Day 5. Memory: What memory do you have of your child that stands out for you the most. It may be a positive or negative memory. When you think of your child what is the first memory that comes to your mind?
My best memory of baby Gary is when we found out he was a boy at our anatomy scan. Gary was convinced it was going to be a girl and when the ultrasound tech told us he jumped out of his seat he was so happy. It still makes me laugh to think of.
Im sharing two memories, because they are both my favorite memory. 1. I absolutely loved when my DH would come over, put his hand on my belly and talk to Elsie. She would literally move up under his hand every time and it melted my heart to see their bond already. 2. We had a trip to England about 28 weeks into the pregnancy. It was a really special time, because we wanted to be able to tell her she traveled there before she was even born. I was not going to do maternity pics or anything, but my mom was like, lets take a pic here! We were at the Cliffs of Dover, and it is one of the only pictures where I actually look pregnant.
"Elsie Irene was born sleeping at 35w 6d on December 8, 2012. Mommy and Daddy miss you sweet girl."
Day 5: Memory I have 3 "favorite" memories with Domenik! 1. When I would drive to work and the song "Ni**as in Paris" played Domenik would swim and and dance inside so much it would make me laugh. I would repeat the song so he wouldn't stop. 2. The day that we found out we were having a boy at our anatomy appt. I wanted a boy since we found out we were pregnant, so when I got the news that it was a boy I screamed "YES!". My fiancé cried! 3. The day I went into labor. It was a surreal feeling. I wanted to wake up from the nightmare the whole time. But it was nice having both our families together, and since I was on a lot of medication I was being silly, making everyone laugh through their tears. And getting all the time I wanted to hold Domenik. I spent most of my time with him smelling him. I never wanted to forget how he smelled. Smells leave a strong imprint in my brain and I can name a person from their scent, Domenik's scent is imprinted in my heart as well!
Day 5: Memory Finding out I was pregnant with Bean was an amazing week. We found out right before Mother's day. We told our immediate family a week later at our Mother's day brunch. The joy and support I felt that day still brings tears to my eyes. My family has been so wonderful through all of our trials and tribulations and being able to share that news with them so amazing.
One of my favorite memories was during one of our many ultrasounds when I finally saw her kick her brother back after he kicked her. I knew then she could take care of herself.
Married 11/23/11, TTC starting 10/12, BFP#1 11/30/12, Adoption of stepson finalized 03/19/13,Loss of our daughter at 20w4d due to incompetent cervix 03/27/13, BFP#2 06/28/13, DS2 born 3/1/14.
One of my favorite memories of the triplets was the moments we found out that our "identicals" we're girls and we were also having a boy! I will never forget Andy's face when the technician told us.
One other highlight would have to be when I started feeling them kick and move -especially the few times I could feel ALL THREE moving.
I very blessed to have these memories, even if there aren't as many as I had hoped.
Day 5 - Memory #captureyourgrief I have so many memories of my Izzie in the short time I had with her. But I loved the times we got to see her at her ultrasounds. The first time I saw her heartbeat, I cried. It made everything real. I treasure my ultrasound pics because they are the only pics I have of her alive.
The day Elizabeth was born, I remember saying how tiny her feet were. I remember her sweet little face, her hands so soft & her feet were the cutest things ever. The best memory is when I was still pregnant, expecting another little drama queen. I always told Nick that the girls will be best of friends,partners in crime. I look back at those days, yes it makes me sad but also happy knowing that I was there when she passed. She was in the comfort her mama,snuggled tight in me, the last thing she heard was my heart beat as she entered heaven. I wouldn't have had it any other way.
Re: capture your grief day 5
I have 3 "favorite" memories with Domenik! 1. When I would drive to work and the song "Ni**as in Paris" played Domenik would swim and and dance inside so much it would make me laugh. I would repeat the song so he wouldn't stop. 2. The day that we found out we were having a boy at our anatomy appt. I wanted a boy since we found out we were pregnant, so when I got the news that it was a boy I screamed "YES!". My fiancé cried! 3. The day I went into labor. It was a surreal feeling. I wanted to wake up from the nightmare the whole time. But it was nice having both our families together, and since I was on a lot of medication I was being silly, making everyone laugh through their tears. And getting all the time I wanted to hold Domenik. I spent most of my time with him smelling him. I never wanted to forget how he smelled. Smells leave a strong imprint in my brain and I can name a person from their scent, Domenik's scent is imprinted in my heart as well!
Finding out I was pregnant with Bean was an amazing week. We found out right before Mother's day. We told our immediate family a week later at our Mother's day brunch. The joy and support I felt that day still brings tears to my eyes. My family has been so wonderful through all of our trials and tribulations and being able to share that news with them so amazing.
One of my favorite memories was when DS would walk up and pat or kiss my tummy and say "hi baby"
One other highlight would have to be when I started feeling them kick and move -especially the few times I could feel ALL THREE moving.
I very blessed to have these memories, even if there aren't as many as I had hoped.
Brooke Elizabeth born Feb 17, 2013 grew wings May 9, 2013 @ 11 weeks & 4 days old from SIDS