Names, names...

jrby · October 2013

I'm 9w1d today, and anxiously awaiting my first appointment in 12 days. While I'm not very far along, I'm a first year teacher and we just moved into our new house in August, so I have lots on my plate. I was looking at some registry things, and my question is on personalized items or putting up baby's name in the nursery. We have two or three girl names, but only one boy name so far. Maybe I'm over thinking this, but how do you know what to name your child? Sure we have ones that we like, but what if he/she is born and doesn't suit the name we already have in the nursery? Would it be strange if we just didn't use a name for anything until baby is born?

MJC1116 · October 2013

For our first, we didn't find out the gender, so we had a list of 3 names for each. Our DD didn't end up "looking" like any of the names we had chosen, so it was back to the drawing board! She was nameless for two days, poor thing!

I think it just depends on the couple. Many are able to determine a name, refer to their baby in the womb by the name, and don't have any issues. Actually most of my friends are this way and had many baby items embroidered prior to baby's arrival. But I don't think it's weird to use the name after the baby is born, either.

WashingtonQueen · October 2013

A lot of people don't choose a name until after the baby is born. Not having personalized stuff is not the end of the world.

You will probably get more answers on the Baby Name board.

Cosmolove · October 2013

My husband and I have been talking about names since before we even got married. So naturally we have a couple strong front runners but actually after reading these forums I've found others I like even more so I'm sure I won't decide for a while yet.

Nel11 · October 2013

I think it depends on the couple... some people decide on a name and stick with it, and others go into the birth with a handful of contenders and go from there. Either way is perfectly fine!

jrby · October 2013

Thanks all of you for your helpful comments, and thanks so much @GhostMonkey for telling me your child wasn't scarred for life from not having personalized items. That's super good to know, because I was way concerned. What I meant was putting up baby's name in letters above the crib, that kind of thing, to feel more like we are really having a baby as our due date gets closer.
What do/did you ladies refer to the baby as if he or she doesn't have a name yet? So far we are just saying baby, but I can see that getting old after seven more months. We had a silly name that we used before we got pregnant to talk about our future baby, but it's a boy name and we don't really want to name our child that.

jrby · October 2013

I'll let you in a secret. You are a rude, hurtful woman. You may call it blunt, call it speaking your mind, call it what you will. When you type things, people cannot tell the inflection or meaning behind your words. People can however, tell what an eye rolling emoticon means. It means you're a bully. No one cares about the name over the crib? Chances are no one cares about 99% of what they read on here, but they reply respectfully to support the person asking the question. If you don't care about what I post, guess what? No one is making you reply. I'm a first time mom who can't yet talk to her family about these things because I want to make sure baby has a strong, healthy heartbeat before sharing such special news. I came to the bump for support from other first time moms or supportive moms, not to be ridiculed and belittled by someone who obviously never heard of the golden rule. In case you weren't aware, this board is for pregnant women, who are already emotional, hormonal, and have enough problems they are dealing with without having to be talked down to by some rude woman. Thanks so much for your comment. Hopefully next time you choose to reply to a post you choose nicer words.

WashingtonQueen · October 2013

@jrby, Nothing GhostMonkey said was rude or hurtful and she was not bullying you at all. You flagged her post as abuse when it does not violate any TOU, that would be called false flagging or "butthurt" flagging. The flag button is not to be used as a dislike button. You can and will be banned for improper use of the flag. That being said, you should probably remove it.

MyNameWasTaken · October 2013

jrby said:
I'll let you in a secret. You are a rude, hurtful woman. You may call it blunt, call it speaking your mind, call it what you will. When you type things, people cannot tell the inflection or meaning behind your words. People can however, tell what an eye rolling emoticon means. It means you're a bully. No one cares about the name over the crib? Chances are no one cares about 99% of what they read on here, but they reply respectfully to support the person asking the question. If you don't care about what I post, guess what? No one is making you reply. I'm a first time mom who can't yet talk to her family about these things because I want to make sure baby has a strong, healthy heartbeat before sharing such special news. I came to the bump for support from other first time moms or supportive moms, not to be ridiculed and belittled by someone who obviously never heard of the golden rule. In case you weren't aware, this board is for pregnant women, who are already emotional, hormonal, and have enough problems they are dealing with without having to be talked down to by some rude woman. Thanks so much for your comment. Hopefully next time you choose to reply to a post you choose nicer words.

So you've never rolled your eyes at someone before? If you have, then by your own definition, you're a bully, and therefore shouldn't be pointing any fingers.

Anyway, GM is right, whether one appreciates her delivery or not. This is not something to get real worked up over. Come up with a nickname til you learn the sex. Don't worry about what name is above the crib til you've got that name set in stone. If you're flip-flopping on names, don't bother with the letters on the wall til after your LO is named.

momthatlifts · October 2013

My mom named me after the the baby who was born right next to her... She shared a delivery room

momthatlifts · October 2013

jrby said:

I'll let you in a secret. You are a rude, hurtful woman. You may call it blunt, call it speaking your mind, call it what you will. When you type things, people cannot tell the inflection or meaning behind your words. People can however, tell what an eye rolling emoticon means. It means you're a bully. No one cares about the name over the crib? Chances are no one cares about 99% of what they read on here, but they reply respectfully to support the person asking the question. If you don't care about what I post, guess what? No one is making you reply. I'm a first time mom who can't yet talk to her family about these things because I want to make sure baby has a strong, healthy heartbeat before sharing such special news. I came to the bump for support from other first time moms or supportive moms, not to be ridiculed and belittled by someone who obviously never heard of the golden rule. In case you weren't aware, this board is for pregnant women, who are already emotional, hormonal, and have enough problems they are dealing with without having to be talked down to by some rude woman. Thanks so much for your comment. Hopefully next time you choose to reply to a post you choose nicer words.

wtf? Where did that come from?!

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