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Advice for when my MIL passes....

shadysladyWed98470shadysladyWed98470 member
in April 2013 Moms
My dear MIL has been battling cancer for about 4 years, and it seems that she's going downhill rather quickly. The doctors have not given us an info as to how much longer she will hold on....in my mind it could be a few weeks, months, or upwards of a year. Don't know. Has anyone had to cope with losing their MIL? I'm so worried about how to grieve for her and support my husband, all while taking care of LO. I want to help and ask questions about her daily condition but I don't want to be overbearing either. Any advice on how to cope with her loss once it happens? I hate to be thinking about this since she is still alive, I just need to prepare myself so I can support my husband.
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  • arschm02arschm02 member
    No advice but I want you to know you're not alone. We are dealing with Alzheimer's with my FIL. It's hard to know where the balance is. I want to seem concerned and legitimately know how he is doing but I don't want to push or bring it up if people just want a break from the issue. I hate cancer and have seen far too many people in my own family suffer from it. I will pray for your MIL and the rest of your family.
    "As soon as I saw you I knew an adventure was going to happen." ~Winnie the Pooh
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  • JSS1002JSS1002 member
    I don't have any advice,but I"m really sorry.  My MIL isn't well, but she and DH aren't very close.
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  • JordynLeighx3JordynLeighx3 member
    I have no advice :( just thoughts and prayers that you and your family find a way to adjust for during and after.
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  • superTootssuperToots member
    I wonder about that too. FIL is older (about the same age as my grandparents), and had a heart attack a few years ago. It was touch and go for awhile. He's doing better, but in my heart I know it can't be far off. This is one of the sucky parts of being a grown up... even though I still no older than 15 when shit gets real. Hugs.

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  • WooTob12WooTob12 member
    I'm so sorry your family is going through this, it's really tough. About 2 years ago I lost my father to cancer then 6 weeks later my MIL passed away after a massive stroke. Like others have said there is nothing that can prepare you for that moment but the most important thing is just be there for each other. When it all became overwhelming I would take a walk and cry listening to music that reminded me them. Also know that when it comes to such a significant loss everyone grieves in different ways, it may surprise you how your husband reacts so just support whatever he needs (my DH went to his Mom's grave every week for months but I still can't go to my Dad's). Thoughts and prayers for your family

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  • arschm02arschm02 member
    clgsquared said:
    I lost my mom to pancreatic cancer last year.  I was there when she took her last breath and let me tell you.there is no way to prepare for this.  The best thing you can do is just support your husband, be there for him, and follow his lead.  My prayers are for your family. 

    Ugh so sorry! Pancreatic cancer is the WORST. It's taken 4 of my relatives and my dad and uncle were diagnosed 2 years ago with it.
    "As soon as I saw you I knew an adventure was going to happen." ~Winnie the Pooh
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  • ClandestineXClandestineX member
    I just want to tell you that I am sorry for what everyone in your family is going through. I have no personal experience with cancer thankfully, but my husband lost his uncle who was like a dad to brain cancer in 2005. I was told that is when he changed from being a sweet man to just being very mean and reckless with his life. Since meeting me he has become way more nice, but he still has anger issues that I think is because he holds so much emotions in over everything. 

    Just be there and talk with him when he needs you. Please remember that people act differently, especially when a parent dies, so try to be understanding.
     
     
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