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The feeling of guilt is overwhelming

rjacquesrjacques member
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So last night was our first night of no BFing. I thought I was ready to be done but I feel so guilty. I said goodnight to DS as usual but my DH put him to bed instead. He cried for almost an hour. I don't know if it was because he didn't nurse or if it was something else (I also think he is getting sick). If I am not home and DH puts him to bed he doesn't have a problem. Either way, I feel guilty. I feel like he is going to hate me. I feel like a horrible mom. I know I am being silly but I can't help feeling this way. This is way harder then I thought it was going to be. 
Anyone else have guilt when stopping BFing? Did you start a new bedtime bonding routine when you stopped? 

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Re: The feeling of guilt is overwhelming

  • shakinrosshakinros member
    I'm so sorry you feel so bad. I can only kind of relate since we gave up BFing at 4.5 months, but I felt terrible about it. DD didn't seem to mind. It took me some time to get past the guilt of stopping so much earlier than I had hoped and I still intend to BF our second (whenever that is) longer.

    Does he need something to suck on just before bed? Was he actually eating at that bedtime session?

    The guilty feelings will pass. You did amazing to go this long.
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    Thanks ladies! I don't think he was eating, at least not much. Once he went to sleep he slept all night like he usually does. I think he is getting sick which might have been why he was cranky but it didn't help my guilt at all. I am tempted to whip it out tonight if he is sick! I thought stopping would be freeing but I was wrong. I know it will pass and I am really glad I went as long as I did. I was going to stop after 6 months but just kept going! 
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  • CourtneyEepsCourtneyEeps member
    No reason to feel guilty but I've read that it's best to not try to wean a nursing session if LO is sick or really teething. I would think it would just make it a more difficult/stressful process than if you just waited a week or two, to see if he really is getting sick.

    You know what's best for you and your family, so if it's the right time to wean, go for it. No guilt!
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