@dorothy, I totally get what your saying. I've read the newbie blog and understand the boundries. And I suppose that I meant this was a supportive place, which actually is what a community should be, at least to me. It makes total sense about being a part of or participating in the community before expecting a celebration.
So I'm pretty new here, and don't want to stir the pot, but I'd just like some clarification on what these "rules" are. I thought this was like a support board. Are we not supposed to be happy for those who achieve what we all want? I totally get that rubbing it in is totally mean and unnecessary, but what is ok and what isn't? I'd just kind of like to
know the ground rules.
The newbie post at the top of TTGP is a great resource. Nobody is upset that OP got a BFP. If you look at recent posts, there are TTGP members who have contributed to the board and that have been here for a while who also got a BFP. I can only speak for myself, but I am always happy when someone who has TTGP gets a BFP.
That being said, if EVERY SINGLE TB member who got a BFP came to TTGP to announce their BFP....it would be excessive. Also, as PP's have said, it belongs on first tri. Use common sense that you would use IRL. When someone gets a BFP, who do they tell? People they are close to, the immediate family, whoever has been supportive in their life. NOT strangers. We are more than happy to celebrate a BFP with someone who has become a TTGP regular, as they are TTGP "family".
As we have tactfully tried to ask in PPs, would OP go into a room of strangers and randomly announce that she got a BFP? I certainly hope not. Why is it so hard to understand how RUDE that is?
Again, sorry your all just butthurt that the universe thinks your not good enough to reproduce
I don't have any trouble reproducing. The universe thinks these ladies are fucking awesome. The verdict is in and multiple universes think you are acting like a fucking stanky turd.
@dorothy, I totally get what your saying. I've read the newbie blog and understand the boundries. And I suppose that I meant this was a supportive place, which actually is what a community should be, at least to me. It makes total sense about being a part of or participating in the community before expecting a celebration.
This is actually the most supportive board I've ever been on. But support isn't just given out, which is what people don't seem to understand. Everyone here communicates pretty much daily and you get out of it what you put in. If you stick around and contribute and offer advice, comfort, excitement, thoughts and prayers, it will come back to you. Don't be an asshole and learn to not take it too seriously. I owe this board a lot for what I've learned about my own body. The ladies here are wonderful, and don't deserve to be harassed by people who have no idea of the community that's been established.
PS. I consider myself a newbie although I have been posting casually for a month now...I wouldn't even feel comfortable posting a BFP announcement. It is called being considerate...
Again, sorry your all just butthurt that the universe thinks your not good enough to reproduce
I don't have any trouble reproducing. The universe thinks these ladies are fucking awesome. The verdict is in and multiple universes think you are acting like a fucking stanky turd.
@primrosemama wins for the best use of "stanky turd" ever.
No, I feel very sorry for you. It will be quite difficult to care for a child by yourself. Andplusalso...I have a baby...and a husband not in jail ::flips hair::
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Formerly dlsexton
BFP #1 Dec 2010 ~ Blighted Ovum Jan 2011 @ 11wks D&C Jan '11 & Mar '11
BFP #2 July 2011 ~ Miss Amelia born 3/30/12 @ 41 weeks!
BFP #3 July 2013 ~ M/C Aug 2013 @ 5.5 weeks
BFP #4 Oct 2013 ~ Miss Lydia born 6/3/14 @ 36 weeks!
There is nothing as pathetic as a pregnant (or supposedly pg) woman who wastes their weekday nights trolling a TTGP board. I mean, this says a lot about you, your complete lack of sensitivity, empathy & a moral compass. It's lonely for you when you don't have support or friends. Bless your sad little, angry heart.
(on a more serious note) This couldnt be more false, I have lots of lovely supportive wonderful friends, an amazing DP (NO NOT IN JAIL) and a beautiful DD. I have close friends who suffer from infertility and its heartbreaking! But honestly i think if your going to be that fucking bitter and nasty you shouldnt bring children into the world!!!!!!!!!!! ODVIOUSLY things i said i said to get a rise, but i dont apologize at all. this is NOT an apology. There were a few comments where they said why it came across as hurtful or rude, and that is how it shouldve been! not a bunch of sad bitter women attacking this lady who has just gotten the best news of her life after a lot of heartbreak!
As for the trolling issue... no explanation for that.. i just thought about joining a baby forum once and this was the first one i saw and saw how nasty and rude you all are, thought it would be fun
@emma403 : I don't believe you have supportive friends/family at all. Truly, the things you've said are way worse than "take it to first trimester". You are plenty nasty here & have brought offspring into the world. So obviously being gross/insensitive/twattish doesn't have anything to do with being able to get KU. It's all luck.
If you truly do have friends (again I call BS on that, your loneliness is painfully evident by the way you post just to hurt people) that suffer from IF then I pray they never make you angry. It's really low & hurtful the things you said. Only a despicable excuse for a human being would do this at all.
Leave these ladies alone. They all have more class, empathy, and good natured care for others in their pinky toes than you have in your entire body.
So, I know you are a troll, but I thought you should know that a fertile woman who is incredibly blessed with support from this board thinks you are out of line. Luck can run out for anyone. Stop acting like somehow you are better than these amazing women just because you are pregnant at this moment.
(on a more serious note) This couldnt be more false, I have lots of lovely supportive wonderful friends, an amazing DP (NO NOT IN JAIL) and a beautiful DD. I have close friends who suffer from infertility and its heartbreaking! But honestly i think if your going to be that fucking bitter and nasty you shouldnt bring children into the world!!!!!!!!!!! ODVIOUSLY things i said i said to get a rise, but i dont apologize at all. this is NOT an apology. There were a few comments where they said why it came across as hurtful or rude, and that is how it shouldve been! not a bunch of sad bitter women attacking this lady who has just gotten the best news of her life after a lot of heartbreak!
As for the trolling issue... no explanation for that.. i just thought about joining a baby forum once and this was the first one i saw and saw how nasty and rude you all are, thought it would be fun
Comments about infertility for nasty people coming from nasty bitch does not compute.
Back to your uber fulfilling life you go now. Good luck with being a fucking loser and all.
(on a more serious note) This couldnt be more false, I have lots of lovely supportive wonderful friends, an amazing DP (NO NOT IN JAIL) and a beautiful DD. I have close friends who suffer from infertility and its heartbreaking! But honestly i think if your going to be that fucking bitter and nasty you shouldnt bring children into the world!!!!!!!!!!! ODVIOUSLY things i said i said to get a rise, but i dont apologize at all. this is NOT an apology. There were a few comments where they said why it came across as hurtful or rude, and that is how it shouldve been! not a bunch of sad bitter women attacking this lady who has just gotten the best news of her life after a lot of heartbreak!
As for the trolling issue... no explanation for that.. i just thought about joining a baby forum once and this was the first one i saw and saw how nasty and rude you all are, thought it would be fun
I think you are just jealous because there is a sense of friendship, warmth & community here. You've obviously never had the fortune to enjoy such blessings. So, judging by your posts I'd say you desperately want to be liked/loved/belong somewhere.
Why else would you procreate with someone who can't follow laws? You are so desperate to be with anyone, that any joe off the street will do. I see right through you, dear. All this hurtful, bashing type crap is just screaming a lost, scared little girl. You think you are sticking it to TTGP, but in reality you are broadcasting your own insecurities and personality flaws.
I really do pity you. You should seek professional help.
To the OP of the entire thread, and people who are genuinely coming here wanting to know how to behave in a community like this: it's actually pretty simple. I am a good example of someone who doesn't participate a lot, but I pop in on threads here and there and read more than I comment on. It didn't take me long to grasp the spirit of the community. In the event of getting a BFP there are ways to celebrate, post and "give hope" to others who may have been TTC for as long as you have without being insensitive. The women in this community ARE genuinely happy for those in similar situations to achieve their BFP and move on - it lightens the heart and feeling good for others always makes a person feel good about themselves in return. But it needs to be handled in a respectful manner especially if you are not well known to the community and haven't contributed anything. And "contributing" is as simple as expressing congratulations, giving advice, sharing your personal experience, or just commiserating.
AND, its the people that actually deserve children who my heart goes out to for infertility. Not nasty bitches who bully women, Me? im just calling you all out on your shit! and bitchiness!
Friendship warmth and community? That is the most ridiculous thing ive heard all day! Attacking a woman for no reason? SO LOVELY AND FRIENDLY.
No one attacked her until she flew off the handle. OP is not blameless here.
I promise my assertion is not the most ridiculous thing you've seen today. You must have missed your reflection in the mirror & the hypocrisy of your posts.
You are attacking these women for simply redirecting OP to the appropriate board.
AND, its the people that actually deserve children who my heart goes out to for infertility. Not nasty bitches who bully women, Me? im just calling you all out on your shit! and bitchiness!
It's not just waving a BFP in a strangers face... It's running into an OBGYB or RE specialists office and waving it.... People not knowing the board is one thing. Purposeful trolling is another.
I hope the trolls go back under their bridges and stay there. If I wasn't mobile bumping I'd find a billy goat gif kicking somebody in the head...
Holy shit. Just to clarify, did she get banned for admitting to being a troll, or for the "you nasty bitches don't deserve babies" comment. Because if that's not a bannable offense, it should be.
Wow after cd 1&2 being hell, Then listening to two pregnant coworkers complain about pregnancy today....yep this us what I wanted. Guess what? Congrats.now move to first tri.
This is disgusting. No wonder you idiots cant get pregnant your all so nasty and bitter there has got to be some force in the world that is stopping you from having children and producing more bitter and nasty people. thank fuck.
Congrats to the lady who is pregnant!!
You seriously think some 'force' cares how people act and doles out babies accordingly? So how do you explain drug addicts getting pregnant and having drug addicted babies, you think a few women dishing snark on the internet are worse than that? And then, do you really not see that many of the women who frequent this board actually already have children? I'm one of them, my almost 19 year old daughter is a wonderful human being, and for the record she clearly understands the concept of an Internet forum better than you. Explodes your lovely theory all to fuck doesn't it! Ultimately it comes down to the fact that this board is a community where people get to know each other over time, just like a real life group of friends. We have no obligation to squee over a stranger's BFP, just as we would side-eye someone who walked into an infertility support group meeting and waved her positive peestick around. It's common sense, not karma, learn the difference.
ETA Posted before reading the troll admission - urgh, the one time I jump the gun and post before finishing the whole thread! :-w
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12:
Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161 Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
This is disgusting. No wonder you idiots cant get pregnant your all so nasty and bitter there has got to be some force in the world that is stopping you from having children and producing more bitter and nasty people. thank fuck.
Congrats to the lady who is pregnant!!
If acting like the OP gets you pregnant then tomorrow morning I'm going by the homeless shelter to tell them about my amazing house. And if they get upset or call me out about being rude, insensitive selfish bitch then I'll tell them that they're bitter and their poor attitude is why they don't have a home.
And stop acting like there's any kind of rhyme or reason for who gets pregnant. Have you seen mtv or read a paper lately? Some of the nastiest most god-awful people on earth get pregnant with no problem. It's not some kind of competition that you win by being good at life.
OP, congrats. I truly hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy. You were on the right track when you apologized for offending people and you should intro on first tri before word of this nonsense spreads.
Too late. Word has spread - at least to the January 2014 board.
OP you are the most ridiculous person ever. If one of my friends had rubbed my face in the fact that they were pregnant following my loss, I'd have punched them in the face (or a swift kick to the box). I would count YOUR (note the correct use of your) blessings that this is an online community and you can hide behind a screen name.
Oh please!!! all of you are the ones that hide behind your computer to bully people, my intentions were good when I wrote this post and I just can't believe they way you all have behaved like a pack of wild animals, I'm sorry some of you are having a really hard time but I also have had a rough time!
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Oh wait, my child will have parents who actually work for what we have. Oops. Try again later.
Nope! No ice for you, Emma.
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This couldnt be more false,
I have lots of lovely supportive wonderful friends, an amazing DP (NO NOT IN JAIL) and a beautiful DD.
I have close friends who suffer from infertility and its heartbreaking!
But honestly i think if your going to be that fucking bitter and nasty you shouldnt bring children into the world!!!!!!!!!!!
ODVIOUSLY things i said i said to get a rise, but i dont apologize at all. this is NOT an apology.
There were a few comments where they said why it came across as hurtful or rude, and that is how it shouldve been! not a bunch of sad bitter women attacking this lady who has just gotten the best news of her life after a lot of heartbreak!
As for the trolling issue... no explanation for that.. i just thought about joining a baby forum once and this was the first one i saw and saw how nasty and rude you all are, thought it would be fun
If you truly do have friends (again I call BS on that, your loneliness is painfully evident by the way you post just to hurt people) that suffer from IF then I pray they never make you angry. It's really low & hurtful the things you said. Only a despicable excuse for a human being would do this at all.
Leave these ladies alone. They all have more class, empathy, and good natured care for others in their pinky toes than you have in your entire body.
So, I know you are a troll, but I thought you should know that a fertile woman who is incredibly blessed with support from this board thinks you are out of line. Luck can run out for anyone. Stop acting like somehow you are better than these amazing women just because you are pregnant at this moment.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
Comments about infertility for nasty people coming from nasty bitch does not compute.
Back to your uber fulfilling life you go now. Good luck with being a fucking loser and all.
I think you are just jealous because there is a sense of friendship, warmth & community here. You've obviously never had the fortune to enjoy such blessings. So, judging by your posts I'd say you desperately want to be liked/loved/belong somewhere.
Why else would you procreate with someone who can't follow laws? You are so desperate to be with anyone, that any joe off the street will do. I see right through you, dear. All this hurtful, bashing type crap is just screaming a lost, scared little girl. You think you are sticking it to TTGP, but in reality you are broadcasting your own insecurities and personality flaws.
I really do pity you. You should seek professional help.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
BAHA. really...??
Attacking a woman for no reason? SO LOVELY AND FRIENDLY.
I promise my assertion is not the most ridiculous thing you've seen today. You must have missed your reflection in the mirror & the hypocrisy of your posts.
You are attacking these women for simply redirecting OP to the appropriate board.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
People not knowing the board is one thing. Purposeful trolling is another.
I hope the trolls go back under their bridges and stay there. If I wasn't mobile bumping I'd find a billy goat gif kicking somebody in the head...
Guess what? Congrats.now move to first tri.
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12: Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
TTC journey over as of the end of October 2014
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All ALers welcome!
I know this thread is probably dead at this point, but I woke up and saw the train wreck that is this post. So I just had to say:
Glad Emma got banned! And I hope any PP's on here never have to see that nasty shit again and sorry that anyone with IF issues had to read that.
Married 7/21/12
Off bcp and ttc 9/1/13
bfp 7/20/14, m/c 7/23
will ttc again 8/14