500 mg = BFN
    October 2011 Clomid 100mg + metformin 500 mg = no response
    January 2012- Clomid 150mg + metforming 750 mg ER + trigger + IUI #1 = Cancelled due to poor response. 
    February 2012 - cancelled due to finaances
    April 2012 - Jumped ship to a new RE 
    May 2012 - New round of testing
    June 2012 - starting supplements, saving for IVF
    June 2013 - ready to start IVF, one more SA - all clear! Dr. Suggest starting with 50mg Clomid and Ovidrel instead. Have to resolve thryoid issues first. 
    August 2013 - 50 mg. Clomid + Ovidrel = BFN
    September 2013 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel = BFP on Oct. 7th!
    10.8.13 = 1st Beta 199
    10.10.13 = 2nd Beta 502
    10.14.13 = 3rd Beta 3,998
    11.4.13 = 1 little bean measuring right on track with a heartbeat of 174!
    12.2.13 = Genetic testing normal, It's a BOY!
    6.10.14 Our sweet baby boy is born at 1:43 pm - 8lbs, 8oz, 21" long


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  • Hubby and I told immediate about the bfp but it turned out to be a chemical pregnancy. We broke the news to the parents but I didn't feel up to telling over and over. Since we were going to continue trying I figured I'd wait to see what happens first. Then we got our BFP! They won't notice I'm a month shy of our original due date :-\"
  • I'm in the same boat, OP! I hate lying, but the big one is with my students. The other day, I was explaining to them that I was going to have a sub the next day because I had a doctor's appointment. One of my students was like "ohmygosh, are you pregnant?!" I was completely dumbfounded! (Responded: "Look, kids, there are a LOT of reasons to go to the doctor. What are you trying to say? You know gossip like that will spread over school. Calm down." I felt less like I was lying to perfectly innocent teenagers)

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    Zoe Johannah, born 6/3/2014 

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  • No lying yet, but I also really haven't left the house or seen anyone since I found out lol.
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    Busy mom of 3! Baby #4 due June 2014
  • I'm not a good liar so I've told people as necessary.  I was supposed to go to Aruba with my friends in the late spring and since that will be my third trimester, I backed out.  When a wonderful friend assumed it was because of money and volunteered to let me stay at her condo, I had to tell her the truth.  I didn't want her to exclude someone else because I was lying to her.  

    I'm going home to see my family this weekend and I'll tell them all because they will catch on quickly when I'm not drinking, smoking or guzzling Diet Cokes (way too many tells).
    BFP #1 09/26/2013 EDD 06/04/2013 MMC 11/01/2013
    BFP #2 05/15/2014 EDD 01/24/2015

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  • I haven't had to lie yet because I have been out of town working most weekends since I found out. But we are having our annual Halloween party in a few weeks so I will have to figure out something to say or do to keep it a secret.

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  • I'm feeling lucky since I have school that I came blame on for my lack of going out.  My bf did straight out ask what was happening on the baby front and I just lied and said we weren't even thinking about it yet for a least another cycle.  I have a feeling she is gonna be annoyed when I tell her but oh well. It is my news to share when I feel ready.

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  • I have to avoid one of my friends for a while.  We usually meet up for happy hour, so it would be glaringly obvious that I wasn't drinking (we usually go to a brewery, so I couldn't cover by ordering a virgin drink).  I might decide to tell him after our first ultrasound in 2 weeks, it's just that I know he can't keep a secret to save his life, so when I tell him, all our friends will know.  Until then though, I have to come with excuses of why I can't meet up...

  • My husband and I have had to practice role-playing situations, since I failed miserably the first time my best friend started prodding! Before I left to visit family for the weekend, we practiced exactly what I had to say in different situations! Seems extreme, especially since my siblings all announced right away. We just truly don't want anyone to know yet, since it's our first and we want to be sure. The charade is pretty nuts, though.
  • Last night at a family wedding it was cranberry and sprite with a lime for me, as my family won't know until Thanksgiving. I have been very open with my mom about the struggle and treatments, so I'm gonna have to tell her that AF came and I started another cycle of clomid. That is so hard because I tell my mom everything!
    Married my Sweetie 8/21/04
    BFP 10/8/2013
    Miss Camryn Marie arrived 6/20/2014

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  • I was doing my mother in laws hair and she offered me some coffee and food, luckily I came prepared and brought my own decaf and explained that I ate before I came.. Well i ended up staying there longer than expected and now it was well after lunch time and she was making deli meat sandwhiches for everyone.. Of course my efforts in trying to get my husband to leave quick failed and I ended up being the only one without a sandwhich just explaining I wasn't hungry all while praying my stomach wouldn't growl. Now thats over we have a wedding to go to with his parents on saturday.... Still trying to figure out how to get rid of the toasting... Maybe I will just pretend to drink it but not, then drink a bunch of water after to dilute anything that gets around my mouth lol. Anyone have any other ideas? I have no idea how this wedding is goin to be set up.
  • My mom asked me this morning if I was pregnant. She's the only family member I told we would be trying because we're not married and she's opinionated, she needed to have time to warm up to the idea. I just told her I wasn't and got off the phone as quick as possible!
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  • My name is Christy and I admit I have been a non-stop Liar! LoL :) I found out on my birthday. Which was the best present EVER! BUT that means week long celebrations and alcohol everywhere. We went to my mother in laws BC they cooked me a bday dinner which was sweet. But since it wasn't a restaurant there was no asking the bartender to make my margarita virgin. So I had to fake drink to my own birthday toast! And then I had to tell my DH how amazing this home made margarita was and how he just HAD to taste it! LoL ;) But luckily the more everyone else drinks the less likely they are to realize your still on your first one. And when it gets watered down that's a pretty good excuse to toss it.
    But this coming Saturday is my Halloween/Bday party, that of course was planned in advance. And my only solution to that one is to buy one of those bday cups so no one can just hand me drinks. Then make a really fruity alcoholic punch and fill my cup with all the same juices minus the alcohol so hopefully no one will notice the difference. Fingers crossed! :)
  • I have lied to people constantly. I've been gone the past 2ish weeks from work to do IVF. My coworkers think that I'm camping. They were surprised to see people go camping for 2 weeks at a time.... yeah, I should have come up with a better excuse :)

    I'm currently lying to my family on our beta dates, since we didn't want to get their hopes up in case IVF failed. We're telling them we won't know "for sure" until the 26th... but really we'll know by Friday and we're planning to surprise them at my dad's bday party the 23rd!

    I try not to think of it as lying... it's just no one's business right now ;)

  • I feel a little bit better seeing so many other liars out there! ;)  My first pregnancy at age 34 is so exciting and terrifying at the same time!  Everyone knows we have been TTC since we tied the knot in March.  We told my Mom about the positive home test, but no one else. I've had to lie outright to a coworker, Aunt, and a couple friends.  Now I just want to avoid everyone!  Suppose that would be even more suspicious... :-?  
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