Husbands and plastic surgery

melody921 · October 2013

If you wanted plastic surgery, would your husband say no? And if he did, would it deter you? A girl I know from a moms' group wants a boob job, but her husband basically just said forget it. It got me thinking that 1) I have no idea what DH thinks about this subject and 2) If he said no and I was hell bent, I'm sure I'd try to change his mind to my way of thinking.

AKB090609 · October 2013

I think DH would be against it, he would say it was throwing money away. I do think if I really wanted it that I would do it anyway. My body, my money, my choice.

hmp1 · October 2013

I can't remember his exact wording but we were talking about something regarding my body aging and he made a comment that I could always get surgery later on. So I take that as he has no problem with me doing something if I want it. He knows me well so he knows what is my style, he knows I wouldn't go crazy and not look like myself anymore.

If I really wanted something and it wouldn't hurt our family financially but he didn't want me to, I think I would probably talk to him about his reasons and take them into consideration. Not sure what I would eventually decide. I don't see myself ever having plastic surgery though. Maybe a little face lift/chin tuck, but it would be subtle.

MarisaKathleen · October 2013

I can't think of anything my DH would actually tell me no to if the cost were of no factor. The only thing I can even recall him saying no to me about recently was buying Nancy Hanukkah pajamas for St. Nick.

I can't wait until I'm older and stuff starts going and I can get it fixed up. DH thinks I'm ridiculous, but I'm totally serious. I really like my face. I'd like to keep it looking good as long as possible.

Bookelly · October 2013

I want a reduction and lift after I'm done having kids. I told DH that early on; my 32Fs don't suit my small frame and are, frankly, quite uncomfortable. He told me he loves my body no matter what, and if getting surgery makes me happy, that's cool with him.

danabsd · October 2013

I have already said I am getting my boobies put back when I am completely done breastfeeding. He didn't have an issue.
I think if I wanted to something crazy he would side-eye but I always get my way. Happy wife, happy life?

thebanich · October 2013

DH would say no. He is very judgey about it and it pisses me off to no end. Not because I want work done at the moment but because he shouldn't GAF.

kelbel527 · October 2013

We have to agree on all large financial decisions. But if we won the lottery or something and I wanted to do it and he hated the idea, we'd just have a long discussion on it and at the end of the day it's my body and I can do what I want.

That said...I have no desire to get surgery, but if I did, I would take his opinion seriously if he cared about it enough to say no. I hate tattoos (sorry to the tattooed ladies out there!), so I would have a strong opinion if DH wanted one. I'd hope he would take that into consideration.

But I also see this as the same as my desire to adopt our future 3rd child. I'm just going to keep bugging my husband about it until he eventually says yes. :P

ETA: clarity

MeatballEsq · October 2013

I'm pretty sure DH is against it. I don't have a strong desire to do it, but I guess if I did I would. Like others said my money, my body, my choice (we don't have combined finances). But since he's cool with me being saggy, I'll save my money

mrsjenni · October 2013

I honestly don't think I'd ever ask his permission. I'd see what he thought about it... yeah. But if I wanted to do something to my body after it endured 5 pregnancies and 4 births, then I should be able to do what I want. And I think my DH would support anything I wanted to do, honestly.

Flamingemu · October 2013

I married my DH because he promised me a mommy makeover when I was done having kids. #kiddingnotkidding

watercolor5 · October 2013

DH would be against it, except for things like reconstructive surgery after cancer or plastic surgery after trauma, though something causing pain/discomfort like super huge boobs might be a gray area. He hates the idea of surgery to make you look younger, is pretty comfortable with the aging process, and honestly believes he'll find me more attractive as we get older just because of the life we've gone through together.

Our finances are combined, so we really see it more as a "our money, our bodies, our decision" kind of thing. Even if I really wanted to get something done, I most likely wouldn't if he were dead set against it, and vice versa.

redneckmomma25 · October 2013

If it was something I wanted and we had the money he wouldn't care. The only things I would change would be lipo, tummy tuck and a boob lift. I'm sure he would be ok with all that.

LyndseylovesHugh · October 2013

I had a boob job before I met DH and he loves them so I think he realizes that if I want something else I would do it tastefully and he would like the outcome. We make all major financial decisions together as it is our money, so if he said no for a financial reason I would understand and start to save up or wait until we had more money, but if he said no just to say no I would still do it if it was something I really wanted. When we are done having kids I would totally get a tummy tuck if after exercise and diet my stomach still was not where I wanted it to be. I am sure DH would be fine with it because when I feel comfortable with my body he benefits :-)

Kissty · October 2013

Already discussed a boob job. I'm tiny and have always been. I had 1/2 the money saved and then POAS changed that.

Hyaline · October 2013

I can see DH having input here--from a financial perspective, the perspective of caring for our family and helping me recoup, that kind of thing. But if he just said no because he didn't like it or had issues with it, I'd be a little miffed. He's not the kind to do that, fortunately. Smaller example--he doesn't really like tattoos but I've said I've considered getting one and he's fine with that.

OceanLover26 · October 2013

I wouldn't ask for his permission, but I would discuss the financials with him because we make all money decisions together. He's very supportive of me getting mine done because he knows how I feel about it. The only thing I am nervous about is being put under for it.

eshee8198 · October 2013

I think for DH that would fall squarely in the box of "totally up to you, honey." Although I do think he would worry about me having surgery.

AlinnJo · October 2013

I think he would support what I wanted. I've talked about getting a lift for the ladies. Breastfeeding is not kind to them. He doesn't think I need it but would be ok if that's what I REALLY wanted.

Pokedot · October 2013

I've technically already had plastic surgery, reduction, 2 months before we got married. I'd do it all over again in a second. That being said, I don't think he'd have a problem with plastic surgery later on if it was something I couldn't get past and we could financially afford it no problem. He wouldn't want me to do a facelift or something drastic but a tummy tuck or something I think he'd be fine with.

BPer · October 2013

My H is well aware of my plans for a mommy makeover. He supports it.

melody921 · October 2013

BobKat22 said:

I think DH would say no for financial reasons. I would never let him spend that kind of money. Lucky me, I already have a boob job and those puppies only last 10 years. I'm due for new ones in a few years. He can't say no when mine have expired. I don't really have a choice. We were dating when I got them originally. He was supportive, but never ever pushed me in either direction. Which is amazing since he was a 19 year old boy at the time. I would consider a nose job and I know he would support that. He always makes fun of my nose! No, he's not a huge douche bag. We dish out just as much as we take with each other.

Really?! 10 years? Holy mackerel, this could be the deterrent for me. I don't want to have to keep going under the knife every 10 years.

BarefootContessa · October 2013

I'm open about the fact that I'd like a breast lift (if not augmentation) down the road some day. DH doesn't really have much to say about it either way. He has always said that if I do something it should be for me.

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