DH and I pretty much had a BLOW OUT last night over the cleaning lady issue (I still don't see what the huge issue is. It's $50... *sigh*). He made claims that I was "trying to skirt around responsibility and spend money frivolously."
I scoffed at him and started laughing. I did the breakdown for him of how much we actually spend in eating out (the deal when we got married was I clean, he cooks - he's stopped cooking altogether). Per month, it comes to about $600 - just dinners, probably about $900 or so if you include the several times a week he goes out for lunch.
I told him that if he's so concerned about money then we should make a chore chart and start doing meal plans and using coupons. He agreed to this and I'm going to implement it tonight. I'm going to MAKE SURE he follows through.
Where you guys come in: What are your experiences with meal planning? Do you plan for the entire week or just day of? What are your favorite go-tos that can be frozen/refrigerated until ready to eat? I'd like to save as much time and money as possible.
Basically, how do I do this? He's a great cook and I suck, so I would need quick, simply, yet still healthy stuff so I can participate.
Sorry for the rambling post. I guess I had a lot to get off my chest...
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He won't eat soup (he doesn't like hot liquids :-/ ), I'm trying to branch out from pasta since that's pretty much all I can make - and since diet is an issue, I'm putting a ban on burgers in our house for the month. Lol
@growingmybun - is there a website for slow cooker recipes that you like?
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We often will chose dinners that we can make extra of, then bring leftovers for lunch (for example, we made a butternut squash soup last week and we each had it 2x for lunch that week in addition to one dinner. Or we make this really delicious/healthy Quinoa Chili, or morrocan stew.) I hate sandwiches so if we didn't do something like this, I'd end up buying lunch before I'd bring a sandwich in. Other dinners we usually plan for are chicken fajitas, vegetable stir fry, pasta, hamburgers, etc.
Like MarBee, we get a bunch of fruits and veggies to choose from for sides/snacks throughout the week.
I probably buy lunch about 1x a week as a treat, otherwise I'd get bored. But we seriously only ever go out for dinner for special occasions (birthday, anniversary, etc.)
ETA: my DH is the chef in our family too. I'm not bad... But he HATES doing dishes, so the trade off is that he cooks and I clean up... Which I am 100% ok with!!!
I plan for a week at a time, usually the day before I do my grocery shopping. Before DD, I used to meal plan a month at a time, but I just don't get that far ahead any more.
I have a list of easy go-to dinner ideas like eggs & waffles (or really any breakfast food), sandwiches, wraps, etc. Even with meal planning there are some nights when DH or I change our mind - either the day was really busy and we ran out of time or whatever I planned just didn't sound good. So it's nice to have "backups".
I also rely heavily on freezer meals and/or crock pot. During the week, I get home at 5:30, and by then I am starving and DD is hungry and wants mommy time. So I don't like to spend a lot of time in the kitchen. But whenever I do cook (especially on the weekend), I try to make a double batch of whatever it is and the second batch becomes a freezer meal. Pasta sauces, casseroles, enchiladas, soups all work very well for that. It's such a nice feeling to have a freezer stocked of ready to eat or ready to cook meals! And it's not that much harder to cook twice as much.
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I typically try to just grocery shop once a week but I am suffering from major pregnancy brain and have had to make several trips per week lately for things I missed, etc.
When I do cook, I cook in big batches so I can freeze the other half of the meals. The other thing that is great with left overs, you can pack them up to lunch size portions that are ready to go so there is no excuse on what to make or have for lunch. I am also bad at cutting up fresh veggies at times so having the frozen on hand helps me add color to my meals. My H does not cook at all so I am stuck doing all the cooking and typically most of the cleaning. I usually let him clean up my mess after I am done. It works for us and it'll never be perfect because there are times I just don't have the energy and he is very understanding.
When I am not freezing larger meals ahead of the game I certainly try to pick meals that I can piece together with anything I might have left over... pasta, soup, eggs are great for turning left over spares into a one pot or one pan wonders. I always keep noodles on hand, sauce, eggs, and broths or stocks. I also keep frozen bagels and breads in the freezer because those are easy to zap in the microwave or toast up in no time. Oh and stir frys are really good for just combining a bunch of left over ingredients and experimenting with different spices herbs, etc.
We have a pretty solid rotation of meals. Each week we cook a whole chicken which does a dinner, lunch or two and we make stock out of the bones. We also will generally do shepherds pie and pork chops each week.
It definitely helps to save money! I cannot imagine eating out so much. It'll take time to get used to have a plan and sticking to it but it's worth it when you have less stress over what to make and see the money saved!
You are awesome, @MarBee1214! I'm super focused on making this work and definitely need help.
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But, here's my (hopefully) helpful advice...
We actually do our grocery shopping together on Sundays (lately it's been every other Sunday, but soon it will go back to normal). That way we can both pick things that we like. It's also part of how we spend time together. I love to cook, so it's not hard for me to come up with recipes. But our grocery list usually looks something like this:
- Meats (chicken, beef, pork -- ETA: we buy bulk packages and freeze sections, so we only use what's needed and don't buy meat every week necessarily)
- Fruits & veggies (ex for 1 week: bananas, grapes, apples, broccoli, brussels sprouts, asparagus, zucchini, tomatoes, red peppers, lettuce, cucumbers)
- Bread
- Sandwich meat
- Milk
- Juice
- Cereal, oatmeal
- Occasionally some snacks (cookies, chips & salsa, yogurt, etc.)
I usually have things like olive oil, eggs, butter, coffee, onions, garlic, spices, rice, pasta, etc. in bulk and only stock up on those as needed.
I will peruse recipes on Sunday morning to see if there's anything specific that I want to make and if there are any additional items I need and add them to the list. Otherwise, I'll just come up with something I want to make using the ingredients that I have in the house. Occasionally, if I'm craving something, I'll run out to get a few items or send him out. But we both work from home during the day, so for us it's a bit different.
As far as recipes, if he's cooking, he really should be the one to doing the work on that side. Honestly. I can't imagine my husband searching for recipes for me. But as long as you have ingredients stocked up, he should be all set.
@pennstated912 can you swap out the regular pasta for whole wheat or even the "white pasta" ones with high fiber? It's alllll about proportion, so I think switching to a healthier pasta and only making two real (i.e. use the serving suggestions on the box, measure them out, and only make that amount) would be more doable.
Also with the burger thing...you could buy lean ground beef (they make ones that are around 7% fat as opposed to the "regular" meat being 20% fat) get light rolls and light cheese.
I've followed WW for a looooong time now and I've learned different ways to eat what I want in a healthier way so that I'm not miserable when I eat.
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@peanutmuse - I was FUMING when he said that! I can count on one hand the number of times he's helped me clean in the last 6 months. But, if he wants to be like that, two can play that game. Therefore, he's getting a chore chart and meal plans. We will see who actually sticks to the plan. My money's on me though.
Maybe if he sees that I'm sticking to it and he's not, he will concede since I'm making an actual effort to save us money and get us organized for Baby.
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Another thing I like to make, I don't know what it's called but is great for leftovers, is:
brown 1 lb ground beef
Add spices
Add 2 cans of cream of mushroom/chicken/celery soup (do not add water)
Heat through, stirring occasionally
Also cook 4 servings of rice.
Serve the beef/soup mix over the rice.
It takes maybe 10 minutes after the hamburger is browned. It's my go-to meal when we don't have time for much, or everyone is hungry NOW. We always have the ingredients stocked.
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I meal plan every weekend (pick 5-6 meals, not day specific), and then we shop on Sundays (our Albertson's does a 10% off if you wear the local MLB, NFL jersey on game days!). I totally agree with many of the pp's about relying on certain staples, freezer items, and crock pot stuff. I also have a subscription to Cooking Light ($18 for 2 years) and love looking through it for new menu items and ideas - plus they are fairly healthy.
I try to plan for at least 2-3 salads a week and buy whatever produce looks good and is on sale. I also try to keep fresh fruit in the house since my DD is a huge snacker and loves apples, pears, strawberries, etc. I'll grab some fresh veggies to cook with a meal, depending on cost and if nothing looks good, we use frozen. We also just started getting the Bountiful Basket so that will help with our fruits and veggies.
As for meals, here's a list of what we normally rotate:
Baked salmon, veggie, baked potato / rice / pasta-roni
Spaghetti and salad
Tacos or taco salad
BBQ Pork Sandwiches in crock pock / Baked Beans / Veggie
Chili
Beef Stroganoff in crock pot over noodles / rice with veggie
Pork Chops / Veggie or salad / Rice or pasta
Egg Salad Sandwiches
Breakfast for dinner
Brats and saurkraut in crock pot
Baked chicken / veggie or salad / rice or potato
Lasagna and salad
Veggie / Lentil Soup
Southwester Soup (similar to chicken tortilla)
Fish Tacos
Cranberry Porkloin in crock pot / Stuffing / Veggie
Italian Meatloat / Mashed potatoes / Salad
Chicken and dumplings
Turker burgers
Chicken / Shrimp fried rice
In addition, we keep some frozen and boxed meals around - frozen chicken nuggets, tuna/hamburger helpers, pasta and sauce, etc.
I coupon, and for two adults and a toddler, my weekly grocery bill is $45-$65. That's for five dinners (Sun-Thurs) and breakfast/lunches/snacks. We usually go out to eat/order in on Fridays/Saturdays. I know that's really low and not everyone has the time/interest in couponing, but meal planning (with or without coupons) does save a lot of money.
I plan for the week and shop on Mondays. I first shop my kitchen -- see what meat I have frozen, what kind of things I have in the pantry, and plan my meals around what I already have. I then see what's on sale and what coupon matchups I have. I don't always do this, but if I'm struggling to come up with ideas, I'll aim for one meatless dinner, one pasta dish, one beef, one chicken, and usually a crockpot (again planning around what I currently have). That gives us some variety and focuses the meal planning. I have a spreadsheet of our go-to recipes as well as a few Pinterest boards and draw my inspiration from those.
I am all for simplifying dinners, too, so I'll prepare meat in advance and freeze it. For example, I got a bunch of ground beef this morning because it's on sale. I'm going to make a big batch of meatballs and freeze them. I can use them for Swedish meatballs, pasta/meatballs, and meatball subs. I will throw a whole bag of frozen chicken breasts in the crockpot with some seasoning and a little bit of chicken broth and shred it. I can use that for enchiladas, chicken tortilla/chicken noodle soup, chicken fried rice, casseroles, etc.
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Thanks so much for all the advice, ladies! We are going to make our meal planning day Sunday since that's usually the day we do errands. You guys are awesome.
I made color-coded meal planning schedule options (like who cooks when) that I'm going to show him tonight. I'm pretty sure I'm developing OCD alongside my nesting lol
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I also don't buy new produce or groceries until I am completely out of food. This way, I never follow a recipe but cook based on my what I have on hand and I don't need to throw out any produce that has gone bad (this used to happen a lot to us). We also always have a lot of spices and beans on hand so that easily changes up any meal.
So the point of my post is that I really don't have a plan, I just don't let myself shop until I am completely out of food. Forces me to be more creative in the kitchen.
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induction due to HELLP
We do a pasta only about 1x weekly, and I try not to eat a lot of grains because of my RA (flares it). I grocery shop about 2x a month, and then supplement fresh fruits/veggies/milk/eggs/cheese as needed.
MH doesn't get to bitch and moan about what is for supper if he isn't cooking or grocery shopping. He bitches? I quit cooking.
Baby Chugging born 12.28.13
induction due to HELLP
Baby Chugging born 12.28.13
induction due to HELLP
Baby Chugging born 12.28.13
induction due to HELLP
@ChuggingWater - I know, I'm pretty awesome. He would live like a hoarder if I wasn't here.
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We have a meal plan from a website called emeals.com
You pick your plan (can be chosen specifically with particular diets in mind) and how many you feed, plus where to shop. They send you a weekly menu, with a complete shopping list included. Most plans have you spending less than $100 for 7 days of meals including sides. We love it! They have a whole entire plan based on using a slow cooker. They also have an app that you can access your plan from anywhere. Check it out!
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We do the "bulk cooking" thing, which works well for us, although some people like more flexibility. Basically, one day a month is a cooking day, and most of the entrees for the month get prepped or fully prepared, and then most of it goes in the freezer. We'll defrost a couple options at a time in the fridge, and then have dinner basically ready to go on work nights. Just heat it up and make a quick side or two (salad, steamed veggies, rice, whatever sounds good).
There are websites dedicated to having a full months meals with seasonal ingredients and shopping lists already worked out, and printable recipes and labels. I like https://onceamonthmom.com/?s=dinners Their old stuff is free, the newer menus require a subscription.
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