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Deep thoughts for Friday
kaylakim
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So today's FFFC post got me thinking about self-esteem and happiness and all that. Are you happy with your life? Is this where you pictured yourself to be at this age/stage in your life? What is something you wish you could change about your life or that you'd do different? I know most of us won't be size 0 but are you ok with what you are? Is your job/career right now what you thought you'd do with your life? What is your idea career?
I know, lots of questions and food for thought. I'm full of this deep life thoughts crap!
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For the most part I am happy with my life. We have some big changes happening right now which should make our lives better. We are moving in a couple of weeks (Oct 24th) and will be significantly closer to family and friends. Being so far away has been a strain on me emotionally and on us as a couple because there is so much pressure to spend time at one side of the family or the other.
This is pretty much where I pictured myself for this point in my life. I did imagine I would have 2 kids by this point, but I am not complaining.
I wasn't a size 0 before pregnancy and wasn't happy with my body prior to getting pregnant. I now weigh less than I did before, but am looking forward to working on my body and being happy with it.
Since we are moving I don't have a job to go back to next year. I loved my job, so I am sad and scared. I probably won't find another job I enjoyed as much as that one. I don't know what kind of job I will be able to get where we move. The concept of leaving Alex for the day scares me. It's something I will have to work on over the next year.
I don't know what my ideal career would be right now. Probably SAHM.
I'm digging my life. My complaints are so trivial compared to real issues people could have. My DH loves, loves, loves me, the baby and our dog. He calls us the Feisty (me, I'm stubborn), the Furry (our dog) and the Fussy/Funny (baby). I'm great at my job and have been successful. We'll see how I feel when igo back to work. We live in a gorgeous condo and have finances under control. Life is great in your 30s!
Physically, I am not where I want to be, but having two kids so close in age took its toll. I also had sections, so I have just started working out again. I just eat right and try to workout when I can and try not to cheat. I want to lose 20 more lbs, but more important I just want any pair of my old pants to fit again. I refuse to go up a size, so I will be wearing yoga pants till something else fits.
I'm generally extremely happy with my life. My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years and I feel closer to him every day. Our marriage and out children are the greatest joys of my life.
When my mom sued suddenly from cancer 5 years ago, I went through a terrible time with anxiety and depression and felt like there was no end in sight. I knew I should be happy with all of my blessings, but couldn't be. After getting help, I amabke to just enjoy life.
I moved back to my home town during my last year of college when my initially got sick and helped run our family business. After that, DH and I got pregnant. I've stayed home with the kids for 6 years now and I worry that I will never have a career. I have one year left of school and would really like to finish it. I wouldn't trade our life now for anything but I often wonder who I could have been had things been different. KWIM?
As farcas my body, I'm generally pretty happy with it. It certainly isn't perfect and though I weigh the same that I did pre pregnancy, things are different after 3 kids! I am committed to working out and being healthy but I don't stretch over a stretch mark or cellulite. They are just certains things I have to accept
Weight/body wise I need to get lighter for health/pain reasons. I'm not horrified with how I look. I just would like to have clothes shopping not be so difficult. However, it's always been hard even when I was a size 8. Being a DDD up top makes it hard to find clothing that works at size 8.
Now I'm a size 16 (I think?) and size I boob. It's insanity. I'd like to be thinner because its healthy for me, but also because the extra weight is physically kicking my ass.
Emotional/spiritual: I'd like to have more patience. Like, I feel like I spend a lot of time annoyed with simple life shit. I need to be more chill because I think it would help some anxiety issues. Other than that I feel really blessed to have what I have.
Good post.
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I went to school to be a special education teacher... which I've never done. After college I worked at a bank for almost 2 years and then I quit to work for my fiance. I love being able to stay home and I never plan to go back to work again.
Financially we're doing ok, ideally I'd like to be bringing in more money which will hopefully happen eventually. My fiances business has grown 3X the size it was when I met him. We're very blessed in that aspect.
I haven't been to the gym in 2 months, I feel icky. I'm not all the way back to my prepregnancy size and I have a lot of toning to work on. Overall, I'm ok with my body for now but I'll be ready to kick it into high gear here soon in order to be in a swim suit by next summer.
I have a very loving and supportive family and everyone is in good health so I'm a happy girl
I'm not really happy with my body.
I honestly thought that at 28 I would have more children and been married longer, but that's not how life turned out! I got married right before 27 and pregnant my first year of marriage. We talked about having 2-4 kids but now I'm not sure. The fact is, if we want more kids I don't want to wait too long but I can't even imagine doing it all over again right now. I haven't even been cleared to DTD! Ha Irish twins are clearly not in my future.
DH and I are working through some stuff but I love him and he's a great dad. I'm excited to raise DD together! Right now I'm just trying to make it through this current health crisis and see whether or not I need surgery for my ovary. It's been quite a year but I'm so glad to have my awesome baby to snuggle with even if my body is not where I want it to be!
I ran my first marathon a few months before getting pregnant the first time. A good friend of mine ran by my side. It was her first marathon too, and we finished seconds apart. After that I started having kids, and she started doing triathlons. In the past 5 years I have had 3 kids, and she has completed 3 ironman triathlons. We have similar jobs, backgrounds, and the same friends. She still travels (I haven't done much lately), got a masters degree in the evenings, and has advanced in her career more than me. I see her life as the path not taken because that's what I would have done if we wouldn't have had kids. I don't have any regrets, but I sure wish my body looked like hers!
I lost my body. Completely. There is just no coming back from 3 pregnancies and finishing up with twins. But the new mature me is cool. I still dress cute and wear fun shoes and do my make up. Ok, I'm not Heidi klum but I like my style and my hair has never been better!
I do miss work, a lot. But this is my adventure and who knew missing 3 of those little pills that last October would bring around such a 180! Hahaha!!
Life is pretty good right now. I have my wonderful husband that put up with me and is my best friend and now a wonderful little boy. I was never one to think about where I would be at a certain point but I do think about it now.
I'm not working my dream job but I'm a dog groomer and to me, as long as I'm working with animals, I'm happy. My husband has a job that is really looking up and he enjoys it so much. Our location sucks IMO but we're here for the time being.
My weight has always been an issue for me. Being pregnant actually helped that a lot. I didn't have to suck it in - I was pregnant! I was hoping it would continue past birth but it has not. I returned to pre-pregnancy weight within 4 weeks so I am thankful for that. Now I just have to continue loosing. This baby is a great motivator!
Am I upset that DH and I are having financial trouble and I may not get to be a SAHM anymore? VERY. I wish things were different and we will work towards making it different but at least I'm a mom.
Physically, I hate my weight. I'm 5' 2" and a size 16/18 and weigh 197 lbs. Thanks to PCOS, almost all that weight is in my belly. I look 20 weeks pregnant. But I also still think I'm pretty. I like my face and I like my boobs lol.
I love my neighborhood and its location in proximity to the rest of the city. But I hate my house. And I miss Pittsburgh. I really, really miss living in Pittsburgh.
I'm not exactly where I thought I would be at this age, but I'm not horribly far from it either. I see good and bad in a lot of my life so I'm trying really hard to focus on the good.
TTC since Aug 2011. BFP #1 on 10/28/2011 EDD of 07/02/2012 Natural MC on 11/22/2012 BFP #2 on 10/28/2012 EDD of 7/13/13 Judah Ari born on 7/11/13.
I love my rainbow baby!
I'm happy. My husband is kind, loving, funny and hard-working and I love being a mom to two sweet boys. I also find my work rewarding and challenging. We are slowly, but surely, building a community of friends and neighbors in a new-to-us place.
I've always had a ton of ideas for what I could do in this life, and while I'm not unhappy with how things have developed, I do sometimes wonder about the paths not taken. I had a really adventurous streak in my late teens and 20s, and so sometimes I long for the ability to travel around the world or take long hikes in the backcountry - things I did then. I worked really really hard on my career. I feel very lucky to have had the chance to study with great mentors, earn a PhD, get a job in my exact field, and in a few weeks - have my first book published!
I wish we lived closer to family, especially since having kids, and especially as my parents age...but there aren't many jobs in my field or in DH's, and so scoring two in the same town was a real coup...and it will be hard to move from here. I wish I didn't have to work so hard, but the hard work is part of being a good parent and a good worker.
I'd like to get more toned up and exercise more - and I'm working on it. But I also have limited self control on the ice cream/cookie/croissant front, and don't really want to change that! I'd like to be a fit working mom as a good example to my boys and because I feel more confident when I'm in better shape. When they're older, I want to go hiking more with them - I wish I spent more time outside with them than just doing chores and grocery shopping on weekends.
I'd start by figuring out who publishes plays like the ones you've written (maybe look at your old teaching curriculum or homeschooling resources)....they might be your best bets. See if there's anything on their websites about acquisitions...and get a contact name. As to battling the perfectionist tendencies, you could first share with someone you trust for honest feedback to bolster your confidence. I'd give yourself a deadline - send it out by x date, so that you do something with it. And if they reject it, you can still have your kids perform them at Christmas, right?!
I love my job. I just wish we would get more funding so we would all make up to standard with pay in the area. Public schools make a ton more. I could also handle my dh getting a promotion.
I don't hate my body as much this time around. I just want to lose 15 more by thanksgiving for my ten year reunion. I'm trying to do this with no diet and exercise lol. I'm just eating what I did pp and hoping for the best.
ETA: Forgot the size question. I'm not worried about it right now. I was a 2/4 when I was in HS and college, then a 6/8 in my 20s. I'm a 12 now, but I've had 3 children, one of them extremely recently, so I'm content with what my body looks like right now. I hope to lose weight in the future once I have more time for myself. I think because everything else in my life is so good I don't really care about this part.