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"We" are pregnant really bugs me

MissyNWillMissyNWill member
in April 2014 Moms
It's right up there with using the words "preggo" or "preggers". It really annoys me when a woman uses "we" when it's really just something the woman is physically going through. I love my husband and he's very supportive of all the stuff I've gone through this pregnancy, but "we" are not pregnant, I am; "we" haven't had bleeding and cramping, I have. WE are going to both be loving parents and we are in this together, but I am the one who has another human taking up residence in my body :)
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  • JessSSuttonJessSSutton member
    Haha love this! I have become extremely annoyed with any man making any pregnant comments these days... They really can just never totally understand! Sorry honey until this fetus lives somewhere other than inside MY body you can just shut up! Especially when they want to say things about how your body looks fine it's not that big of a deal grrrr
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  • rtv3rtv3 member
    I always just say 'we're having a baby'
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  • WifeofaComposerWifeofaComposer member
    I'm also one who says "We're going to have a baby in April", but I say that "I'm pregnant".


     







     
              
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  • McRogolMcRogol member
    I seriously hate "we are pregnant"!  "WE" are not - its just me over here with all the lovely symptoms.  I also really, really dislike when my father-in-law asks me repeatedly, "How are you feeling?"  If he doesn't know what else to say, we can just sit quietly, don't ask me how I'm feeling every 15 minutes.  
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  • charlyp86charlyp86 member
    Haha it's always bugged me too when people say that
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  • knotty-girlknotty-girl member
    Me too. My DH was making fun of one of his friends for using the "we".
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  • cdominique11cdominique11 member
    No wait until the baby is born. Right after I had my son. His father called all his friends saying that he just had a baby. I looked around like I guess I was there for support.
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  • deidremariadeidremaria member
    aviola329 said:

    This is my mindset for men during pregnancy:

    And that is all! I pulled that once. Lmao
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  • CalinAZCalinAZ member
    Eh...I'm also in the don't really care camp. The whole getting pregnant process was certainlysuch a long, hard joint effort that I feel like DH gets some credit. Not the most accurate way of phrasing it, but people know what you mean. I guess I don't interpret it as literally meaning DH is experiencing pregnancy, just that it's a shared experience.
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  • jsoubeljsoubel member
    I don't allow we-we-we ing this pregnancy.  My husband is supportive of my disdain for it, and corrects other people because he's awesome.

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  • kali55kali55 member
    It doesn't bother me.  While I was in the worst morning sickness DH picked up ALL of the slack.  He literally did everything around the house, including keeping our almost 2 year old happy and worn out (which is a full time job in itself) allowing me to rest as needed.  He does this all without complaining and while working full time at a very physical job.  Going through this pregnancy feels like a team effort so I don't mind if he says "We are pregnant"


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  • Sisimama10Sisimama10 member
    Doesn't bother me at all.
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  • railroadRNrailroadRN member
    It doesn't really bother me. I certainly didn't get pregnant alone, and DH has waited on me hand and foot, supported me, and made other sacrifices during this pregnancy. We're just over the moon about having a baby...I don't feel the need to get stabby over wording.
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  • nicole mackenzienicole mackenzie member
    We're pregnant doesn't bother me at all. I think it's a waste of energy to be so upset by something like this.

    DH is doing a great job catering to me when I feel like crap and taking care of the house, goats, cat and dog. And putting up without sex for a month at a time. He almost never complains.

    We are in this together.
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  • Rogue237Rogue237 member
    We don't say it, but it doesn't really irk me. We just say "we're expecting" or I say "I'm pregnant." Like some of the previous posters have said, my husband has literally done everything for the past 2 months because I've been so nauseous all the time, so if he wanted to say "we're pregnant," I'd let him. He's earned it lol. 
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  • Cbrackall1Cbrackall1 member
    Luckily my husband hasn't said "We're pregnant" because that would annoy me too! But really anything annoys me lately. His mom especially is driving me insane! The other day she told someone that I heard "our baby's heartbeat" which she meant herself in the "our"! It's not HER baby, yes it's her grandchild but she acts as if she is the one having this baby! She also tried taking our ultra sound pictures last night because she needs them for her baby book! I've not even bought anything yet and don't plan to for quite a while. I'm done with my rant now!
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  • jolieemmajolieemma member
    WOW @Cbrackall1...you must have so much more self control than I do. When I was about 6 weeks, my mom showed me an example of month-by-month photos she wanted to take of the baby. Went kinda like this:

    Me: Mom, I think I'm the mama this time, so I'm pretty sure I get to decide what style of photos we do with the baby.
    Mom: Of course you can decide! But it's my grandbaby after all, so you can do your photos and I can do mine!
    Me: ...NO...YOU...CAN'T! *sobbing*
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  • Cbrackall1Cbrackall1 member
    Oh yes she tried to set a schedule up to come over once a week so she could start taking belly pictures! I put my foot down on that one! Hopefully your situation is better!
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  • *sparky**sparky* member
    Cbrackall1 said:
    Luckily my husband hasn't said "We're pregnant" because that would annoy me too! But really anything annoys me lately. His mom especially is driving me insane! The other day she told someone that I heard "our baby's heartbeat" which she meant herself in the "our"! It's not HER baby, yes it's her grandchild but she acts as if she is the one having this baby! She also tried taking our ultra sound pictures last night because she needs them for her baby book! I've not even bought anything yet and don't plan to for quite a while. I'm done with my rant now!
    Wow - that would drive me crazy!!!!

     

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  • LittleLady77LittleLady77 member
    edited October 2013
    I honestly believe both my husband and I are experiencing pregnancy, just in different ways.  We both participated in getting to this place, we both shelled out tons of time and money to get here, his life has totally changed since our IVF.  I have used the term "we are pregnant" once or twice and I don't think it's that big of a deal.  Obviously it's not anatomically correct but I do kind of feel like I would be taking something really important away from him if I went around saying I'm pregnant.

    To each their own. 

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