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bunnybun4bunnybun4 member
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A popular theme on capture your grief today was people's silence and fear to say the wrong thing. I have had several people finally admit to me that they didn't want to make me cry or make me upset. Recently I read this in a book I have been reading called "holding on to hope" by Nancy Guthrie (who lost 2 babies- back to back). This has been helpful to me so I thought I would share: "So many people are afraid to bring up my loss. They don't want to upset me. But my tears are the only way I have to release the deep sorrow I feel. I tell people, "don't worry about crying in front of me, and don't be afraid that you will make me cry! You've touched me in a place that is meaningful to me-and I will never forget your willingness to share in my grief."' This just really stuck with me and now I try to convey it to my friends/family to encourage them to bring Bunny up. Honestly the times I have cried with people are the best memories I have out of the last few months.

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  • bunnybun4bunnybun4 member
    I am on mobile and it ate all of my formatting...the quote is in the middle! Ugh!

    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

    8/12-Suprise BFP- Sweet Bunny Born Sleeping 11/21/12 (19 weeks)

    -5/7/13- MMC (8 Weeks)

    11/6/13- BO discovered at 7 weeks- natural MC 11/25/13

    8/14- Surpise IF dx...low AMH (.24)- moving on to IVF

    IVF #1- 11/14- 6R5M4F=2 perfect frosties

    12/19/14- FET of 2 embabies = BFP!!!  One Little Bean EDD: 9/3/15

    Everyone Welcome.

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  • Bayberry12Bayberry12 member
    Thanks for sharing this. Sometimes it hurts me so much that there are people who have never said anything to me about my daughter's death. And the more time that passes, it's less likely that they ever will.

    Something so simple, like saying I'm sorry, can mean so much. I wish people weren't so afraid of upsetting me.
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  • princezjkprincezjk member
    That quote really resonates, thank you for sharing.  
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  • neptunebljcneptunebljc member
    I totally agree with that quote.  I want people to talk to me about it, I want them to ask, but they don't want to hear it, or are too afraid.  It makes me sad and angry all at the same time. 
    It makes dealing with this grief so much deeper that I feel ashamed to bring Bean up in a conversation because I'm worried I will make everyone uncomfortable.
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