Husband annoyed with crying?

RunnerA518 · October 2013

Is anyone else's husband annoyed when the baby cries?

Mama3+1 · October 2013

Wtf. No. That would freak me out. Make sure not to leave him alone if you think he can't control his anger. And out of curiosity is it the baby or you he's annoyed with? Sorry if I offend you but this just sent up every red flag!

kimberlymacrae · October 2013

I came out of the bathtoom to see my husband crying because my little one was crying and he felt bad. Annoyed and angry... no.

kimberlymacrae · October 2013

Mud???

313Meg · October 2013

Mine gets upset when he can't stop it. But it's a helpless upset.

normandyn7 · October 2013

I know what you mean. My husband watches the baby on Tuesday nights while I go to class and he'll text me and say the baby won't stop crying even though he has eaten and been changed. I always tell him that sometimes he just wants to be held or cuddled and he doesn't understand that. He gets frustrated and just always assumes he is hungry when he cries. I said sometimes LO just gets overtired and fights falling asleep. I think it doesn't come natural for men so it frustrates them more when they can't figure out what the baby needs.

blondii428 · October 2013

Mine gets upset when he doesn't know how to help him during one of LO's colic episodes, but not to the point that I worry about his safety.

RunnerA518 · October 2013

He gets annoyed with the baby...

KaramelSutra · October 2013

RunnerA518 said:

He gets annoyed with the baby...

do you think he'd hurt the baby? Shaken baby Is notoriously done by men, who just want the baby to stop crying

KMD1106 · October 2013

DH gets annoyed easier than I do, but I don't worry about her safety. He says she gives him a headache, but he's always sweet and comforting. I have noticed if he's feeling particularly frustrated he'll just lay her down in a safe place for a few seconds which I think is good coping.

RunnerA518 · October 2013

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ocnfish4 · October 2013

My DH gets annoyed with the crying too. I don't fear for his safety at all though. DH just doesn't know what to do to make baby stop and that fact plus the noise frustrates him. He always says ' He's crying for no reason at all.' He does occasionally fuss at the baby and tell him to stop crying, but for the most part he hands him back off to me.

barnratash · October 2013

I think my DH is more frustrated with my crying than the baby's. It bothers him that it happens for no reason and I can't stop abd he cabt seem to help. But he has moments when the baby upsets him too.. more because he doesn't know what else to do when he's done everything he can. I don't worry about LOs safety. DH will hand him to me and walk away and take a break if he has to.

RoosterWrangler · October 2013

My fiancé is also the opposite way. If anything, I start getting anxious when I can't console our son and my fiancé is consistently cool as a cucumber. It's surprising because he normally has a very short temper (he's broken 3 sprinklers because they "don't do what the box says they'll do" - he is now banned from watering the lawn - ha!) but when it comes to the baby he's a totally different man.

llybeck · October 2013

This is ridiculous, if my fiance got like that when our child cried I would seriously be worried. It's one thing to feel frustrated or helpless sometimes because you don't know how to console LO but it's completely different to actually be annoyed and angry with them. It's your baby, babies cry and sometimes seemingly for no reason. What the hell did your husbands expect?

Babybabybabyohhhhhhh · October 2013

RunnerA518 said:
I don't think so, but he gets so annoyed that it does worry me... We did have a unique situation where were stuck in the same hospital room for a couple of weeks and it wore on both of us... But he did make a comment about shaken baby that had me on edge

Maybe you need to have him talk to someone about it? If you're worried he will shake the baby that is a huge deal

llybeck · October 2013

RunnerA518 said:
I don't think so, but he gets so annoyed that it does worry me... We did have a unique situation where were stuck in the same hospital room for a couple of weeks and it wore on both of us... But he did make a comment about shaken baby that had me on edge

What comment did he make? It doesn't matter how "unique" your situation is, if he is alluding that he may shake your baby or if you are worried that he will then he needs counseling. I would be very concerned if I were in your position and I would leave him alone with the baby.

Babybabybabyohhhhhhh · October 2013

I am wondering what the comment he made was too

abrandnewcocopuff · October 2013

Mine also gets annoyed with the crying. This is our 2nd. Hed never hurt either of them and actually watched DD1 for a few months when I went back to work (he stayed home). Some people just can't stand a newborns cries. Not everything is tragic.

MamaInMN · October 2013

I think it's normal for people to feel annoyed or frustrated when baby won't stop crying. It's just a way that stress shows up for some people. DH definitely gets frustrated - I've heard him saying to the baby in an almost desperate voice "nothing is wrong! Please stop!"

What's not normal is letting this frustration reach the point of taking it out on the baby in any way. If your gut tells you to be worried, you should be. Don't brush it off as being "hormonal" - those hormones are there to help you take care of your baby right now and if you think something is off, you should talk to someone ASAP. Shaken baby is not something to take lightly.

OliveMom3 · October 2013

My dh is the opposite. He finds it hilariously cute when the baby cries. I get anxious and want yo console our LO but sometimes dh just laughs and tells me that babies sometimes just cry for no reason.

SweetPeaK26 · October 2013

Dh gets annoyed, frustrated, anxious etc. but I think his annoyance is more with himself that he can't calm her down, but then as soon as he hands her to me, she stops crying. I'd be annoyed with that too!

I try to tell him she only stops because she's by the food, but I really wish he could hold her more without her crying. She eats WAY more than she needs to just because she's close and wants to.

JamieWM · October 2013

A new baby is a LOT. DH gets anxious and seems mad when he is helpless. He is still adjusting ...we all are. If people didn't get frustrated or discouraged id want to know what drugs they are on! You know your SO if you feel he is potentially dangerous that's another story but talk it out w him. These are beautiful, scary, intense amazing times!

leahaustin · October 2013

No, he doesn't get angry. Maybe a little frustrated when he can't get her to calm down but never angry.

mrssamarataylor · October 2013

DH doesn't get angry, he feels helpless. Since I stay at home, I've learned tricks to get DS to calm down that he hasn't picked up. If he were to show signs of being annoyed, we'd have a talk. How can you be annoyed at your baby's only way of communication. Yes it can get overwhelming but he has to remember that baby isn't giving HIM a hard time, baby is HAVING a hard time.

llybeck · October 2013

Why did you delete everything? We took the time to respond to your very real issue, it's kind of rude to delete all of your original posts.

I just wanted to say that if your DH truly is annoyed and angry with your baby, you need to address it immediately, that's an incredibly serious situation. Actually being that upset with an infant on a regular basis is frightening and can lead to actions, especially since you seem concerned that he may do something like that.

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