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Success after IF
pantsarella
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Me:27, DH:28 - DX: MFI, varicocele repair Nov 2011
Post-Op SA: Count- 15 million, Motility- 75%, Morphology- 3%
IVF with ICSI - Stimming 10/4/12 - 10/13/12, Lupron Trigger
ER 10/18/12, 12 eggs retrieved, 8 mature, 5 fertilized
5 day transfer 10/23/12, 3 frosties
Beta #1 11/5/12: 453, Beta #2 11/7/12: 1,013, DD born 7/19/13
IVF ladies...a question for you!
pantsarella
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So lately I've been thinking about being an egg donor. I mentioned it to DH and his immediate response was "Hell no!". After more prying, he said that giving me shots and watching me be emotional (even though I wasn't too bad) was really hard on him and he wouldn't want to do it again. He knows we'll have to do an FET for our next child when we're ready for that but that won't be for a while and he says that it's different when it's for us rather than going through "the hard parts of IVF" and walking out with nothing (obviously there's a financial piece, but I think for him the "nothing" part is the emotional attachment to a child, etc).
The financial piece is definitely a factor, but I guess maybe I've read enough stories on here about struggling for a baby and having success using donor eggs. So, my question to you is- would you consider being an egg donor? Would you go through the injections, ER, etc all over again knowing there's no baby for you at the end of it?
Me:27, DH:28 - DX: MFI, varicocele repair Nov 2011
Post-Op SA: Count- 15 million, Motility- 75%, Morphology- 3%
IVF with ICSI - Stimming 10/4/12 - 10/13/12, Lupron Trigger
ER 10/18/12, 12 eggs retrieved, 8 mature, 5 fertilized
5 day transfer 10/23/12, 3 frosties
Beta #1 11/5/12: 453, Beta #2 11/7/12: 1,013, DD born 7/19/13
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Re: IVF ladies...a question for you!
I would LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE to be an egg donor. I had really good results with my IVF cycle and had a really easy recovery from my ER. I totally agree with you that I've read enough stories that I wish I could help someone else.
That being said, I know the requirements for egg donation are VERY stringent and I think if my memory serves me correctly, my age (34) has already knocked me out of contention, so I've never thought more seriously about it.
However, I'd like to think about donating my embryos when I'm done with them to another IF couple.... I will admit, I am not there yet mentally, but I think it would be AMAZING to give someone that gift.... So few people will every have the opportunity to do it, and I think it would feel so good to do something so selfless. I have 5 embryo's on ice, if all goes according to plan I won't use them all and I really hope in time DH and I can both make the decision to put them up for adoption.
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up."
TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012
IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized!
ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597
12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015
Me:34 Type 1 Diabetes, Ankylosing Spondylitis, Hypothyroid DH:35 Perfect
DX: Unexplained IF
Many IUI's with various meds all BFFN
IVF #1 11/11 canceled due to OHSS
IVF #2 Feb/March 2012 ET of 2 on day 3 4/7 BFP! 5/1 u/s blighted ovum
IVF #3 July 2012 ET of 3 on day 3 7/24 BFP!
Healthy baby girl born at 36w4d on 3/9/13
TTC#3
IVF #5 June 2018- PGS planned, no surviving embryos
IVF #6 August 2018- ET of 2 on day 3 - Chemical pregnancy
IVF #7 August 2019-....?
FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN
FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN
No more frosties
IVF #2. September 2014
PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts
SET November 9, 2014
Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN
Not sure where to go from here.
I'm pretty sure my dx of DOR puts me out of the running for a donor egg cycle, but I would absolutely go through the process if I were to be compensated (donors through my clinic are paid about $6K). I would love to be able to put that money into my kids' college funds.
Neither DH or I are comfortable with embryo donation, but he would be supportive of my decision to donate eggs if I chose to; however, I have always done all of my own injections (with the exception of the trigger shot). DH could potentially be fairly limited in his involvement if he chose to.
DX: DOR and MFI
IVF w/ICSI brought us our 1st precious miracle
V born via induction 4.29.11
TTC #2: IVF (MDLF) August/September 2012
ER 9/7: 6R, 5M, 4F ET 9/12: 5dt of 2 blasts
+HPT 9/17! Beta #1 (9/25) = 1,000 Beta #2 (9/27) = 1,860 U/S #1 (10/11)...TWINS!
1/8/13 - It's a..boy and a girl!!
S&B born via induction 5.8.13
Failed multiple cycles of Clomid+TI and Clomid+IUI
3/2011 inj+IUI #1 BFP. 4/2011 missed m/c.
Fall 2011 inj+IUI #2&3 BFN
Jan/Feb 2012 IVF#1 BFP 2/23 EDD 10/31/2012 ~~~ Halloween ~~~
Our IVF miracle, Baby Boy M, arrived on 11/8/2012!
The injections etc is just a part of it for me though. I want nothing to do with that ever again! In addition I couldn't handle my eggs... A part of me...and what could have been my child being out there living and breathing and not knowing them. I feel like I would think about it for the rest of my life.